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  • hi guys welcome back to my channel today I'm shooting from this beautiful rental

  • house we are just in between homes from our

  • old to the new we're still waiting for it to get ready for us

  • and yes I'm shooting from here looks like a good change of scenery I'm not

  • gonna lie so today I decided to do and assumption videos I know that there's so

  • many people out there that have a certain idea of me or things that they

  • assume about me so I thought it would be fun to just post this question on my

  • Instagram stories and to get a bunch of random assumptions and to really choose

  • kind of the best of all of them and to answer and to kind of I guess put the

  • record straight is that who said get put it but you put

  • the record straight you get it straight you set the record straight and set the

  • record straight okay got the questions and I'm just gonna get into it question

  • number one I assume that you have so many ex-boyfriends I would say that I

  • had two previous like serious relationships before Gary the rest was I

  • was kind of dating here and there mostly because the nature of my work I was

  • traveling a lot and I couldn't really maintain a long-term relationships but

  • one the first serious relationship was like a year and then the second was two

  • years and then I met Gary that's it you prefer spending money on designer bags

  • than shoes no I would say that it's even for me there's not a lot of shoes that I

  • feel are kind of staples like I kind of got my staples in my closet and I'm not

  • the kind of person who spends a lot of money on like very trendy shoes like

  • something crazy so yes I would prefer to spend my money on bags because I feel

  • like that's the one accessory that just transforms an outfit for me so I love my

  • collection that I built three you have OCD

  • I actually don't surprisingly unless I do and no one told me but I don't feel

  • like I have no cd for you wouldn't have had another

  • kid if you didn't have as much help around you that is correct I know my

  • limits I do not portray myself to kind of be and you know I do it all by myself

  • and I don't think it's realistic I don't think it should be expected from women I

  • knew that I want to build my career and children are a lot of work a lot of you

  • young girls don't even know like it's so much work and stay-at-home moms are the

  • hardest working people in the world and I just kind of knew what I need and want

  • to make myself happy and I think you have to be very self aware and real

  • having the children it's the easy part it's the raising them and making sure

  • you're not extending yourself financially and just like all these

  • things so there's a lot of things that you have to think about before you bring

  • children to the world okay next question you are shy when you meet someone you

  • don't know I wouldn't say I'm shy I would say that I'm more of a reserved

  • person so something that I don't do is just kind of have emotional diarrhea

  • about my life and who I am and what I do and where I'm going and you it's funny

  • enough there's quite a bit of people that do that I've noticed and I don't

  • know if it's because they want to feel a connection with someone or because they

  • just kind of have no one else to talk to but I don't do that I'm pretty reserved

  • and I kind of keep my distance but I'm very open and very outgoing you fight

  • about your kids upbringing that is incorrect who actually Gary and I are

  • pretty aligned with the way we want to raise our kids I mean we obviously have

  • a lot of discussions about it and we always voice our opinions but we always

  • kind of find I mean we have the same base of morals and values so we always

  • find kind of a solution for whatever kind of issue is in front of us and

  • that's going to keep happening I think that communicating about this is very

  • important because we do want to seem like a very strong front in front of our

  • kids because three boys there's got to be control in this house you used to be

  • insecure growing up yes that is very very correct and I do talk about it

  • a lot and I think why I talk about self-love and and self-care so much is

  • because it's something that you know my journey and with this started not that

  • long ago and you know a lot of people assume that you know you love yourself

  • and you care about your 7 you have this strong like confidence and self-esteem

  • especially if you you know look a certain way and that's not true I think

  • that a lot of us are battling this you know self doubt and insecurities and

  • self-esteem issues and a low self-image and self-respect I think all of us cited

  • in one way or another so that's kind of why it is probably the biggest message

  • that I want to bring to the world through my content so yes I I just know

  • how much I've changed and how many doors I opened for myself once I started

  • really appreciating Who I am and being self aware of Who I am and learning you

  • know about my strengths and weaknesses and it's still a journey by the way I'm

  • still not all the way there you are a messy person I am messy yes I think that

  • it's something that goes really against my Virgo nature I love when things are

  • clean but I just feel like I'm a little bit all over the place am I gonna lie

  • and thank God that Gary is the same because otherwise it would be a really

  • really bad combo no it is a bad combo like there's a it's always messy in our

  • house we're such small children so we kind of put the blame on them you get

  • mad easily I actually don't I feel like I'm pretty

  • like I've learned how to breathe properly and just kind of let it go I'm

  • trying to remind myself in situations where I get really frustrated that you

  • know those are things that don't really matter and they don't worth the energy

  • and my nervous system to go down because of it so I really try to stay as calm as

  • I can and most of the time it works and there are times that it doesn't at all

  • because life tests you every single day but I think that it's something that I'm

  • always kind of trying to be aware of conscious

  • and work on it but I would say that naturally I don't get angry really fast

  • you have never had short hair before I actually have I had a short hair before

  • but it was my mistake it's not something that I wanted so I went to get a haircut

  • and I had really long hair like I have now and I just said that I want

  • something to feel fresher and I guess hairdresser decided but that means let's

  • chop 90% of her hair so I came out with basically like a long bob and I hated it

  • and I felt so weird and I had no personality for like months until my

  • hair started growing back so never again you are pregnant to the know I had a

  • baby four months ago you never thought you would be the successful at this age

  • I think it depends what your definition of success is for me I'm super happy

  • where I'm at at life but I know that there's so much for me to still learn

  • and become I am grateful for all the circumstances and situations that happen

  • to me that just kind of helped me to get where I am but I also know that you know

  • I've worked hard and I'm dedicated and I have a really really good work ethic

  • which I did not come to me easily so I think that I always kind of knew that I

  • am gonna find something of my own and push on it I never really had like an

  • age thing it's not like now when we have social media and we see like these 24

  • year olds there are CEOs and selling companies for 100 millions dollars like

  • I didn't have that comparable for myself growing up so I think that it's much

  • more stressful today for young people because there's so much of this like

  • success around them but for me success is just to really feel good about Who I

  • am what I do and to be excited and happy with what I do and passionate about it

  • so I feel really happy now you were very wild and a partier as a teenager

  • especially during your modeling days yes that is correct I used to party a lot

  • because there was nothing else to do we would go out all the time

  • and you know for a teenager I mean being 1617 in Paris or Japan or wherever

  • there's especially if you're a model I mean there are literally clubs that just

  • you know you don't have to pay to get people or drinks or dinner or anything

  • like that because they want to attract models to their club so we were totally

  • taking advantage of it I have some amazing memories of just girls that were

  • my roommates throughout the years in different countries and we would like

  • party all the time I was over it pretty early in my life you're lactose

  • intolerant no not correct no I'm not actually I

  • think it's because in the Russian culture we are so used to so much dairy

  • in everything so I am NOT your relationship with your mother wasn't

  • always as good as it is now I think that's something that my mom did that

  • was so helpful for both of us was she was never really babying me she never

  • really portrayed the world like perfect you know good place always she was very

  • real and honest with me which I think was very good at times it was a little

  • much because at times as a single mother I think that you know you become kind of

  • a best friend with your child especially in my teen years you know we were she

  • was going through divorce and things like that so I think that that was a

  • little tough for me at times cuz I just wanted her to be my mom and not treat me

  • as her friend and tell me all these things because those are like work

  • grown-up heavy stuff but I also know that I was the closest thing to her and

  • she needed someone at that time so I would say that at that time when I was

  • about 16 and she moved to Canada and I was kind of doing my own thing living on

  • my own I got a little more disconnected from her she never did she was always

  • super invested she would call me 15 times a day but for me I was kind of

  • like going through a time where I needed to figure out who I am and you know as a

  • person as an individual so I kind of disconnected myself and because she was

  • physically she was so far away it was very easy for me to kind of separate

  • from kind of that my family so I did that and I do that

  • for about two three years and then I had enough of it and I figured out who I am

  • on my own you know without having my mother and father tell me who I am so

  • then when I moved to Canada we kind of got reconnected and became really close

  • and I mean now that I am a mother and I have kids of my own

  • we're beyond close because not only do I understand all the sacrifice and

  • everything that she went through but it's just I am a grown-up now so I get

  • it and now we were like best best friends and she could tell me anything

  • because I'm a grown-up kid and I get it you spend one hour a day putting on and

  • removing makeup no I think that it takes me about 15 to 20 minutes to put on

  • makeup and I would say maybe 15 minutes to take it off and that's what my

  • skincare routine I'm really quick you have to be quick when you have kids

  • because you have no time you never get depressed this is something really

  • interesting I feel like I've never really been like it was never this big

  • issue in my life I never battled like serious depression or anxiety like a lot

  • of other people do that I'm really happy that today mental health and mental

  • issues you know it's encouraged to talk about it and to ask for help I think

  • it's so important I never really went through a phase where I got to a point

  • where really just needed help a lot of the kind of down times that I was going

  • through in my life were you know when my parents got divorced or when I was

  • really lonely in the beginning and working and just like throughout ten

  • years I mean hormonal II were all over the place but I always kind of found an

  • outlet if it's to writing or you know socializing or talking to my friends but

  • yeah I can say that I have these like really really dark times in my mind that

  • I remember next question you have daddy issues / you want to have a strong

  • relationship with your biological father so the first part of the question you

  • have daddy issues I I'm sure I do because that's something

  • that was always kind of weird and unstable in my life although I have a

  • stepfather that was with me from the age of five to 16 and he was you know a real

  • father but yeah I think that I'm slowly as you know life goes on I'm slowly kind

  • of reaching deeper and deeper and touching those issues that I have and a

  • lot of those issues were kind of solved when I met my biological father do I

  • want to have relationship with him no because I don't know that person I mean

  • he's my biological father but I they got divorced when I was 2 months there was

  • really nothing it was really nice to see all these similarities and mannerism and

  • like physically that we look alike but I don't have like a hole that I need to

  • fill in my life so that's the reason why I kind of didn't pursue maintaining that

  • relationship regarding the daddy issues that's something that you know I'm still

  • working on it I'm sure I have it maybe that's why I married an older man as

  • well like I just you know that protection and that maybe I lagged

  • growing up having like a man figure in my life I don't know it's it's a heavy

  • subject there's a lot of things that I feel like small nuances that I recognize

  • you never feel and secure about your appearance that's not true at all I

  • think that every woman for some reason we are kind of programmed to feel always

  • insecure about something I think that it's you know this comparison thing that

  • we do to ourselves especially now with social media I'm working on it and I'm

  • getting much much better I like I got so much better than I was even five years

  • ago I'm like on a different level now I just I feel more comfortable in my skin

  • I you know I just I like myself more and I think it shows and I'm not trying to

  • be someone that I'm not so I think that really helped me to just be more

  • confident and secure and the way I looked and the way I act you have a

  • favorite kid no that's like the biggest nono question to ask a parent there is

  • no a favorite kid no happen you had to grow up really quickly

  • yes definitely I had to grow up really quickly because I left the house really

  • young and I started working young and I kind of just started the grown-up life

  • much much younger so it really accelerated the whole process for me and

  • I was just telling like we we had dinner with the girls from Valera and the other

  • night and I was just telling them like I never had a teenage experience really I

  • mean I left high school I was 15 like the traditional structure of high school

  • was still at the finished high school but I was doing it on a program that

  • where I study by myself and I just show up for exams so I never really had that

  • experience if it's socially or any of like prom like any of those events it

  • never really happened to me so yeah definitely had to grow up pretty fast

  • but I think it's also something that I chose for myself I mean I decided to

  • pursue the modeling career and I decided to start traveling and living in

  • different countries and cities in the world and no one made me I just knew

  • that you know that's kind of my journey and I chose that journeys you don't

  • spend that much time with Maximus it's funny because I saw like maybe one or

  • two comments throughout the videos on YouTube about like the fact that I don't

  • spend time with Maximus so I mean I have to be really honest as any mother of

  • more than one child with every child especially when the other ones are a

  • little older and require more like attention mentally you yes the third

  • child basically kind of raises itself I definitely don't spend as much time

  • with Maximus as I spent with Jake because it was just Jake and I but I'm

  • trying my best I mean I'm trying to be as present as I

  • can I think for Maximus and I we spend a lot of time together at night I put him

  • to sleep I'll give him a bath or you know at night when you accept to eat

  • I'll feed him but yeah during the day I'm either with the boys with their

  • activities or I'm working but I'm trying to like remind myself how fast the baby

  • stage goes and that I need to be more present

  • and I mean yes you always have that guilt and you try to do your best and I

  • try to do my best you didn't want kids before you met Gary before I'm not Gary

  • I never even thought about kids like I was really young I was at a different

  • stage in my life I didn't even think about kids you never thought you would

  • have this much support from your fans I have to say my social media community

  • like my online community just makes me believe that there's so much goodness in

  • the world and there's so many amazing beautiful minds out there and I think

  • that's the best gift that it gave me because you know we can get so cynical

  • about life reading the news or just like meeting bad apples on our way in life

  • and I think that just being exposed to these intelligent strong awesome women

  • that have similar interests like mine it's really really great and I'm super

  • super thankful for that and on days where I just feel like I just can't do

  • it anymore that's what keeps me going you were popular in high school

  • definitely not popular I don't even think people knew I went to high school

  • with them I don't even know if I was in a yearbook

  • I was so invisible you guys I had like one or two friends and I was just like

  • sitting in the corner with them listening to like emo music yeah that

  • was it no one really knew who I was or what I was about really so I was not

  • popular in high school you don't see Gary that much and that leads to you two

  • not being as in love as you show it I actually see Gary a lot especially now

  • where you know he's very involved at valeri Inc and we work together all the

  • time I love spending time with him it's definitely a different dynamic when you

  • work together I love it I really love it I feel like we just communicate so much

  • better and I learned so much from him we have all these like visions and ideas of

  • how we want to do everything and to build our lives and it's awesome that we

  • can both do it and work towards that goal so I can definitely say that I love

  • him now then I love them when we got married

  • I think that with life you know having our children and going through

  • difficulties as a couple you just learn to appreciate your partner so much more

  • and that love is just so much more deeper and so much more substantial so I

  • really really love him you never eat junk food that's not correct

  • I love junk food and I definitely eat it especially with small kids that just

  • there's always french fry somewhere I'm not sure why but I do try to balance it

  • with having green smoothies and with taking my supplements and you know being

  • conscious of making better choices you never swear I love swearing

  • I love swearing so much and Gary is like hates when I swear and I feel like it's

  • also so out of character for me but I don't know I love it but I don't anymore

  • because Gary doesn't like it and there's kids around so I mean I don't want my

  • kids to tell at school how mommy talks you sleep in a glass tube to prevent

  • aging how did you guys know are you spying on me no for real what's a glass

  • tube and where do I buy it you hate getting comments about you and your

  • husband's age difference um I think that I expected it's already like it doesn't

  • really bother me anymore I feel like it will always be you know this juicy thing

  • to talk about and I'm cool with it that's cool so if people ask me or you

  • know and I have legit like people that DM me about it just really want to know

  • like how is it and and I'm super open about it and you know though I don't

  • mind anymore you regret your nose job um I don't know if I regret it I think that

  • as I mentioned in my no joke video in case you guys didn't watch I'll put it

  • here as I mentioned in the video I don't know if I would have done it again

  • knowing what I know today or just you know knowing that it would have fixed my

  • issues that I had with myself but I wouldn't say like I regret it when you

  • first met Gary you knew he was the one when I first met Gary I didn't I don't

  • actually remember him much because I when I met him it was when I just

  • arrived to Canada so that was the first time I met him but I would say that I

  • knew he was the one probably like the third or fourth time we met you wished

  • you had a girl honestly I love being a boy's mom I'm obsessed with my boys and

  • if we decide to have more kids and they're all gonna be boys I'll be super

  • happy it would be nice to have a girl but I mean as long as I have healthy

  • happy children I'm I have no complaints Gary is your first love yes definitely

  • Gary is definitely my first love because what I thought was love before was very

  • different than what I think what love is now so yes Gary is my first love you

  • love public speaking' and you're super confident is this a joke I hate public

  • speaking and I'm so so not confident and it scares the hell out of me

  • and I just also had you know actually I think like a week or two weeks ago I had

  • an opportunity to speak in front of audience of just like business students

  • and it was so terrible and so embarrassing and I completely failed at

  • whatever I was supposed to do but I'm happy that it happened because it not

  • only that you know the worst thing that I thought can happen happen and I

  • survived and life goes on so that's number one

  • I think that sometimes we you know lose perspective about things so not only did

  • it remind me that of that but it also showed me that you know this is

  • something you need to really really work on and to improve because doesn't come

  • naturally to you so get to work I think that because I put kind of all my

  • intentions and thought about that because I really want to get better at

  • it I have these opportunities coming my way and there's actually a big

  • conference that's happening in March which is basically about women and

  • leadership and it's also from a university and there's gonna be lots of

  • people and they want me to be one of the speakers for 45 minutes I am freaking

  • out I'm so scared I can't even tell you I'm so scared but I'm gonna use my work

  • ethic and my dedication really hard on this one and I'm gonna try to be really

  • prepared and just do my best and I'll probably have to take a little shot

  • before I go onstage I'm so scared I can't even talk about it

  • oh my god I assume you are a workaholic yes I think so

  • I think that I do really really love what I do and I love my work and I feel

  • so happy to have this and thank God that I have my kids because I think they're

  • the ones you're bringing that balance into my life they kind of remind me

  • sometimes to pull back and to you know put work aside and just focus on this

  • and I love working you're just not working when you do something that you

  • love it's that simple there's like the saying if do what you love and you won't

  • have to work a day in your life the right you never been dumped oh I have I

  • ever been dumped here I definitely I think I had like two guides that broke

  • my heart I mean it wasn't like this dramatic thing but they dumped me and

  • one was completely like just ignored my existence so it happens you're not a

  • person who deals with daily anxiety so actually funny enough that kind of

  • brings me back to how there was the assumption about depression and I

  • mentioned that I never like growing up I never dealt with I need this you know

  • deep heavy depression or anxiety but I have to say that I feel like there is

  • definitely more anxiety present in my life now I think it's just because

  • there's so many things going on and I just get really really overwhelmed

  • sometimes and I think that's why a lot of people today deal with anxiety the

  • world is so much faster there's so much more information there's so many things

  • coming your ways yes I definitely I can easily say that there are moments of an

  • xiety throughout my day almost every single day but for me I just learned to

  • first of all kind of backtrack and focus at the one thing that I need to do right

  • now and not think about the rest of the things and just kind of take it one task

  • at a time and not overwhelm myself definitely something that I'm still

  • training myself to do and that's it Gary is your sugar daddy okay what's the

  • definition of sugar daddy I need to know sugar daddy definition a rich older man

  • who lavish his gifts on a young woman and returned for a company or sexual

  • favors so no he is not a sugar daddy because we are married he doesn't need

  • to buy me gifts to have my company or sexual favors but yes I mean it's not

  • what yes I mean it's not a secret gary is older than me and he was well-off

  • when I met him but you can't build a life based on that I don't think people

  • realize it but marriage and kids I mean it takes to be with someone and to you

  • know kind of decide to build a life for that person takes a whole lot more than

  • just gifts to do it but yeah I'm definitely feel like a lot of people

  • assume that you never get drunk I actually honestly now after having

  • babies and my tolerance is basically non-existent I one glass of wine and I'm

  • like you haven't spent a day in prison no I have not that's correct no prison

  • for me you actually have a fourth son called Luigi yes that is correct I do we

  • adopt at him two weeks ago when Jake no no Jake when Benjamin just wouldn't let

  • go of this whole Luigi part of the family thanks but to you all is more

  • I'm Mario's mom so yeah we're just part of a family now you compare yourself a

  • lot to others that's definitely something that I stopped doing and super

  • happy about that I used to do it a lot it consumed so much of me and yeah I I

  • slowly kind of let it go and started working on it and I can really say that

  • I'm gonna in a place where I don't really compare myself to others I don't

  • think that I would say that I'm completely never do it anymore I think

  • that you still do and it's natural sometimes it's even a good thing to do

  • like a good exercise to motivate yourself you know and to kind of pump

  • you up to get you going on something that you want to achieve so I still do

  • that but I try to not do it where you know it becomes a connective thing that

  • makes me feel bad about myself or that I'm not good enough or pretty enough for

  • this enough that's definitely the self-sabotage thing that I stopped doing

  • you struggled with an eating disorder / were anorexic no I never had an eating

  • disorder or I were having an Iraq SIA never had that I was always naturally

  • skinny and petite in general so I was skinny and my mom always tried to over

  • feed me because I was so small but I never had like specifically eating

  • disorders problem if you had a daughter you would be more strict with her than

  • your sons I don't think so I think that in general the way I view you know

  • raising kids is that yes they do need discipline and they need order but I

  • also love giving them the space of expressing themselves and figuring out

  • their voice I would do the same if I had a girl for sure you wish Gary wasn't

  • bald actually I saw a picture of Gary with hair maybe we can attach one here

  • and I did not like it and I straight-up told him if I would have Matthew with

  • hair I would have never liked this this would have never happened so yay for

  • baldness a couple last questions so you are not a jealous life that is correct I

  • think that I'm not a jealous wife because

  • No my husband like I know Gary and I know that he is the most respectful and

  • honest person and I just know that I have no reason to worry at all if I ever

  • felt like I had a reason to worry I probably wouldn't marry him because I

  • don't want to spend my energy and you know thinking about these crazy things

  • in my head like I rather build my Empire and last question I assume you don't

  • cook at all funny assumption um I used to cook a lot especially after nutrition

  • school I was also not really working so I had time to kind of experiment in the

  • kitchen the kitchen was never like my thing like I never loved cooking it was

  • never a thing for me my mom on the other hand is amazing you can literally have

  • potato and an egg and she'll like create the most amazing gourmet meal ever

  • I so don't have that I like cooking sometimes it depends on my mood

  • but honestly I just not my thing it's really not like it's really important

  • for people to know what they're good at and just concentrate on it and cooking

  • is just not it and I'm super happy that we live at a time where there's

  • companies like I actually that's what we have at home we have this meal delivery

  • company where they I choose the recipes and then they send you all the

  • ingredients and the recipe and then you make it so it's all fresh it's made at

  • home but I don't need to come up with the recipes and I don't need to think

  • about how to make them everything is pretty like straightforward so that's

  • how I roll in this house and that's it these are all the assumptions that you

  • guys send our way and the ones that we thought would be interesting to share

  • with you I hope that answered or cleared some of them and they'd said you guys

  • thank you so much for watching and if you have any other assumptions you let

  • me know I'm here on YouTube answering your questions hit me up in the comment

  • section love you guys and have an amazing day

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