Name: 危機の時に最高の自分になる方法｜スーザン・デイビッド (How to be your best self in times of crisis | Susan David)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T10:09:23.000Z
Duration: 46 min 4 s
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I'm the guy lucky enough to run the head organization eyes.

Thank you so much for taking time to come and be part of this.

This is, you know, we're known for Ted talks.

He we're gonna spend an hour in conversation with some of the world's.

Because this is a moment when we need that wisdom.

More than ever, though, we're facing the pandemic that we were warned about.

Times will remember for the rest of our lives, I suspect, and it's not like, you know, the battle is just the external battle, the battle against the virus, the decisions that are leaders make.

That is probably equally as consequential.

Um, it's a battle that's going on right inside our minds.

I mean, you know, if you're anything like me, you've had heard this real roller coaster of emotions the last few days.

You know, we don't know what what to make of it.

A lot of us and the decisions we make collectively, I think they're gonna be hugely consequential.

There's a chance that we can use this moment to build community, to build bonds with each other, to get to know each other in different ways, to spend time with people who haven't spent time with, to look for the best in each other.

And, ah, another scenario of fear and anger will drive us apart.

I'd like to introduce the question in chief, my wonderful colleague, the Fed's current affairs curator, Whitney Pennington Rogers.

Thanks so much, Chris and hello to everyone joining us all around the world.

Chris will be back later to take part in this conversation.

He will come with some of your questions and so on to our guests.

You know, as Chris mentioned, there's so much happening in the media, so much conversation around the Corona virus, and oftentimes it's focused on the things that our government officials are doing the decisions that they're making.

So what's happening to our lives physically?

What are some of the changes that were experiencing as faras working remotely social distancing, but what often is overlooked is the social and the emotional toll that this is all taking off all of us, which is a really, critically important in a very real part of how we're all experiencing this pandemic.

And so we're really thrilled to be joined today by renowned author and Harvard Medical School psychologist Susan Leave it.

She gave a hugely popular Ted talk about emotional courage and the impact that understanding your emotions can have on your lives on our lives.

And so we're excited to chat with her about how we can approach this as we're experiencing this pandemic in this moment, thank you for inviting into the conversation.

Thank you so much for being here with us today.

Zoo where were again excited to have you.

And I guess, first and foremost how are you doing?

Well, I think like everyone we're doing the best we can, given the circumstances.

My husband is a physician at MGH, and it's really a stock reality when One week you saying, you know, can you pick up groceries?

And the next week you exchanging emergency contact information of something would go wrong.

So, you know, we're all living this reality, and I think trying to find the inner resources to do that in the best way we can is just a profound importance right now.

I'm glad to hear that you're managing and hanging in there.

Your work is is so focused around how we can best prepare ourselves emotionally and psychologically for these moments of change and complexity on and you have this really beautiful saying about life's beauty is inseparable from its fragility.

And how does that apply to the current moment?

Well, I think we all know this internally at some level, that there is this complex, an intimate, beautiful relationship between the beauty of life and the fragility of life We love and then we lose.

Until those jobs are no longer, we might, you know, roller eyes and yell at our kids and awesome to tidy the rooms.

And then one day there's silence Where the child once waas, they're now making their way in the world.

And so There's this complex interplay between the beauty and the fragility of life.

That just is what makes the wholeness off life.

And yet, so often in our narratives in society, we talk about, you know, focusing on success and being positive all the time and gold sitting.

And you know, there's this whole even even our avoidance that we have, really.

I think it a very broad level in society are avoidance of talking about what is the most common future that all of us are common experience that all of us will go through, which is to die.

And yet so much of our society is constructed around preventing avoidance denial off this reality.

And you know, the circumstance that we and now is not something that we asked for.

But life is calling on every single one of us to move into the place of wisdom in ourselves beyond the thinking judgy county, mind into the space, off wisdom and fortitude and solidarity, community courage.

And it's a calling for all of us right now that, I think is just star in mission.

What is in our expert under now reality the fragility of life right now?

And I mean and I think that for a lot of us, we were thinking about how our lives have changed, you know?

And we are approaching this idea of happiness.

So many of the things that at one point I really did bring us a lot of joy being able to go out with friends and socialize and spend physical time with loved ones.

But, you know, I guess in this moment how do you advisor Weird, cultivate happiness and enjoy with everything that's going on.

Well, so just to be clear, firstly, I'm not anti happiness, which you'll understand what I'm saying.

Often again, we have this narrative in society that is about to be happy and be positive.

And, uh, whilst that may sound like it's the right thing and it sounds like that is the thing that we should all be saying, you know, just keep positive or, you know, when people are experiencing cancer, they're told to just be positive or when people are being marginalized or discriminate against, to stop being so angry.

You know, we have in our society this I'm almost judgment that happiness and joy are the most important emotional experiences that we can have end.

On the other hand, there's so called bed or negative emotions are frustration, anxiety, grief, loss, the sadness.

And so what we do is we often become very comfortable with happiness and we become uncomfortable with those difficult emotions and we pushed them aside.

But I think what's still often happens when we try to pursue some idea of well, going out was what made me happy or I can't go coming this weekend and now I can't be happy is what we're doing is we're basically said, establishing the anchor point of happiness around expectations or goals and what we know.

Actually, when we look at the scientific literature is that when we overly strongly focus on happiness is a goal.

We actually become less happy over time, and it is really interesting paradox because it's we almost seeking something as opposed to just living our lives in a way that is compassionate and accepting.

What I would say is that rather than tryingto find happiness, I think now, for all of us is actually a space for us, too, Coming into ourselves to come into our emotions too, not try to brush away the grief or the loneliness of the anxiety, but two rather face into that.

One of those stories that I spoke about in that head talk which has really duck with me My whole life was when I was about five years old.

I became absolutely aware off the fact that I was going to die one day and this is very normal.

Around the edge of five or six years old.

Children become aware of their own mortality, and that became aware of the fact that I was going to die and that my parents weren't going to be around forever.

And I would find my way into my parent's bed at night, you know, squeezing between the two of them.

And I would say to my father and my mother, you promised me that you won't die.

And I was five and I was desperate, and my father was so profoundly beautiful in the way he holds me during those nights, he didn't try to build some false narrative or just be positive.

He didn't try to build some false narrative between me and reality.

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