Name: 確信の神話｜自信を持つ方法 (THE CONFIDENCE MYTH | How To Be More Confident)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T10:38:11.000Z
Duration: 15 min 51 s
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We are back with another self love and self care video.

But I want to talk about confidence and I want to start by saying that confidence is a myth.

It's not acquired by reading motivational quotes from Pinterest or listening to Beyonce's, although the woman can get things out of me.

But my point is that message is like love yourself, be fearless, are everywhere.

And yet no one really talks about the hard work that goes into building the confidence and how it can be achieved.

Confidence is more about the journey, the self discovery, the finding who you are and what you are.

It's not something you can turn on and hold on to forever.

I feel like there's so many little mitts that we have in the back of our minds.

When we see those confident people that we believe in that we're not giving ourselves the room too grow and to go after the confidence, I'm sure that so many of us have met people in our lives that we like.

That person was just born confident and that is not true.

Confidence is something you develop when you put yourself in new situations and a new environment that challenge you and make you face things that show you who you are.

People that lose confidence are not people that just had it from the get go.

It's people that really got out of their comfort zone to challenge themselves.

That put themselves in a situation that made them very fearful and not secure about what they're doing and then made them confront their challenging, believes and push their boundaries even further.

And that really resulted in seeing how much more you can do and how much more you have inside of you and that gave birth to a whole new understanding of who you are.

It's having the courage to jump in, even if you knees are shaking.

So acting in spite of fear is what giving us the opportunity to build that confidence, and I find that women, sometimes we are waiting to be completely ready to jump on certain opportunities.

If it's with work over school with relationships and we're missing out on big opportunities, so you are not confident known is born confidence start working.

The next thing that I feel like we all have in our minds when we're thinking about confidence, is the fact that you can't fake it, and I think that is the wrong perception, and I'm not telling you to fake it till you make it, which obviously we've all heard of.

But I advise you to fake it till you become it.

And that's something that I heard from a catalog by Amy Cuddy.

So little tricks and little things that you can do to take that confidence inside of you are available at all times.

Putting yourself in power poses before meeting before you go somewhere where you not feeling as confident as you should well, really.

Raise those testosterone levels and make you feel more in charge and more powerful.

Putting yourself in that power position will trick your mind into feeling more confident and more ease, and I stressed and will make you ready to go and face that challenge that you have in front of you.

We all know that our minds change our bodies, but this is a study that showed that our bodies change your minds as well.

A few other tricks that I like to kind of adapt at times where I need that little confidence boost is the douchebag jar, but it's not what it is.

So if you guys ever watch new girl, you know that Schmidt have this douchebag jar where every time he says something, do she he puts money in it, so we're kind of spinning it into something more empowering.

This is ajar where you can write little notes of small things that you're proud of yourself for doing small things that you've accomplished small, big.

Doesn't matter that just make you feel good about yourself.

You know, all these wonderful things that you can offer and you've done before.

It can be your boss complimenting you on a presentation or a friend giving you a compliment about something instead of forgetting those small little moments, right, him on a piece of paper, put them in the jar, and whenever you need a little reminder of how amazing you are, you go into the jar, pull out a slip, and here you go, another trick that you can do is positive affirmations, and that's something that can come in so many different shapes and forms.

I like to talk to myself sometimes in the mirror that happened.

You can talk to yourself just with yourself.

You can write things in a journal, just positive thinking that, you know, you kind of manifested put on paper or vocalize would really help in pushing that confidence on yourself.

Also, things that we have to start making ourselves do is accept compliments instead of deflecting them.

That's something that I find so many people.

And there's literally nothing more disappointing that seeing someone that just can't accept a compliment.

It doesn't matter how you feel about yourself.

But if someone tells you something, nice, Accepted said thank you and move on with your day.

Push yourself to accept a compliment instead of vocalizing how you are not worthy of that compliment.

There's nothing that shows insecurities more than that.

The next trick that I like to do is to head over to YouTube.

If I'm feeling insecure, I'll put my favorite song.

I have this, like motivational songs that I hear super random.

They just make me feel good about myself.

If I mean, go watch some Ted talks something.

They were really kind of a waking that spirit of confidence and reassurance of who you are and what you're doing.

The last important shrink that I have is to really change the way you view an opportunity So many of us have.

All these opportunities come our way all the time and a lot of us because of our lack of confidence.

The first thing was, say is Oh, I'm not ready for this.

This way of thinking just keeps you further away from reaching your goals.

Instead of looking at opportunities that way, start looking at opportunities and be the yes man and be the yes woman and say yes to things because you accepted and you learn as you go along.

The most important thing in the most important step, it's putting yourself in those situations where even when you don't feel ready, you go in there.

I can do it That will bring you much closer to your goals and to building that confidence that will show you that you can actually do it.

If you never put yourself into these situations, you'll never be able to go through that journey off building the confidence.

Another false believe that we all have in her mind is in order for us to feel confident would have to be successful.

And that actually works completely the opposite way.

You can't achieve success without starting your journey to confidence.

Everything has to build from the ground up.

So even if you can tap into a little bit of confidence throughout your journey in the beginning, that's really what's gonna keep building that building off success that building off confidence every time you show yourself that you can do more achieve more, you don't need a lot of it to start your journey.

You need just a little bit just that small little belief in yourself to move closer to your goals and to build that confidence.

This idea of being perfect is so debilitating that it doesn't give us the room and the space to make mistakes and to go after what we want and achieve it, and especially for women if you notice.

Men don't feel like they need to be perfect to go for something.

For us women, it's like we have such high standards and idea of what we need to be.