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  • What up! What up! What up! It's Marie here for another Q & A Tuesday! Yeah baby!

  • Okay, so before we even get into a Q & A Tuesday, chick moment! I'm super psyched about these

  • jeans. Check these babies out! Bell bottoms! You see they're like really good butt-huggers

  • but not too good where there's no, like there's no camel toe. There's no...yeah, anyway.

  • Q: Here's the question for today, what is the best way to deal with people who have

  • done us wrong knowingly sometime in the past and the memory and desire to avenge which

  • continues to be a part of our life? Forgiving is not easy. Wishing you all the very best!

  • You're an amazing person and a wonderful teacher. You simply rock! Best regards, Ari.

  • A: Thanks Ari, that's a really great question because it covers a super tough subject, forgiveness.

  • So here's what I have to say on the subject of forgiveness, we all make mistakes. Right?

  • I've made a ton of mistakes in my life that I absolutely feel terrible about, have regretted,

  • have done things to people that I love that I later look back and go, "What the hell was

  • I thinking?" And, I would encourage you to take a look at your own life and see what

  • you've done.

  • I mean, really take a moment here and think about the course of your life and how you

  • may have done things knowingly or unknowingly that have hurt people that you love. In my

  • experience when I've done crappy things, I am begging for forgiveness. I mean, I know

  • I didn't mean them. I 'm wishing. I'm apologizing. I'm doing everything possible in the hopes

  • that the people that I love will find some place in their heart to forgive me. Why? Because

  • I love that. Because I want to be connected. Because I'm human and I sometimes mistakes

  • and I want a second chance.

  • So while it is a very difficult thing to do, in my experience forgiveness is the skills

  • set that allows you to reach your full potential. It's what basically prevents you from putting

  • up that wall. It allows you to live and to love fully with your heart. It's crucial if

  • you want to have an amazing life and the first step is to really kind of take it away from

  • what someone has done to you, and really take a look at your own life.

  • What have you done to other people and what have people forgiven you for and can you have

  • that same level of compassion for whoever it is that you perceive has done you wrong?

  • So the other night, Josh and I went to see a screening of an amazing film called Kinyarwanda.

  • It won a bunch of awards at Sundance and I don't think it has distribution yet. But we'll

  • pop up a little something over here, over here so you can see the website (

  • and this amazing film in the trailer.

  • Anyway, it's about some stories that have been untold about the genocide that happened

  • in Rwanda in 1994. Incredible, incredible movie! Climaxes at the end where there this

  • one young woman, her name is Joan, comes face-to-face with the man who brutally murdered her parents.

  • And, in front of the entire village, she stands up and he stands up, and the elders of the

  • village ask "Joan, will you forgive him?"

  • She is standing there looking at the guy who murdered her parents and you know, the audience

  • like I was on the edge of my seat and I was about to cry. And you know, she paused and

  • she looked within her heart, and she said "yes." And, it was this incredible act of

  • courage and beauty and love, and I just had so much admiration for her even though it's

  • a feature film. It's based on true stories.

  • So it was just incredible to see this outlandishly, gorgeous, courageous act of forgiveness happen

  • in the most horrific situation. So while I don't know what happened in your life and

  • you know, I can't imagine what occurred. My guess that it's not as bad as something like

  • that and if it is or even worse; if one woman could find it in her heart to forgive, maybe

  • you can as well.

  • Okay, so that's all great. We've talked about the philosophy, now let's land the plane.

  • Here are three really practical takeaways to help embed the skill set of forgiveness

  • in your own life. One of the things that I do when I find myself really angry, really

  • upset, really hurt is I ask myself this single question, what would love do? When I reframe

  • my situation and really ask, what would love do, it informs my choices from a much more

  • beautiful, compassionate, amazing place that I want to live from. Super simple! Easy to

  • do!

  • Number two is another question that I find really useful, is what I'm doing or thinking

  • right now going to bring me or those around me happiness? If not, just don't do it! And

  • the third and final thing is a beautiful quote by Buddha and Buddha says, "Holding on to

  • anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else: you

  • are the one who gets burned." Booyah, Buddha!

  • So that was some heavy stuff, you all! Heavy stuff for a Q & A Tuesday but I think it was

  • quite successful! What do you think? If you like it, like it! You can leave a comment

  • below, share it with your friends. And, if you want more great stuff like this, and booyah

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  • to, jump on the newsletter, and that's all we got. I'll see you next time!

  • Thanks as always

  • for watching!

What up! What up! What up! It's Marie here for another Q & A Tuesday! Yeah baby!


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人があなたを間違っているときに何をすべきか (What To Do When People Do You Wrong)

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