Name: フレンドゾーンの科学 (The Science of the Friend Zone)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T06:04:26.000Z
Duration: 9 min 13 s
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Hey, Vsauce. Michael here. And today we're going to talk about the science

of the friend zone. You know, the experience

程度の副詞

of liking someone and then finding out that they would rather just be friends

hope of escaping the friend zone, how can it be done?

The term "friend zone" was popularized by the TV show

Ross is in the friend zone. Now, of course,

everything turned out fine for Ross, but we're getting ahead of ourselves.

Back when I calculated how much money love is worth

I discussed the feeling of having a crush on someone.

Those emotions, the nervousness, the excitement have a name.

What you feel when you have a crush on somebody is known

as limerence. It's exciting to feel butterflies in your stomach whenever

and those butterflies may be caused by the release

of adrenaline, which pulls blood away from things like your stomach

and toward the muscles, where it may be better used. Of course,

this can cause the stomach to shut down a bit, become upset.

It may also explain why people have a reduced appetite

when they feel love sick. Now, whether you are

everybody can be friend-zoned. And, biologically speaking,

Angus Bateman, the principle states that whenever a species,

like us humans, contains two different sexes,

each with dissimilar sex cells, for instance,

sperm and egg, inevitably one sex will have to commit more resources to the

of offspring. In mammals this is especially true.

A female can have only a limited number of offspring,

unlimited number. This causes a biological tendency for

one sex to be competitive and for the other

Earth Touch's "Wild Sex" goes into a lot more detail about this,

regardless of whether or not reproduction is the goal,

have extended beyond the Bateman principle and are now quite

hard-wired into our culture. Because not every pursuer can win

and because not every pursuer is a terrible jerk,

It's disappointing when it happens to you and it's easy to rely on the

evidence for it. What's more likely is that you have

idealized the other person as a potential mate,

but a neutral observer could tell you that in reality

the two of you don't have as much in common as you think.

This is the argument put forward by Jenna Marbles

in her fantastic video. It's called homogamy.

We select our mates based on how similar they are to our own personalities,

interests and ideals for the future. And so when someone is

friend-zoned, it's often not because they were too friendly or too much of a nice

instead, it's often just run-of-the-mill incompatibility.

too friendly or too nice from every situation just yet.

Marshall Fine described the friend zone as a penalty box that you're sent to

Buffness falls into homogamy. It's about what someone else's interests are and

But what fascinates me is the part about being

and present and friendly make you less attractive?

And why would being kind of a jerk, too cool,

more attractive? Well, Robert Cialdini calls this

the scarcity principle. We desire things that are difficult to obtain,

because we don't like to have our freedom limited

and we act before it can be. This happens all the time in business

and it's equally true when it comes to attraction.

is often cited as a possible escape route from the friend zone.

Make yourself less available and see if your crush

the Ben Franklin effect. Benjamin Franklin wrote about how he was able to

relationships with other people by asking

The theory is that by doing favors for you cognitive dissonance occurs in the

Why would they be doing favors for you unless they

liked you? Now, it's no guarantee that you'll become more than friends but just

friends, you'll be doing something quite special,

fewer friends, fewer close individuals we can confide in

than we did decades ago. And we hang out with those friends less

than we did before. This phenomenon was explored famously by Robert Putnam

in "Bowling Alone." For instance, from 1965 to 1995,

the number of minutes people of all ages reported spending per day

with informal socializing, hanging out with friends,