In a lot of cases, it means you are unhappy with the way things are and rather than dealing with the way things are in your current relationship, like you kind of seek an escape from someone else.

多くの場合、現状に不満があり、今の関係に対処するよりも、他の誰かからの逃避を求めるようなもの。

I have been cheated on and it really really sucks.

浮気されたことがあって、本当に最悪です。

I had a boyfriend in college who would cheat on me all the time. And I had told him at one point like

大学時代、浮気ばかりしていた彼氏がいました。ある時、私は彼にこう言ったんです。

"Look! If you gonna do it, just like tell me and like we'll talk about it, but don't keep it from me."

「いい？もしや浮気するなら、 私に言って、それから話し合おう、 でも、隠し事はしないで」

Like that was the bare minimum that I asked for, and then he still would keep it from me.

私が要求したのは最低限のことで、それでも彼はそれを私に隠していた。

He was away for the summer and he would come back to Boston to visit me.

彼は夏の間、ボストンを離れていたけど、私を訪ねてボストンに戻ってきた。

And our visits were always very sweet. We'd sort of hang out all day and like have ice cream and walk through the Boston Common.

いつも優しくしてくれた。アイスクリームを食べたり、ボストン・コモンを歩いたり。

And then you know at night, he would go see a couple more friends and then he'd leave

そして夜になると、彼はさらに何人かの友人に会いに行き、そして去っていく。

After that summer, I found out that like he'd have ice cream with me during the day, and then like screw his ex-girlfriend at night...yeah.

その夏の後、彼は昼間は私とアイスクリームを食べて、夜は元カノとヤッていたことがわかったの。

It was the first time I understood the kind of fear and anger people feel to the point where they only know how to react physically.

その時初めて、人が恐怖や怒りを感じ、物理的な反応しかできないことを理解した。

By just combusting into tears and throwing a hairdryer.

涙を流しながらドライヤーを投げるの。

[Have you ever cheated on someone?]

（浮気したことある？）

Yeah, I have cheated on someone, but it was never like—it's never been like an affair.

うん、浮気はしたことあるけど、浮気って感じじゃなかったわ。

So I was on a break which was really weird but I feel like a lot of people have been through it,

私は浮気してたんだけど、変な話だけど、多くの人が経験してると思う、

and then I decided on my own accord that it would be okay to pursue another person or allow someone to pursue me,

それに、他の人を追いかけてもいいし、誰かに追いかけられてもいいと、自分の意志で決めて、

so... but I think in certain situations, people think that's cheating which I actually think is too.

つまり......でも、状況によっては、それがズルだと思われることもあると思う。

I have never cheated on someone. I have been the one the cheater has cheated on someone with.

浮気をしたことはないけど、浮気相手になったことならあるわ。

One time I had no idea until after the fact and one time and I kinda knew...yeah.

1度は、事後まで全く知らなかったことがあって、1度は、なんとなく知っていたことがある...うん。

I kind of rationalized it like there's been so many times where I've done the right thing, where I've told someone, "No, you break up with your girlfriend and then you can talk to me."

今まで何度も正しいことをしたように、合理的に考えたの。、誰かに言ったわ、 「恋人と別れてから私と話して」

And then they eventually break up. Something always happens but they never ended up with me so this time maybe I'm supposed to do the wrong thing.

そして結局別れるの。いつも何かが起こるんだけど、だから今回は、私が間違ったことをすることになっているのかもしれない。

Maybe that works out sometimes and it really doesn't.

うまくいく時といかない時がある。

It's just really painful and messy and awful.

痛いし面倒だし最悪だよ。

In some capacity cheating is like, for me and my situation, it was like getting back at the person versus like me taking the high road and being a better person

ある意味、浮気というのは、私や私の状況にとっては、相手に仕返しをするようなもので、私が王道を行くような、より良い人間になるためのものなんだわ。

So, it's like, um, terrible...it's terrible. It's a horrible feeling. It makes me feel sick.

だから、その、ひどい...ひどいの。恐ろしい感じ。気分が悪くなる。