You are with me; Niharika and what are we going to learn in today's session? Well, we

are going to look at certain phrases that you need to drop out of your vocabulary right

now. Well, I call them as career killers. You know there are certain phrases that smart

people do not use because you never know how people would interpret them. So it's important

for you to use the same phrases, however in other ways and that's what I'm going to

help you with in today's session. So which are these career killers that you need to

drop out of your vocabulary, well let's have a look.

Well the first phrase that you are not supposed to use in the business world is, it's not

fair. Well of course life is not fair. Well we do want our life to be just perfect, but

that's not reality. Life is never fair but you can't really use this phrase in front

of people because when you end up using that hey life is not fair in front of people in

the business world, well people would think that you are absolutely immature or naive.

It's important for you to stay constructive and confused. For example, well there was

this really important project that you wanted to work on, but your boss assigned it to one

of your colleagues. Now you are really upset about it. So what do you do? You walk up to

your boss and you end up saying, hey that's not fair. Well no. you are not going to do

that. You are not a little kid to do that. Well what you are going to do is, you are

going to go up to your boss and you are going to ask for a feedback. You are going to say

that, hey I was really looking forward for this project and I was really wanting to work

on it but you assigned to John so what's the reason like is there anything that I need

to improve on? Well that's how you put it. So stop using the phrase, that's not fair.

The next phrase that you need to stay away from, is this is how it works always. Well

are you really very lazy? You need to stop using that phrase. Now, if you end up telling

people, your boss, your colleagues or your clients that hey this is how it works always.

Well it shows that you are way too lazy and you don't want to improve on things. For example

technology, like even technology, a six month old process seems to be very outdated, right?

So why not the pattern of your work? It has to change, you need to bring in changes to

improve on something. So the next time someone comes to you and wants things in a different

way, you are not supposed to say that , hey this is how it works always. Well you need

to work on yourself, you need to bring in new things in order to improve your work.

So stop using that kind of a phrase.

Another commonly used phrase which is sure shot a career killer is, I'm going to ask

you a very silly question. Well no question is silly, no question is stupid. Many people

tend to do that. I know this is a very silly or a very stupid question. Well this means

that you are not confident about yourself. Well do not judge yourself, do not be your

worst critic. You need to come out confidently. If you have a question, if you have any kind

of information or any idea that you would like to share with your team members, with

your clients or with your boss, just go ahead. Be confident about it. By saying that, hey

this is a very silly idea or by saying that this is a very stupid question, well that's

it, people are not going to trust you. It just shows that you are not confident about

yourself. So just ne confident and go ahead ask your question or share your ideas.

The next common phrase that people use is, that he is such a jerk, he is absolutely incompetent.

He is so lazy. Well you need to stop doing that. You cannot really go ahead and start

announcing or form opinions about others. By doing so, it just shows that how insecure

you are about yourself. Now if you don't have the power to improve them or if you don't

have the power to fire them, then what's the point of announcing or broadcasting them as

lazy, incompetent or jerks. That's not going to help you, right? So, it's important for

you to just understand that yes there are times that we do live with difficult people,

we do work with lazy, incompetent jerks. But there's no point by announcing them as one

of these lazy, jerk people. Just stay confident, just focus on your work and you would be successful.

The next phrase that people end up using which I consider to be the great career killer is,

that it's not my fault. Yes there are people who love to play the blame game. It's not

my fault, it's coz of him. It's because of her that this just went wrong. Well stop doing

that, it just shows that you lack accountability. There are people who are going to build this

negative image about you, you start pointing out fingers. People are going to really avoid

working with you. So if you want to be a great team player, it's important for you to take

the accountability. If it is your fault have the courage to admit it. If it is someone

else's fault well let your boss or your colleague figure that out. You don't have to be the

one to point out fingers and by saying that hey it's not my fault. Just quit doing that

and trust me that it is going to work in your favor.

The most important phrase that you need to drop from your vocabulary is, I hate, I hate,

I hate. So what do you hate? Well yes there are people around you, who end up using this

phrase way too much. They love to crib and complain about everything. I hate my boss,

I hate my job, I'm so stressed. I hate my colleagues, I hate everything. Yes, if you

hate your life or your job or your boss so much, it's time to quit. Stop spoiling the

work environment. There are people around you who want to feel motivated and encouraged.

Now is you end up being so negative, you are spoiling the work environment. Nobody is going

to really enjoy working with you and like I said, if you hate so many things about your

job, about your work, about your life, then try to work on things that would improve your

life. Try to do something that you would really want to and like to. So stop using the phrase,

I hate, I hate, I hate.

So this brings me to the end of this session today. It's time for you to eliminate these

phrases if you are using them because this will make you into a complete negative person.

So please do eliminate these phrase from your vocabulary because they are definitely not

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