To Carmen, intimacy is like maintaining a Rolls Royce. You must occasionally turn on the motor to keep it running smoothly so that when you want to drive the car, it's ready to go. Carmen believes that people often enter intimacy through the wrong doorway, and as a result, they give it up later in life. Society tells us not to engage in it, but Carmen believes that we're just undersatisfied. Intimacy should be as natural as breathing, according to her. Carmen emphasizes the importance of relationships, and intimacy is an essential part of it, as it can add richness and excitement to one's life. It can be like a wonderful wave that starts way out in the ocean and then finally hits on shore and is fabulous, she explains. Carmen has always been one to have crushes and claims to have a love interest to this day. I love my relationships, and I don't have a set idea of what they should be, she says. I live out what is there, the dance of need, daily, weekly, yearly, if it's geographically possible. In regards to love, Carmen has discovered that it's not limited to just romantic love with a partner. She has come to realize that love is not the narrow thing she once thought it was. If you can find it all in one lovely person with marriage and intimacy and lust, that is fabulous, and she says she came pretty close with her last husband. Now she realized that you can find your soulmate in friendship, too.
カルメンにとって、親密さはロールスロイスのメンテナンスのようなものだ。車を走らせたいときにすぐに走れるように、ときどきモーターのスイッチを入れてスムーズに走らせなければならない。カルメンは、人々はしばしば間違った入り口から親密さに入り、その結果、人生の後半でそれをあきらめてしまうと考えている。社会は親密な関係になるなと言うが、カルメンは私たちが満足していないだけだと考えている。彼女によれば、親密さは呼吸をするのと同じくらい自然なものであるべきだという。カルメンは人間関係の重要性を強調し、親密さは人生に豊か