Name: 何がいじめっ子を作るのか？ (What makes a bully?)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T08:37:09.000Z
Duration: 3 min 12 s
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How does a child develop a pattern of bullying others,

様態の副詞

of using their power aggressively, to control and distress others?

Well, it can come from many,  many different sources.

The child can be genetically pre-disposed to that.

There are some genes that we  know lead to aggressive behaviour,

but those genes don't express  themselves if the child is raised

The child can learn by observation, so the things that happen at home

really make a difference. And the child can learn in the peer group

because, often, other children stand around and give encouragement to

those who bully. So, what about the home?

I think this is the hardest thing for each of us to think about.

As parents, we have a huge role in shaping a child's development.

And that means we have to think, every moment of every day, about

what it is that we're doing, and what it is that we're teaching by our behaviour.

Now, I'd love to tell you that  I never bullied my three children.

I got home, after a really hard day at work, and they were screaming

and hungry, especially when they were little, and sometimes I'd lose

my temper, and I'd yell at them. I didn't mean to, but I did it, and

then I would look at their faces and see how frightened they were.

They were very frightened  because I'd used my power

aggressively to control them, and it distressed them. So, what I had

to do was I had to repair, and that's probably one of the most important

things we can do as parents, is tell  children you're sorry, tell children you

made a mistake, and that it's not good to use power aggressively

For children, it's as if we're on the stage and they're in the audience

all the time. They watch what  we do, they watch how we speak,

they watch how we interact with  other adults and with them, and

that's part of the biggest learning in their lives.

So, we have to be aware of what  we're doing and how we're doing it,

because if we're not, if we're using  power aggressively, if we're fighting,

if we're yelling, that's just  what children are going to learn.