hey and thanks for joining us here it's

like to go today we're going to talk

about gas lighting if you're wondering

what that is we'll explain it in this

video no worries we got you despite how

we may feel early in the morning our

minds are powerful things but you know

what they say about power though with

great power comes this is especially

true when someone wants to control us

and that power is used for nefarious

purposes of manipulation this can range

from passive aggression to the more

dangerous action of gas lighting with

gas lighting an abuser executes several

various actions and behaviors that

manipulate the victim into questioning

everything they feel believe and think

essentially eroding their sanity until

they're at the gas lighters mercy this

is the goal of the abuser control we

understand the sounds wearing so let's

have a look at ten signs it's not you it

might be gas lighting one you don't feel

like you fit in anywhere do you feel

like you're a complete outcast are

somehow hugely different from others

this feeling is being artificially

encouraged by the abuser you're

constantly having normal to find for you

via this outside input further they also

confirm that you don't fit into its

boundary

gasps letters do this so they can

influence what you think about yourself

thus they maintain control do you

question and doubt yourself no matter

how you define yourself having your own

definition or image of who you are

is fundamental it helps us define our

values and beliefs forming the unique

and valuable you unfortunately one of

the gas lighters goals is to shred this

definition through persistent lies like

you're remembering that wrong or you

never did that the persistent

contradiction is so intense that the

victim can begin to doubt things they

know about themselves their memories and

their perceptions if there's someone in

your life who insistently acts like they

know everything about you better than

you do they might be a gas later three

your self-esteem is much lower since

you've been around them have you ever

heard or seen someone say you used to be

so outgoing what happened or even

noticed a marked change in yourself did

this big change seem to occur right

around the time a specific person

entered the scene sounds like a job in

self esteem self esteem is closely

linked to mental health and the National

Alliance of mental illness notes that

having low self esteem can lead to

depression anxiety and even addiction

abusers actually work to lower your

self-esteem beating you down by bringing

up your weaknesses and faults even if

they're not true this continues until

you feel disheartened and believe you

aren't worthy of healthy self-esteem

for you become depressed feeling

unstable with your brain a mess

makes you more susceptible to depression

to add to this terrible situation your

feelings of sadness and hopelessness are

trivialized the gas later will say

things like you're overreacting or

you're just being lazy get up already

this obviously only worsens the

situation I've you're constantly

guilt-tripped you now have an

unfortunate repeat round-trip ticket for

the guilt train

welcome to blame them the abuser will

blame you for several things twisting

the truth and turning arguments around

to dump the fault on you you may have

nothing to do with any of these

accusations the abuser will continue to

persist and insist until you feel guilty

6 your frequently let down by them gas

letters typically don't keep their

promises and their actions don't match

what they say they thrive on keeping

their victims unsure and uncertain

you're constantly asking yourself will

they follow through this time do I need

to make backup plans they see no gain

and consistently keeping their promises

so they don't 7 you are frequently lied

to

beyond being let down outright lies are

all too common from the gas later we

don't normally allow Liars into our

lives we catch the lie draw the line and

set the boundary gas letters don't make

it so easy as their lives are so subtle

in the beginning then they gradually lie

more frequently and make it so common

that the manipulated person can no

longer tell the difference between

fabrication and reality 8 your fears are

used against you like a bogar from the

Potter verse ass letters use your fears

against you this is a control tactic

scaring you into doing what they want

and gasps letter will build on that fear

so it becomes a go-to threat warning

that if you don't change your behaviors

to their specifications you'll end up

alone forever 9 you're isolated from

others if you find yourself wondering

where your close friends went or why

there are now barely acquaintances this

may be from manipulated isolation the

gas lighter excises others to push you

to become more dependent on the only

person left them they'll spread lies and

so distrust and you and everyone around

you making the gas lighter seem to be

the only reliable figure this further

benefits them as your isolation means no

one knows what's going on with you so no

one can help

and ten you question everything

normally curiosity is a good thing

asking questions helps us learn so of

course count on a gas lighter to ruin it

now you're not questioning for

enlightenment or knowledge you're

questioning your sanity and every aspect

of your own reality destroying it in the

process the horrific repeated insistence

that you're crazy or you're making that

up eventually breaks down anything

previously stable without that solid

foundation you start to wonder if all

the terrible things they say are true do

you see anything that rings a bell in

your past or present recognize hints of

any of these points and others let us

know in the comments below being treated

in the ways outlined above is not

positive normal or healthy at all even

though gas lighting can unfortunately

have lasting damage recovery is possible

awareness of key signs is the first step

to protection from manipulation which

can then lead into the healing process

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