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So I remember watching the movie The Pursuit of Happyness
a long long time ago, and I just thought it was so beautiful.
I couldn't stop crying. I was so amazed.
And then a few months ago, my girlfriend and I wanted to watch a movie
and we decided that's what we were going to watch.
And this time, I thought it was the dumbest thing I had ever
seen and yet another stupid lesson from Hollywood.
And this is a really famous movie, but just in case you haven't seen it,
let me recap it for you...
So this guy's really poor and going through all this adversity,
but he has a chance of one day becoming a stockbroker.
And the entire movie basically shows him constantly worried,
constantly stressed, constantly pissed off and negative,
constantly yelling and getting into fights with his wife,
BUT one day he might become a stockbroker and finally attain happiness.
I guess Hollywood's version of happiness is one day being a stockbroker.
And at the end of the movie, of course he gets the job,
and he has now successfully pursued and attained happiness.
Now, there are so many things wrong with that, but let's start with this one...
It's weird that someone would even try to pursue happiness,
because happiness cannot be pursued. It's not like a degree that you pursue for
4 years and then you finally get it
and can keep it for the rest of your life. It's more like a birth certificate that just
comes with you. It's in your house, you just have to find
it. It doesn't depend on how big or small your
house, it's in there.
So my first favorite idea from the book is, Happiness cannot be pursued.
And to keep this from getting esoteric, let me tell you a story.
So I remember when I was about 7 or 8 my parents left me with my grandma
and we never really had food at home. And I don't mean that in the western sense
of there's nothing that I like in the fridge.
No it was like, there's nothing in the fridge that can be
consumed as calories. And my grandma's only source of income was
her pension. And I remember it was 13 Lari
which is about $6 or $7, and sometimes they wouldn't even bring her
Now, there was also a little bakery at the end of the street.
And they had this little pastry that I really really liked.
And it cost 20 Tetri which is about 10 cents. But most of the time,
I didn't have money to go buy it. So I was out on the street a lot with other
kids, and I soon figured out that there was this
lemonade store. And they'd give you 5 tetri if you brought
them an empty lemonade bottle.
And I remember I'd wake up every day and I would go looking for bottles on the
streets. Now it was pretty hard to find those bottles,
but if I found four bottles that would mean I could
bring them to the lemonade store and get 20 Tetri for them.
And I remember how I was just the happiest kid alive.
Every time I found a bottle, it was like the happiest moment of my life.
Every time I went to the lemonade store and collected my 20 Tetri,
it was an unbelievable feeling. And finally I would go to the little pastry
store, and I would buy my little 20 Tetri pastry.
And I would sit out on the side walk and just enjoy it.
And it was supposed to have raisins in it, but since it was so cheap,
they only put a few of them in there. And I remember the occasional raisin bite
and how I felt like the happiest kid alive.
Now contrast that to today... There have been times where I'm eating a $100
steak and I'm pissed off and unhappy
because I ordered a medium well but this looks more like a medium.
My night is now officially ruined guys. I'm going to be negative for the rest of the
Now, I'm not here to tell you that the stale, bland, 10 cent pastry is better
than a $100 steak.
I have a preference for the steak. There's nothing wrong with improving your
life and being able to experience more.
But that's all it is. Just the ability to experience more.
What I will guarantee you is that you either cultivate the ability to be happy
and are able to be completely happy where you are right now.
Or, I promise you there's absolutely nothing around you
that you can chase to attain happiness. Going from a 10 cent pastry to a $100 steak
is like going from having to take the bus to owning a Ferrari.
Now I'm going to say this again. Yes, it's okay if your preference is driving
a Ferrari over taking the bus.
But remember, all that does is just let you experience more.
That's it. So you're either happy on the bus right now
just like you'll be happy when you have the Ferrari.
Or you aren't happy on the bus right now and you won't be happy in the Ferrari.
And you know, I look at my life right now, which is really really good.
But I also think of what it's going to be like in 5 years.
And in 5 years, the quality of my life is going to be
a hundred times better than what it is right now.
It'll literally be like going from the 10 cent pastry
to a $100 steak all over again. But I have to keep reminding myself that
I'm either going to be completely happy with that pastry right now
just as I'll be completely happy with the $100 steak in five years.
Or, I'm not going to be happy right now, and I'm not going to be happy in five years.
My second favorite idea is that there's a stimulus,
which is what happens to you, which you can't control.
And then there's a response, which is what you do about it,
which you have full control over. But we treat the response like we have no
control over it. It's just completely automatic for most people.
Something bad happens to you, you automatically get pissed off.
But the reality is, you don't have to.
You have complete control over it. Doesn't matter what kind of stimulus you're
presented with, no one can ever take away the ability
for you to choose whatever response you like.
So let's say you're in the kitchen, and you break a bunch of new plates that you
just bought. Now what's the automatic, natural reaction?
Getting pissed off, right? You have to clean it up now.
Plus you broke a bunch of plates that you just bought.
Or, what could be your other response? Cool, it's just a bunch of plates.
It's not a big deal. It's actually great because it's giving me
an opportunity to not get pissed off by the stupidest little
things. Like, you can have gratitude for breaking
the plates and having the opportunity to practice your
virtue. Remember you can pick whatever response you
like. It's all up to you.
Someone puts you down? Great!
You're one step closer to not caring about what people think of you.
Or, you can go home and cry about it. It's all up to you.
All the kids I grew up with, including myself, went through a lot of adversity.
You know what happened to most of them? They turned into alcoholics and drug addicts.
You know what their excuse is? "I had to see my dad beat my mom.
My parents never had time to take care of me.
I was so poor, I had no opportunity." You know what my reason is for the very humble
accomplishments I have at 22-years-old? The exact same thing.
There's no way most people are going to have the same work ethic as me.
Most people don't know what it's like to be 7
and out on the street collecting dirty bottles, so you can feed yourself.
They just won't be able to compete with me, I'm sorry.
And I'm so thankful for every bullshit experience I've had,
and I wouldn't change a single thing if I could.
Remember that... There's a stimulus which you can't control,
but the response is all up to you. Step in between that gap and realize
that everything can be taken away from you but one remaining thing,
and that is the freedom to choose.



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