It's me, Marie, and I'm recording this in LA.

I'm here with Josh and Kuma and we're hunkering down and staying inside due to the coronavirus

pandemic.

Now, I hope you and your family are well.

I did want to set some context with this interview, though, because when we recorded and sat down

with the incredible Gretchen Rubin, coronavirus wasn't a thing yet, so you won't hear any

mention of the current state of affairs in this conversation.

And, to be honest, my team and I went back and forth on whether or not we should even

release this.

But then I thought to myself: I think we all need a break from the news.

This conversation is incredible and I really hope it will inspire you.

Now, as it relates to the coronavirus pandemic, I want you to know that we created something

incredible for you.

It's actually a coronavirus support guide and it's over at marieforleo.com/blog.

Or you can just google my name, Marie Forleo, and coronavirus support, and you'll find it.

I'm also going live a lot more on Instagram.

I'm @marieforleo and I want to be a source of support and love and inspiration for you

during this time.

So come follow me over there.

Finally, take good care of yourself.

I'll be here for you week after week of new content and connections and don't hesitate

to reach out if there's anything you'd want me to know.

With that, enjoy the episode and I'll see you soon.

Hey, it's Marie Forleo and welcome to another episode of MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast.

Now, if you're interested in a happier life, and let's be honest, who isn't?

My guest today has made it her mission to help us all find the way.

Gretchen Rubin is the author of the blockbuster New York Times bestsellers, The Happiness

Project, Outer Order Inner Calm, The Four Tendencies, and Better Than Before, among

others.

Her books have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide and have been translated into more

than 30 languages.

On her award winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, she discusses happiness and

good habits with her sister Elizabeth Craft.

She's been interviewed by Oprah, walked arm and arm with the Dalai Lama, and been an answer

on Jeopardy.

She lives in New York City with her husband and two daughters.

Gretchen, thank you so much for being here.

I'm so happy to be talking to you again.

Yeah.

This is a long time coming.

Yeah.

So, I want to go back in time.

So, you started your career in law and were actually clerking for Supreme Court Justice

Sandra Day O'Connor when you decided you wanted to be a writer.

And I feel like there's so many people in our audience right now, every different age,

from all parts of the world, who find themselves in a situation like that.

Meaning they want to make a big career change.

So, can you take us back there and talk to us about just what that process was like?

The thinking, the actions, all of it.

Well I went to law school for all the wrong reasons.

I was like, "I'm good at research and writing.

It'll keep my options open.

It's great preparation.

I can always change my mind later."

So, I went to law school, not because I had a passionate desire to be a lawyer, but just

because it felt like a logical thing to do since I didn't know what to do with myself.

And I was very fortunate.

I had a great run in law.

I was editor in chief of the Yale Law Journal, which is the Yale version of the law review.

And I was clerking for Sandra Day O'Connor, which is this amazing opportunity.

And one of the things about me that's still true and was true then is that I will become

really preoccupied with a subject.

I'll get intensely interested in something and just want to spend all my time thinking

about it.

So, I just went through this with color.

I went through it with placebo, like I get very interested in something.

And at this time I was out having a walk one day and I was on the Capitol Hill and I looked

up at the Capitol dome against the sky and I just asked myself this rhetorical question,

"What am I interested in that everybody in the world is interested in?"

And I thought, "Well, power, money, fame, sex."

And it was like, "Power, money, fame, sex."

And I became intensely preoccupied with researching the ideas of power, money, fame, sex.

Which to me seemed very linked.

They still do.

And I was just doing research and I was staying late at work and doing research and if you're

a Supreme Court Justice you can actually check out books from the library of Congress.

So, I would check out books for Justice O'Connor.

My favorite book was Deep in The Heart of Texas, the true story of three Dallas Cowboy

cheerleaders who are sisters.

It's an amazing book about fame.

And I just got more and more interested in it and I was writing and taking notes as I

was going, as I was thinking through the subjects.

And finally it dawned on me, this is the kind of thing somebody would do if they were going

to write a book.

And I had never thought about being a writer myself because I always thought either you

wrote fiction or plays or poetry or you were a journalist or you wrote academic books.

I didn't really think about creative nonfiction, which is what we would call it now.

But it occurred to me, "Well, this could be a book."

And then I thought, "Well, maybe I could write that book."

And then I went to the bookstore and got something called How to Write and Sell Your Nonfiction

Book Proposal.

And I just followed the directions and skip ahead, I got an agent and got a book deal

and that's how I did it.

So for me it wasn't as much leaving something as going towards something.

Just this desire to write this book.

And it wasn't even like, "I want to be a writer."

It was like, "I want to write this book."

Interesting.

Yeah.

You know in Star Wars where the Millennium Falcon is getting pulled in by the tractor

beam and they're like, "We have to go.

We can't resist or it's going to pull us apart."

Yeah.

That's how I felt.

At a certain point I was like, "I would rather fail as a writer than succeed as a lawyer.

I have to give this a shot.

I have to try and either fail or succeed.

But if I get another law job, I'm afraid I won't try.

I won't do it."

And so...

Did you have any inner conflict around leaving law or no?

The pull to write this book was so strong that you were clear for yourself.

I was very clear for myself.

But again, I was married, so my husband was working.

It was a pretty…

And I did feel like if I was ever going to do it, this was the time because it was the

lowest risk time because we were moving from Washington D.C. to New York, I didn't have

a job.

And so it was a great open transition.

And I remember thinking to myself, "What more am I waiting for?"

What sign from the universe am I waiting for it?

If there's ever a time, the university is being like, "Right now."

And I thought if I wait, this moment could pass.

And so at that point I really was like, "This is the time."

But there was a day where, because my husband left law at the same time, he went to into

finance, and we had just been married and we got the letter from the New York Bar Association

asking us to pay our bar fees cause we'd both been admitted to the New York Bar.

It's expensive.

It's a lot of money.

And I remember saying to him, "Oh, are we going to pay our bar fees?"

And he's like, "Why would we pay our bar fees?

No."

And I'm like, "Okay, we're doing this."

Turns out you can go back into the bar if you just pay and like do some courses, but

at the time I felt like it was really...

That was it.

That was it.

And I was like, "Okay, this is happening.

I'm going to do this."

Wow.

So I didn't feel...

You didn't feel conflict.

No.

You just went for it.

I didn't really.

What was the hardest part for you about that transition?

Because obviously as an attorney, you are quite experienced at research and writing.

So, was putting the proposal together and getting that out into the world, did you find

that difficult?

Or because you were trained in some of those aspects, you were like, "Okay, this is just

another way to express myself."

That part wasn't as hard.

The parts where I had trouble with it was where there were no directions.

If I could look up a book and it's like, "This is what a proposal looks like."

I'm like, "Okay, I can do that."

But a lot of it is what are the unspoken assumptions of this career?

And how do people behave?

And there are all these agencies, how do I understand them?

Like for me it was like I knew nothing and I had so many great credentials as a lawyer.

I had many feathers in my cap and this, I didn't have a clip, I didn't have a short

story, I'd never published anything, I had nothing.

So, so part of it was just being nobody in a big world that I didn't understand.

I liked it when it was this is what, like, "Write a sample chapter."

I'm like, "I can write it.

I'll take my shot."

That felt clearer.

It was more <