And I dothinkthatoneofthereasonswhyparentsstruggleisbecause, youknow, theywanttothinktheirsonisthenextTomBradyorsomething.
親が苦労する理由のひとつは、自分の息子が次のトム・ブレイディか何かだと思いたいからだと思う。
Buttheyalsojusthave a verylimitedframeofreferencecomparedtoteachers, right, whosee, I don't know, dozensofkids a year, sometimeshundreds, andthenhundredsofkids, ifnotthousandsoverthecourseoftheircareer.
Sonowthebetterscalesthatyourdoctorcanaskyouarescaleswherethenumbercomeswith a description, cannotwalkup a flightofstairs, youknow, five, cannotpickup a halfgallonofmilk, seven, cannotgetoutofbed.
Therewasthesestoriesofhislikebreaking a boneandstilldoingthat.
骨を折ってもまだやっているというような話もあった。
Like, soevenwiththelittlevignettesthataresupposedtohelpyouwiththesereferencepoints, like, I thinkoneofthemainlessonsofmeasuringpersonalityoranythingelseisthatmysixandyoursixarenotthesamesix.
Evenwhenweaddwordsanddescriptions, I thinkyouputyourfingerononeofthemanyreasonswhywhensomebodyelseratesusandwerateourselves, thoseratingsaren't alwaysgoingtolineup.
Andthenalsothere's thisproblemcalledhalobias, whereif a personhasonepositivecharacteristic, liketheyhave a goodsenseofhumor, youtendtoattributeotherthingsliketheymustbesmart, they'reprobably a goodathlete.
Well, because I thinktosomeextentweanswerthesethingsaspirationallyorweallhaveselectivememoryorwehave a willingnesstokindofglorifythepast, forgetthethingsthatwerehardorbad.
And I wonderifinourowntakingofthesequestionnaires, wetendtofocusonthemostproximateexperiencesthatarecoloringthingsor, youknow, I'm thinkingofmybestselfwhenmaybethey'rethinkingofmywholeself.
So, Angela, I willjustsayon a personallevelatwork, I'vefoundthatwhen I'm workingwithindividualswho I wouldatleastdeemrelativelyself-aware, thentheteamworkworksmuchbetter.
But I thinkhewastheexecutive, right, whosortoffirsthadtheideathatifyouactuallycalculatestatisticsandyouaren't biasedbyjustpickingthepersonwholookslikethey'd be a goodbaseballplayerbecausethey'resotallandgood-lookingandlooklikeRobertRedfordorsomething, thatyoudobetteronaverage, right?
And I remembertowardtheendoftheconversation, I said, I alsohavecuriosityand I wanttoknowasanobserverofhumanperformancewhatyouthinkaretheimportantcharacteristicsofsomeonewhois a world-classperformer.
And I thinkhewastellingmeaboutyoungbaseballplayerswhoarejustkidswhoaresuddenlywith a lotofmoneyandattention, andthatendsupbeinganAchillesheelforsomeofthem.
I don't havetoworkonanythingbecause I'm withoutweaknesses.
弱点がないから、何も努力する必要がない。
But a littleswaggercouldbehelpful, especiallyinprofessionalsports.
しかし、特にプロスポーツの世界では、少しくらい威勢を張った方が役に立つかもしれない。
So I justthinkthisquestionofself-awarenessissointerestingbecause I dothinkitcanbeanAchillesheelwhenyoudon't knowthatyou're a closetalkerorthatyouhave a terriblesenseofhumororthatyouthinkyouhavenoproblemwithplanningaheadandeverybodywhoworkswithyouislike, youhave a seriousproblemwithplanningahead.
Andthentheyweresimplysupposedtohave a conversationwithatleastoneoftheirinformantsaboutthediscrepancies.
そして、少なくとも一人の情報提供者と、その食い違いについて話をすることになっていた。
Insomecases, therewasthiskindof, hey, I mustlacksomekindofself-awarenessbecauseallthesepeoplesay I'm a goodcommunicator.
場合によっては、私は自己認識が欠けているに違いない。
I neverwouldhavethoughtaboutmyselfthatway.
自分のことをそんなふうに考えたことはなかった。
Sooftentimesthere's thiskindoflike, wow, I wasn't self-awareofmystrengths.
だから、自分の強みを自覚していなかったということがよくあるんだ。
Buttheotherthingthatcomesout, and I thinkthistomeismaybethemostimportantthing, isthatveryoftenwhatthestudentrealizedisthatthescoresreflectedthecontextorthesituationinwhichthatpersonalwayssawyou.
Andwewouldgetoutofthecar, and I wouldturnontheTV, and I wouldlikedisplaymyselfStarfishstyleinfrontoftheTVonthewall-to-wallcarpeting, becauseyes, itisNewJersey.
Hesaid, when I thinkabouthumanbehavior, when I thinkabouthumannature, themistakethatweoftenmakeisthatwhenwethinkofotherpeople, wejustthinkofthemkindofmonolithically.
I mean, hedidn't saythat, butif I applyittoourconversation.
つまり、彼はそうは言わなかったけど、私たちの会話に当てはめるとね。
AndtherearemultipleAngelas.
そして複数のアンジェラがいる。
So I thinkthisideaofmultipleselves, thatweareasunlikeourselvesbecausewehavesomanyversionsofourselves, thatweareunlikeotherpeople, I thinkisbeautifulandprofound.
It's thisideaofnotaskingyourselfwhydo I feelsoterribleorwhydo I feelsogood, butratherlikewhatarethesituationsthatmakemefeelterribleandwhatdotheyhaveincommon?
I wanttoendwiththisstorybecausewewererecentlytalkingaboutDannyKahneman.
最近、ダニー・カーネマンの話をしていたので、この話で終わりたい。
So I mentionedtoyourecentlythattherewas a serviceatPrinceton, a sortofcelebration, I shouldsay, ofhislifeandthatmanypeoplewhohadworkedwithhimcameuponebyoneandspoke.
I thoughtthosewerethemostbeautifulremarksbecausetheywerethemostperceptive, youknow, notabouttheDannyKahneman, buttheDannyKahnemansthatexistedacrossthechaptersofhislife, butevenwithinthechapterof a life.
Inmyhusband's case, hewas a podiatristwhowaspresidentoftheCaliforniaandtheNationalPodiatryAssociation, andheworkedsohardthathecan't imaginegettingthatkindofsuccessagain.
私の夫の場合、足病医としてカリフォルニア州や全米足病学会の会長を務めていた。
Anyway, that's myopinion.
とにかく、これが私の意見だ。
MynameisDavidLasseter.
私はデヴィッド・ラセターです。
I leftthefieldofhighereducationafternearly 25 yearstojoin a communityfoundationinJanuary 2020.
私は25年近く務めた高等教育の現場を離れ、2020年1月にコミュニティ財団に入りました。
Duringmytimeatthecommunityfoundation, I'vecomeacross a numberofvolunteeropportunities, suchasReadtoSucceed, a readingprogramforelementarystudents, taxpreparationassistanceprograms, boththroughtheUnitedWay, thatwouldbeidealforretirees.
コミュニティ財団に勤めている間、小学生向けの読み聞かせプログラム「Read to Succeed」や、ユナイテッド・ウェイを通じた納税準備支援プログラムなど、定年退職者にとって理想的なボランティアの機会に数多く出会った。
I lovedtheepisodeandwantedtoensureyourlistenersknowtheycanfindmeaninghelpingothersintheircommunitylaterinlife.