to a career in life you'll truly enjoy. And in today's video, I'm gonna get a

little bit more personal and I'm gonna share with you three key steps that have

really helped me to overcome the fear of failure and so this would be really

helpful to you if you're someone who also struggles with fear of failure or

you've recently experienced failure in your life

as a career strategist I've had the honour of being able to help numerous

professionals land their dream job offers and so if this is something that

you're interested in working with me one on one I can give you details about that

at the end of this video now many of us including myself have gotten stuck in

our lives we've had periods where we've felt stuck because of the fact that we

were afraid to do something because we felt that we may not be successful at it

so we had a fear of failure and that's completely understandable but coming

from someone who has experienced failures in my life I now see failure as

something completely different from how many people see it and in order for you

to overcome this fear of failure or even a recent failure that you've experienced

it's really all about shifting your perceptions and your beliefs on what you

consider failure to be so I'm going to share with you three steps on how you

can overcome your fear of failure and become more resilient as a result step

number one recognize that you're putting way too much emphasis on what others

think of you and it needs to stop the truth is people who are afraid of

failure aren't necessarily afraid of the failure itself as much as they're afraid

of what others would think of them if they were to find out that they failed

this is a cold order for you if you happen to be someone who has a big fear

of failure if you are to be truly honest with yourself there's probably an aspect

to your life where you're living your life based on what others expect of you

rather than living your life on your own terms and going after your own ambitious

goals people who are afraid of failure say things like what will people think

of me how will people feel of me how will I feel about myself in return what

are people gonna say about me living your life this way from the outside in

rather than the inside out causes a lot of unnecessary worry uncertainty and

unsettled this within you I know this because I've experienced it firsthand

but once I realized that I was placing way too much emphasis

what other people thought of me I knew that I had to turn it around because at

the end of the day life isn't about just meeting other people's expectations life

is about meeting your own goals your own dreams for what you want and what you

feel is going to make you happiest so stop giving too much power over to other

people in your life and don't even think about the possibilities of what's going

on in their minds step number two to overcoming your fear of failure project

the best-case scenario always if you're afraid of failure it's

partly because you have an amazing imagination you have a great imagination

it's great at imagining the worst-case scenario your imagination is so good

that it is great at being able to see everything that can go wrong in the

worst possible way do you know how many people who have had fears of failures

tell me their worst-case scenarios that are going through their heads it's

insane so if this is you what do you do instead

you do the complete opposite instead of imagining the worst-case scenario I want

you to imagine what is the best possible scenario that could potentially happen

out of all of this what it was that going to look like what is that gonna

feel like the more often that you can visualize and see what the best possible

outcome could be out of any situation the more likely that you're gonna feel

that it is a true possibility for you step number three accept the idea that

failure makes you a more confident person there are two types of confident

people out there there are the confident people who are confident because they've

never failed and so in a sense it's more of a superficial kind of confidence and

then there are the other types of confident people who have failed fairly

often in their lives and because they've gone through these types of experiences

and situations the level of confidence that they have within themselves is much

more grounded they know themselves better because of the experiences and

the failures that they've gone through so now the question for you is which

kind of confident person are you if you're confident are you confident

because you know you are or because you tell yourself that you are when you can

allow yourself to fail what ends up happening through that process is an

unraveling and a discovery of who you actually are inside because you once had

this notion this idea of who you were as an individual someone who never failed

someone who is perfect you wanted to try to maintain that but until you

experienced that failure only do you really discover who you really are

inside if you're not someone who is always perfect then who are you really

and that's what the beauty of failure offers that is the gift in being able to

experience failure you're able to discover who you really are

beyond the failures beyond the successes in that question of being able to ask

yourself so Who am I really is a beautiful beginning for you it's a

beautiful gateway for you to be able to start to understand who you are at a

deeper level beyond your failures beyond your successes and beyond your mind made

perception of yourself so the next time that you have to make a decision or you

have to do something and you're afraid to do it because you are worried about

failing remember that even if you do end up failing even if it doesn't work out

that at the end of the day you're gonna be able to learn a little bit more about

yourself and you're gonna be able to gain a little bit more confidence along

the way so there you have it my three steps on how you can start to overcome

your fear of failure and begin your journey of really getting to know

yourself and gaining self-confidence now if you're someone who is currently

searching for a new position you're wanting to make a career change you've

been looking for a while but it hasn't been successful and you realize that you

need one-on-one professional guidance then feel free to reach out to me head

on over to my website lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired feel free to read

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