字幕表 動画を再生する 英語字幕をプリント [MUSIC PLAYING] [APPLAUSE] ANDREW HORN: Hey, Google. Can you guys hear me? AUDIENCE: Yeah. ANDREW HORN: We're on. Rock and roll. Hi, guys. Welcome. Awesome. So as you can see, we're here to talk about human connection in the digital age. Thank you guys for taking the time to be here. So I want to start by thanking you all, because being at Google, I know that you could be getting a massage for free, lunch for free, haircut for free. A lot of other things, but you're here with me, and that makes me happy. And so what I want to promise you before we dig in today is that we're not just going to talk about human connection. We're actually going to talk about how to connect in a digital age. And so my goal is that you guys walk out of here with tangible techniques that you can use to connect with the people you want and the people that you want to know. How's that sound? AUDIENCE: Good. AUDIENCE: Great. ANDREW HORN: Rock and roll. So you guys, before we dig in, this talk is going to be broken up into three specific sections. So stories about how I was able to take this deep yearning for connections, curiosity about relationships, turn it into this business that has helped 100,000 people to give what we think is the most meaningful gift in the world. We're going to talk about stats. How do strong social ties and relationships affect our brains and affect our bodies? And we're going to talk about tangible takeaways. So how we can actually communicate to connect. So those are those three components. And before we start, it's always nice to actually establish, what is human connection? And my favorite definition is this one by Brene Brown. "I define connection as energy that exists between people when they feel seen, and heard, and valued; and when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive strength and sustenance from the relationship." A beautiful articulation of that energy that exists between two people when we feel connected. And at Tribute, we've actually broken that down even further. So we've created a construct that can allow people to evaluate the depth of their relationships, that which they have an abundance of, that which they're really seeking. And we call that AVS. So AVS is a mutual feeling of A, appreciation, mutual recognition of the other person. Do you see that person? Do you appreciate who they are? Needs to exist for human connection. Second, vulnerability. Can I be honest with this person? Can I be truthful with this person? Can I be fully myself with this person? Vulnerability is the bridge to connection. Next is support, and support's a beautiful thing. And the way you think about it in human connection is a natural call to support and be supported. And so these are the three components that we can break down when human connection truly exists. An easy way to evaluate your friendships, as well as those new relationships that you're adding depth to. That's our definition of human connection. So we all know that human connection is important to experience, to have fun, to magnify joy. But I also want to introduce you to why we should really care about our social ties, our relationships. And to do that, I'm going to introduce you to a guy named Dr. Robert Waldinger. So Dr. Waldinger did the longest study on happiness in our history. It's a 75-year longitudinal study of 750 people. When they released his research, he gave this famous TED Talk. And also, as I was perusing through the results of that research, there was one statement that they literally highlighted and bolded to emphasize its importance. And that statement was this. "The clearest message we got from this study is that good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period. Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period." So from this research, we can assume that strong social ties, investing in our relationships, is probably the smartest investment we can make in our overall happiness. But it goes beyond just happiness. What about our health? What about our brains? What about our bodies? So recent research also shows, people who have strong social ties, the medical term to connotate relationships, have longer lives, stronger immune systems, literally higher levels of white blood cells to fight off disease, lower levels of stress and anxiety, and they're less likely to dive into bad habits like smoking or drinking. An alarming study I recently ran into said this. Having weak social ties is as harmful to ongoing health as being an alcoholic and twice as harmful as obesity." So again, when we have weak social ties, it's not just a detriment to our happiness. It's a detriment to our health and our mental well-being. So it's something that we need to care about. And so now I want to tell you guys a little bit about how I got into this line of work, how I was able to study human connection, start businesses that are bolstering relationships and gratitude in the world, and started when I was 10 years old. The first job I can remember is selling these books in a back of a room for my mom. My mom's an eight-time published author. She talks about communication, networking, articulating the value of your ideas. So this thread of communicating to connect was something that was ingrained in me at a very young age. And so one of the common threads through my childhood was sports. It was how I connected, playing basketball, football, and lacrosse. Right before I graduated, I was enlightened to the power of adaptive athletics, helping young people with disabilities to unite with their peers through sports. And that inspired me to start dreams for Kids DC, a community that brought kids together to play all these incredible things you see up here. Water skiing, outdoor adventures, hockey, lacrosse. Using sport as a facilitator of human connection. Then I got really interested in tech, and I started to look at bigger problems affecting the people with disabilities in their community. And so we built Ability List, an online platform that allows people with disabilities to share the resources they know about and that they need. So again, building community with an online platform. So this passion for connection, this curiosity about communication took a step up to the next level when I was 27 years old, and it all started with a gift. So my fiance Miki is in the back of the room right now, and on my 27th birthday, she took me out to dinner in Brooklyn where we live. We come back to our apartment, and I'll always remember that I swing the door open, thinking that we're going to have a low-key night. Then there's a silence. And then three, two, one, all these people jump out. She had planned this incredible surprise party. So I'm hanging out with all of our favorite people in the apartment. Halfway through the party, Miki jumps up on a chair and she yells, (YELLING) everyone in the living room! So everyone runs into the living room. She sits me right in the back, and she had rented this projection screen. So she puts it up on the wall. I have no idea what's going on, and I would soon find out. So Miki had taken the time to reach out to 25 of my closest friends and all my family members. She asked each one of them to submit a one-minute video telling me why they love me. Even telling you this, I get goosebumps over my entire body. So as I sat there in the back of the room, these videos started to stream. My best friend in New York calling me his best friend for the first time ever. My brother telling me how grateful he is that we're finally friends again. My mom telling me how proud of me she is. And that was about the moment that-- what Alan Watts would call tears of wonder joy started to flow. Not even a cute little cry, but like a big, ugly, like, massive drops coming down. One of those cries. And I did that for the next 20 minutes straight. So I remember when it stopped, the first thought I had in my head was, wow. I just watched my eulogy at 27, which is a much better time to watch your eulogy, in my opinion. So I needed a break, and I walked over to the next room, and I just looked at Miki, and I said, that was the best gift I've ever received. And I said, how did you do it? And she just looks back at me and she says, well, it was terrible. [LAUGHTER] And so she says again, it was hundreds of emails to remind people to submit their videos, collecting files through Dropbox, drive, text message. And last but not least, editing everything together in iMovie. So it took her about 15 hours. It was then and there, I had this innate understanding of the power of this gift. And I realized the only reason more people didn't get it was because of how difficult it was to create. So then and there, Tribute was born. And so Tribute is our website that automates the process of building one of these gratitude-filled video montages. It automates the process of inviting your friends, of collecting videos. And we built the first web-based collaborative video editor to easily put these things together. And it started as a simple mission to share that joy, those tears of wonder joy that I felt in the back of the room with the world. And the last two years have been really fun. So over 50,000 tributes in 40 countries around the world. Yep, that's Regis, checking us out on "The Today Show." That was appearance number two, which was very fun. But most importantly, what we're most excited about is that we feel that we're deeply ingrained in this digital intimacy movement. It's that we are on a mission to leverage the power of video to spread gratitude and human connection in the world. It's, how can we build technology that adds significant value to our users' offline relationships? And we think that this is not only something that we are personally passionate about, but something that is incredibly relevant right now. Because as a society, we are more connected than we have ever been, and we are quantifiably lonelier than we have ever been at the same time. In 1980, AARP ran a study of their entire membership, the Association for Retired Persons. In 1980, the number of people who identified as lonely was 20%. That's a lot. They did that same study in 2010, and the number had doubled to 40%. 40% of their entire membership identifying as lonely, at the same time when they were identifying more connections and more acquaintances than they were in 1980. So next, an even more alarming study talking about in 1985, the "American Sociological Review"