Name: 目標設定 (Goal Setting)
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Marie:                     Hey it's Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV,

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the place to be to create a business and life you love, and today, I have got a question

for you. Does goal setting burn you out? Do you ever feel like you're on achievement autopilot

constantly striving for more and never feeling fulfilled? Even if you love goal setting,

you're about to learn a revolutionary new way to set and reach those goals. No stress,

striving or affirmations required. My guest is about to show you how.

Danielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map, a guide to creating goals with soul;

author of the Firestarter Sessions and soon to be publisher of Danielle Magazine launching

this spring. An inspirational speaker, former Think Tank exec and business strategist, her

site daniellelaporte.com has been deemed the best place online for kickass spirituality

and was named one of the top 100 websites for women by Forbes.

Danielle! This is your second time on MarieTV, the first time live because we did all kinds

Danielle:     I got on a plane just for you.

Marie:                     I love you for that. I know you're going to

take us through this incredible process and I am so excited about it, and I have to say

here right now, we're going to talk a lot about The Desire Map. If you do not have this

book, you need to get your hands on it ASAP. We're going to teach you a lot, but it goes

so deep. Just trust me on that one. Before we get into the all the nitty-gritty,

I want to know from you what made you write The Desire Map? How did it come about? Why

Danielle:     I wanted to feel good and I wanted to feel better about what I was going

after and the way I was going after it. All this started on New Years Eve writing some

goals out, watching Ryan Seacrest by the fire. It's like "pay off MasterCard, lose the

baby weight, get to Hawaii," all that, and I looked at my goals completely uninspired

and I thought how do I really want to feel, and then it was like "sexy, affluence, abundant,

earth" all of that, and I could breathe. In that whole process, I looked at how I related

Set a goal, go after the goal fiercely because I'm an ambitious cat and not hit the goal.

Not only not hit the goal, totally bomb so I feel like a loser. Set a goal, go after

the goal, reach the goal but I'm three months late or six months late or three years late.

I got there but I still feel like a loser because I'm late to my goal. Set a goal, go

after a goal, something shinier, and something truly better over here, mid course correction,

I'm going that way. I still feel like a loser because I changed my mind. Set a goal, go

after the goal, not just reach the goal, exceed the goal, out of the park like super success

and I think I still feel like a loser because I should've thought bigger because I was

thinking so small and I should've asked for more. Contentious relationship around

goals and not loving who I was in that striving. That striving for the goal really brought

out what I call Connie; she's my alter ego and I like Jersey but she's a Jersey girl

My inner Jersey girl had to talk to a Buddhist about this and I had a conversation with a

llama and I said "I'm interested in this tension between just accepting what is and

presence, and the striving and attaining and going after stuff. Where is that middle ground?"

He said, "You're always going to have desires. There's always going to be a reaching. You

just have to ask yourself if you're being pushy about it." I was like pushy and I'm

Marie:                     You had that idea come into you and it was like

"pushing, don't want to do that." Was it immediate link up to this concept of desires

Danielle:     Light bulb, I want to feel good, I want to feel better than I feel. Light

bulb, it's not about the goal. I am wanting to feel a certain way when I get there. It's

not about the goal; it's about how you want to feel when you get there. I made a little

post-it note, put it in my Day Timer, and this is eight years in the making, and I would

ask myself "what am I going to do today to feel this way." Then I started asking

myself "what am I going to do this quarter to feel this way," and was like "what

do my yearly goals need to look like to feel the way that I want to feel?" It changed

what I went after, it changed how I went after it, and I felt more the way I wanted to feel.

Marie:                     That's so beautiful and I love one of the things

that you share in The Desire Map and all throughout your work. It's like we have goal setting

and achievement backwards. We have it inside out because if you break any goal down and

you go "why do I want this, what am I really going after," I think it's so genius and

so simple and so profound and how you articulated it is beautiful. It really is about the feeling

and that desire. And so, you've taken in the personal development world, goal setting

has been talked about a zillion times and put it inside out and I mean, people love

this stuff. I love it; I just think its genius.

The Desire Map and the core concept of this is really, what?

Danielle:     It's about what I call your core-desired feelings. I'm going to give

you the steps; we're going to do the reveal now. Step one of this is let's concentrate

on just three areas. In The Desire Map process, there's about five or six areas to look at

in life, but it you're at home doing this and grab a pen, you can write this down, you

can do this in meditation or do this on a walk. Go through lifestyle and livelihood,

go through body and wellness and go through what I call relationships and society, and

do a stream of consciousness about how you want to feel. Just rift and don't hold back.

If you want to feel vitality, if you want to feel energized, if you want to feel connected,

so many people just want to feel connected, if you want to feel spicy, just write spicy

With that no holding back, then you do need to move into that phase of this second step

which is about eliminating what you're not resonating with. It's really about pattern

recognition. You go through that mish mash, that outpouring of feelings and then the intention

is to get that down to three, four, maybe five and this is an art; this is not a science.

If your lucky number is seven and you want have seven core desired feelings, you can

have seven core desired feelings. You're going to narrow it down and what I encourage people

to do in that honing end phase is to stay away from the big audacious words like confidence

Marie:                     How come?

Danielle:     Because it's an epidemic that we have bought into other people's

version and visions of success, and this is one of the reasons that we are disconnected

from our core desired feelings. We are living other people's dreams, we are doing what

we think the Jones' are doing, and guess what? They're not even feeling success. It's

like the ultimate tragedy for tracing chasing other versions of success and they're not

even feeling successful. This goes on lifetimes for people. This is a big, big deal.

Success has a feeling underneath. You might say, "Success is about respect." Go deeper;

what is respect about? Respect is about confidence. Go underneath that. Look up the definitions

of the word; find out the ontology of the word. What's under confidence? Love. One of

And then there's one more refinement I would add to this, which is getting clear on your

core desired feelings is not about you setting up the world to help you feel the way that

Marie:                     I love this. Keep telling me.

Danielle:     This isn't about "I want to feel loved." Of course, you want to feel

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