the lack of today I wanted to speak to my fellow "no curves" girls out there you know

the girls without the hourglass figure, who have the A cups, and the tiny butts you're

the ladies I'm speaking to today and even if you're not one of those ladies, tune in

it's an important message. I wanted to make this video today because I feel like it's

a topic that's not frequently addressed. And I know from personal experience it can be

easy to feel bad about yourself in a world that hyper-sexualizes everyone, men and women.

I'm still not a very "curvy" person, but in middle school I was very very thin and especially

guys would make fun of me a lot. They'd call me flat chested or they'd yell across the

room saying who would ever like a girl without curves. Mean things like that; mean middle

school things. And I remember girls in the locker room comparing bra sizes and I overhear

all the time people secretly teasing strangers because their butt doesn't resemble Beyonce's.

Which is ridiculous because who could honestly resemble Beyonce in any way shape or form?

Being a girl who doesn't have huge curves is a bit of an odd place to be in and I think

personally this is because society, especially as of lately, has a really weird ideal of

what the "perfect woman" is. Tina Fey described it best in her book "Bossypants" when she

said

And

though this quote by the amazing Tina Fey whose book you should really read, is humorous

I do think it perfectly describes that there are all these qualities of the "perfect woman"

but having them all together is very unrealistic and it ends up leaving almost every woman

out there feeling really crappy about themselves and feeling inadequate in some way. Even Kim

Kardashian I am sure has felt sucky about her body sometimes. So on one hand, if you're

a girl with a more slender body type you might be regarded as thin and seen in a more positive

light because society places more value on women's thinness. But on the other hand, that

same woman with a slender body type might be seen as possibly starving herself, people

might make accusatory claims saying she needs to eat a burger or that she looks underfed,

she looks like a skeleton, something is "wrong" with her. Or she might be seen as not a "real

woman" because apparently a real woman has big butts and big boobs. And I don't know

how you have multiple butts, don't know why I pluralized that but a real woman apparently

has more than two butts - two or more butts. That's a thing. I see a lot of people doing

this with celebrities like Ariana Grande and it's really sad to see. I can't understand

why people feel like it's their right to shame someone else's body; another person's body.

It's not yours to comment on. Ariana is beautiful and your comments comparing her to a prepubescent

boy is wrong, it's rude, and it is a form of bullying. Just like fat-shaming, skinny-shaming

is a thing and it's not okay. And for those who claim to be looking out for someone's

health when they make those statements "Oh you need to go eat a burger!" "Oh I think

she's anorexic!" "Ugh she looks like a skeleton!" Those type of things. There's a huge difference

between genuinely looking for someone's health and bullying. If you're genuinely concerned

for someone's health, go seek them out privately and talk to them or go talk to a counselor

so they can get some help. That's going to be a lot more effective than publicly shaming

them online or in person because that's just going to worsen any problems that already

exist. But back to the "real woman" thing that I was talking about earlier. It's always

so frustrating to me, because I see these posts on Facebook and Instagram, when I see

things saying that "oh a real woman has a booty" a real woman this, a real woman that

blah blah blah blah you know what that is, that's a bunch of you get it. So I'm here

to settle the debate once and for all. Do you identify as a woman? Yes, okay perfect.

Go to a mirror and then look at that reflection. See that figure staring back at you? That's

what a real woman looks like. Congratulations! We figured this out together. Unless you turned

around whispering "bloody Mary" three times in the dark then that figure you're seeing

is a ghost and you need to run! If you're a woman who possesses atoms that make up matter,

then congratulations, you're a real woman! Crazy, I know. So my message for my fellow

"no curves" girls out there is that your bodies are valid; they are beautiful and they represent

what a real woman looks like, and that real woman is you. Everybody's bodies are built

differently. We're different and that's what makes us so awesome. Imagine how boring the

world would be if we all looked the exact same. The fact is that no matter what you

do, no matter what you look like, there's always, always going to be someone who has

something bad to say about you. There's always going to be someone with a negative opinion

because that's how people work. Some people just can't be pleased and once you realize

that you can't please the world you'll realize you can please yourself though. And you do

have the power to love yourself and no one out there can take that power away from you.

But yeah, that's it for my little speech. I really wanted to make that video because

I'd seen a lot of self hatred online for people's bodies and not being happy with what they

looked like. I think this is a message I would've really liked to hear when I was younger and

I was learning to accept my body and be comfortable with it. I'm at a point now where I'm so much

more comfortable with it, and I'm okay that I'm not going to be the curviest girl out

there; that's fine with me. But there's a lot of people out there who are learning to

be okay with what they look like and I hope that they get there; I hope they can learn

to love themselves and be okay with being different. Because that's kind of what makes

you awesome. I'm rambling, so I'm going to wrap up this video. I hope you guys liked

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