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  • I.

  • All right?

  • So my first job in Tech was an internship at a Blockchain company.

  • And in true startup fashion interns did everything from writing documentation to getting milk at the grocery store.

  • Um, so these interns had a variety of backgrounds, and about two weeks into my internship, I decided to be social, and I joined some of my colleagues for beers, and I met the previous intern whose job I had taken over.

  • And she was perfect, really, Like an M I T educated engineer.

  • She had some experience in back and development, and she was also just like a really, really nice person.

  • And I was terrified, really.

  • I just kept thinking about like how I couldn't compete with her.

  • And if you're thinking yourself like Carolyn like, why do you need to compete with her like she didn't even work there at the same time?

  • Then you need to understand a little bit about my background.

  • So I come from print journalism, and they're everything feels like a competition.

  • There just aren't enough jobs or bylines out there for everyone.

  • And it doesn't help that almost every journalism student I know thinks that they're going to be like the exception to the rule myself included.

  • But because of this I considered all of my peers competitors, and this escalated to the point that even when some of my closest friends were successful, I was left with this, like, horrible feeling.

  • I was happy for them like sure, but I just felt so inadequate.

  • And if you let it like, this kind of feeling can really eat you alive.

  • So back to my supposed in turn competitors, Well, we did end up being friends, but that was only because she introduced me to this concept called Shine Theory.

  • So Shine Theory is a concept created by Amina to Sew and Ann Friedman, and, according to their website Shine theory dot com, it's defined like this.

  • Shine theory is an investment over the long term in helping someone be their best self and relying on their help in return.

  • It is a conscious decision to bring your full self to friendships and not let insecurity or envy ravage them.

  • Shine theory is a commitment to looking around at the people in your life and asking yourself, Would we be better as collaborators than competitors?

  • And the answer is almost always yes, and when I first heard about this, I was like, No, no way.

  • This is impossible, like there's no possible way that this could happen, Which is an understandable reaction if you've been socialized to think otherwise.

  • But I gave it a shot, and I made the decision to evaluate all of my newfound tech relationships through this lens.

  • And it's wild like how wrong I was before.

  • Turns out that this community can be incredibly kind to you if you let it.

  • And for me, just this small mindset switch really enabled me to establish a group of like, unbelievably supportive people who have, like, seen me through a career change.

  • They support me and take me seriously when I explore new ideas, despite what my CV might say, And, you know, they pushed me into new opportunities like public speaking or organizing a meet up.

  • And while some of these relationships are kind of like a mentor mentee structure, most of them aren't rather, I've learned how to look horizontally and learn from my peers, which wouldn't have impossible with my mindset that I had four years ago.

  • On the other side, I'm slowly learning how to pay it forward.

  • So I'm trying to learn how to find the joy and watching other people achieve their goals and supporting them along their way towards that goal.

  • And it's been a process.

  • But so far, investing and others has turned out to be a really good way to invest in myself.

  • But it can be hard to practice shine theory.

  • I understand that.

  • And even after years of working on it, I still fail.

  • Sometimes, for example, a new junior developer was added to my team about a month ago, and before that, me, as the current least experienced develop around the team, was like immediately freaked out.

  • And I kept asking questions like Okay, but what if she comes in and she's better than me?

  • Or what if she comes in and she's better than me now and like, wouldn't that be really embarrassing?

  • Will I still get a promotion like I spiraled?

  • Really, But now I'm able to recognize those feelings and not let them consume me because I know that they're misleading and even if something does go wrong, I now have a support system to help me through it, and I would have never learned how to do this without the community to teach me that this is even possible.

  • So thank you.

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    林宜悉 に公開 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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