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enhance your wellbeing. Today we will be talking about pre-marital counseling and pre marriage

questions. Getting married can be an exciting yet anxiety

provoking step in one's life as they go from being an "I" to a "we." Today I will be sharing

pre-marital counseling and 8 pre marriage questions all couples should discuss with

their partner before getting married. ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES: Imagine how you

plan on dividing chores and responsibilities. Will you both work? Who will stay at home

if you have children? What does marriage mean to you? Will the rules change and if so how?

CHILDREN: Talk about your opinions on children and share important childhood experiences

with your partner. Do you want to have any, and if so, how many? When will you start trying?

If we were infertile and are unable to have children, how would we handle that? How would

you discipline? Agree on basic parenting styles. If you are blending families, determine how

you will handle parental responsibilities. Will the stepparent have the same authority?

How do you feel about each other's role in the discipline and decision-making regarding

each child? SEX: Determine sexual goals. How often would

you like to have sex? It might seem strange to talk about it now, but it's important to

be ready for the sexual problems that can occur in long-term relationships. Discuss

how to deal with potential sex issues and how to keep things passionate and interesting.

SPIRITUALITY: Ask each other if you are spiritual or religious and share which practices are

important to you. For example, do you regularly attend church or temple weekly or just on

religious holidays? Are you atheist or agnostic? Are you more spiritual in nature and what

does that look like? If you have children, what spiritual practices would you like to

share with them? FINANCES: Be forthcoming about who will be

responsible for paying the bills or how you will share expenses. Address how to organize

the budget and how financial decisions will be made. If your expectation is to work on

these matters together, make sure your partner understands that and that you are both upfront

about your finances. Do either of you have debt, student loans or a bad credit history?

How will these financial issues be addressed? CAREER: What do your career goals and aspirations

entail? Address your own life goals and individual plans. Do you desire starting your own business

or going back to school? Make sure this is a plan that your partner will support and

that both of you are free to pursue individual interests and dreams.

LOCATION: Address where you would like to live. Is living close to family and friends

important to you, what about where you would like to raise your children?

If you are in a cross-cultural relationship, are from two different regions or are assigned

overseas for work often, having these conversations is important to have, so you know how flexible

both you and your partner are, what additional supports need to be in place to help with

adjustment or if it is aligned with one's personal and professional goals and lifestyle.

LEISURE ACTIVITIES: How do you like to spend your free time? Determine your interests and

values that are important to you and share them with your partner. Which activities and

interests do you plan to share with one another and how much quality time do you plan on investing

in the relationship? Now I'd love to hear from you. What pre marriage

questions are most important to you? Do you see the benefit of premarital counseling before

getting married? Share your stories, tips and suggestions. Interesting insights and

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