Name: 自信は居心地が悪い (confidence is uncomfortable)
Uploaded: 2024-08-07T11:42:16.000Z
Duration: 31 min 14 s

現在進行形

you like you and other people are going to be attracted to that and it is going to be good, i promise. just believe it and keep believing it. even whenever you find reasons not to believe it, keep believing it and it will be reality. and i can't believe it's true but it actually will be. i wanted to talk about how uncomfortable the journey from insecurity to confidence can actually be because i feel like we glamorize this idea of confidence. like people look a certain way, maybe they dress a certain way or they act a certain way, they talk a certain way, they carry themselves a certain way. what is the journey from insecurity to confidence actually like?

たとえ信じられない理由が見つかっても、それを信じ続ければ現実になる。私たちは自信というものを美化しているような気がするから。人はあるように見えるし、あるように服を着たり、あるように行動したり、あるように話したり、あるように身のこなしをする。

未来形

and like that process is so different for everybody. it's a never-ending journey, it's something that you have to upkeep, it's like a muscle and training that muscle doesn't always feel good. like it can be really painful and it can be ugly and hard and i have watched myself come from an extremely insecure person and of course it's something that i'm still working on every day but i have healed and feel like i am kind of the opposite in some ways. like things that i used to be so insecure about now i love and have made me so confident. i recently the other day was just thinking about it and i was like wow i love myself and i have never been able to say that before. like i love myself, i love the way i act, i love the way i talk, i love the person i am, i love the friend i am. it doesn't mean that there aren't things that i still want to improve and learn and things that i will continue to grow in but i realized for the first time oh my god wow like i love myself. it just kind of felt like crazy and it hit me in the face because it's like whenever like for example my cat maizy, she used to be a tiny little kitten and i have pictures and memories and everything whenever she was so small but now she's huge, she's big. i've been with her basically every single day so that change was so gradual and i feel like that's kind of what happened with my confidence. like it was such a gradual journey like i didn't really notice at first that these things were changing. if anything it just felt like a lot of uncomfortable like oh my god there's a fly but it just felt like a lot of uncomfortable affirmations and change and the stuff and it was just like oh my god this is not doing anything i still feel insecure about this this and that but then like gradually as time went on that changed and i became a different person not overnight but like i did after i put in the work that was uncomfortable. i've been making floral arrangements for myself every week. i wanted to make one while while we're talking about this. i think the first question that i asked myself in the journey was what does my confident self act like?

それは終わりのない旅であり、あなたが維持しなければならないものであり、筋肉のようなもので、その筋肉を鍛えることはいつもいい気分とは限らない。最近、そのことについて考えていて、うわあ、私は自分が大好きなんだ、と思ったんだ。例えば、私の愛猫メイジーは、以前は小さな小さな子猫で、とても小さかった頃の写真や思い出やすべてがあるけれど、今はとても大きくなっている。基本的に毎日一緒にいるから、その変化はとても緩やかで、私の自信にも同じようなことが起こったような気がする。どちらかというと、ハエがいるみたいな不快な感じが

like what what is making me so unhappy or insecure in myself right now?

今の自分を不幸にしたり、不安にさせたりしているものは何だろう？

and what does that version of myself who feels good about that or has confidence or isn't thinking about that, what is she doing?

そして、そのことに好感を持ったり、自信を持ったり、そんなことを考えていない自分のバージョンは、何をしているのだろう？

like you can kind of do the thing with the whole Beyonce Sasha Fierce like creating an alter ego. what does she stand for?

ビヨンセ・サーシャ・フィアースの分身を作るようなものだ。

彼女はどんなタイプの友人なのか？

彼女は自分自身をどう扱っているのか？

some people are very visual. i am very visual. i have created vision boards for this and i've created so many. on these dream boards there are outfits, there are hairstyles, there are photos that just depict a certain energy that i i picture whenever i think of my most visual boards to kind of go back to and see definitely help. whatever helps you have like a clear vision of who that person is and everything you could possibly get to know about her. having a vision of your most confident self, your dream self, your alter ego, whatever whatever it is. having a vision that you want to achieve right?

ドリームボードには、服装、ヘアスタイル、特定のエネルギーを表現した写真などがあり、自分の最もビジュアルなボードを思い浮かべるたびに、その写真を思い浮かべている。最も自信のある自分、夢の自分、自分の分身、どんなものでもいい。

you really got to think of every detail. how does this person stand?

この人はどういう立場にいるのか？

for example i've always been insecure about my posture and just like the shape of my back and shoulders. i've just always felt like i kind of have like rounded hunched thing going on and i knew that it was coming from stress and insecurity and just like sort of this natural body language that i had and i was uncomfortable. it just made me feel insecure and i thought about my most confident self and how she doesn't have that insecurity because she stands up straight. like she doesn't have that problem because she can easily have her chest open and feel confident and great. she has that body language. body language is such an important part you know like of course you can create the vision boards with the outfits and the hair and the makeup but then you start to think about these smaller details like there's layers to it. it's like okay of course like what does she look like on the outside but then how does she carry herself and how does she speak?

例えば、私はいつも自分の姿勢や背中や肩の形が気になっていた。私はいつも猫背のような丸みを帯びているような気がしていて、それがストレスや不安から来るものだとわかっていたし、ただこの自然なボディランゲージのようなものが不快だった。ボディーランゲージはとても重要な部分だ。もちろん、衣装やヘアメイクでビジョンボードを作ることはできるけれど、もっと細かい部分まで考えるようになる。

というのも、自信に満ち溢れた自分というのは、実にパワフルなコミュニケーターだということを知っているからだ。そうしている自分に気づくたびに、自分自身をとらえ、ああ、これは不快だ、今の話し方を変えたくない、何年も何年もこの話し方をしてきたのだから、自分を止めたくない、ペースを落としたくない、不快だ、でも、ちょっと待って、彼女の話し方を思い出したから、それを少し紹介してみよう。例えば、肩については、まだ一生懸命取り組んでいるところだけど、だいぶ良くなったよ。でも、肩を後ろに回したり、息を吸ったり、首を伸ばしたり

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