And I thinkmaybebeforewegointothis, doyouwanttojustmention, you'vesharedwithmethesebigfivepersonalitytraitsjustintheirgeneralsense, because I thinkthatwillhelpmetalkthroughthechangesinmypersonality.
Andwhat I meanbyagreed-uponisthatifyougotoUniversityofWashingtonoryoulikegotoStanfordorYaleoranywhere, allthepsychologiststherewhoteachintropsychwillteachstudentsthattherearefivemajorpersonalitytraits.
They'rereallypersonalitytraitfamiliesbecausetheyhave a bunchofveryspecifictraitswithinthem, buttherearethesefivefamiliesofpersonalitytraitsthathavebeenidentifiedacrossthelifespan.
しかし、この5つの性格特性ファミリーは、生涯を通じて確認されている。
SoJoshbeingin, I guesshesaidhislate 30s, liketrueforJoshua, butalsotrueformewho I'm inmymid-50s andmymomwho's 89 andeven a 15-year-old, etcetera.
There's anacronymthat I finduseful, OCEAN, O-C-E-A-N, andthefivepersonalityfamilies.
OCEAN、O-C-E-A-N、そして5つの性格ファミリーという頭字語がある。
Oneisopenness, opennesstoexperienceoropen-mindedness, sothat's the O.
ひとつはオープンネス、経験に対する開放性、オープンマインド。
C isforconscientiousness, youknow, color-codedspiceracksandorganizedlivesandsoforth.
Cは良心的で、色分けされたスパイスラックとか、整理された生活とかね。
Thenthere's E forextroversion.
それから外向性のE。
There's A foragreeableness.
Aには "agreeableness "がある。
Andthelastone's a littlebitof a downer, sorry, butthe N isforneuroticism.
最後はちょっと下世話な話だが、申し訳ないが、Nは神経症のことだ。
It's like a kindofananachronisticterm, butit's aboutbeingemotionallylabileandalsohaving a fairamountofnegativeemotionlikeanger, sadness, anxietyinyoureverydayexperience.
I wouldhopetocontinueimprovinginincrements, but I don't thinkthere's goingtobe a massiveshiftatthispoint.
今後も少しずつ改善していきたいが、現時点では大きな変化はないと思う。
Okay.
オーケー。
Well, I thinkthat's prettyconsistentwithwhatissometimescalledtheendofhistoryillusion.
まあ、それは歴史の終わりと呼ばれる幻想とかなり一致していると思う。
Doesn't thatsoundkindofdire?
悲惨に聞こえないか?
Well, whenyousayillusion, I feellike I'm justtrickingmyselfimmediately.
まあ、イリュージョンと言われると、すぐに自分を騙しているような気がしてしまう。
Butthere's goodnews.
しかし、良いニュースもある。
I thinkespeciallygivenwhatyousaidaboutyouraspirations, which I thinkweallhave, wewouldallwanttocontinuetogrowandtolearnandtobecomeevenbetterpeoplethanwearenow.
Andwhattheydidwastheymeasuredthepersonalitiesusing a standardinventoryofpersonalityandalsothevaluesandpreferencesofmorethan 19,000 adultswhorangedinagefrom 18 to 68.
Butifyoudidthishypotheticalexample, likethinkofyoursixthgradeclassandthenattheendofhighschoolandimaginedoingittheninyourlike 20s and 30s and 40s and 50s, atwhatpointwouldtheshufflingwiththerankorderinglikebezero?
Andthenhesaid, Ed, whosesweetnesshas a disarmingeffectonNancy.
そして、エドが言った。彼の優しさはナンシーを魅了する。
Whentroublearises, shecallsonEdtomoderate.
トラブルが起きると、彼女はエドに司会を依頼する。
Andwhenheappears, allthingscalmdown.
そして彼が現れると、すべてが落ち着く。
Now, I'm notsayingweshouldallplay a totallyseparatecharacter, but I wonderifinthestateoftryingtochangeourpersonality, thereseemstobesomerealvalueinactingasifor, quoteunquote, playing a partinordertogiveyourselfpermissiontochangeandadaptyourpersonality.
Butthenwhen I'm withmyhusband, youknow, it's a differentAngela.
でも、夫といるときは違うアンジェラになるんだ。
Sowhen I'm on a Zoomcallwithstudentsand I getofftheZoomcall, thetoneofmyvoiceevenchanges.
だから、生徒とZoom通話をしていて、Zoom通話を切ると、声のトーンまで変わってしまう。
I'm like, OK, sothatisduein a week.
1週間後が期限なんだ。
Allright.
分かった。
Arewegood?
我々はいいのか?
OK, greatquestion, Francisco.
フランシスコ、いい質問だね。
Andthenclick, leave, call.
そして、クリックし、去り、電話する。
Andit's like, hi, lovey, theregisterchanges.
そして、ハイ、ラヴィー、レジスターが変わるんだ。
It's verydifferent.
まったく違うんだ。
Buthere's whatTimBecksaid.
しかし、ティム・ベックはこう言った。
And I reallyagree.
そして、本当にそう思う。
Hethoughtas a psychologistandas a therapistthatallofushavemultiplepersonalitiesin a healthyway, becauseasheputittome, he's like, ifyoudon't havemultiplepersonalities, ifyou'renotabletobe, youknow, a professorwithyourstudentsand a neighborwithyourneighbors, liketheseareverydifferentpersonalitymodes, hecalledthem.
Andhehadthisapproachtotherapythatwaslike a lotofotherhumanistpsychologistsbasedontheideaofunconditionalpositiveregard, thatwhatweneedtodo, allofus, thoseofuswhoarereallystrugglingandthenthoseofuswhoarelikeactuallyin a prettygoodplaceinlife, thatallofusneedtohavethisrocksolidfoundationofunconditionalpositiveregardtofeellikeyou'reOK, thatyou're a goodperson, thatyou'reworthwhile.
It's notoftentalkedaboutthesedays, but I actuallythinkCarlRogerswasright.
最近はあまり話題になりませんが、実はカール・ロジャースの言う通りだったと思います。
And I don't evenseethisas a contradiction.
そして、これを矛盾だとも思わない。
I thinkwecansay, like, youknowwhat, I wouldliketobe a littlemorecheerful.
もうちょっと明るくなりたいんだ。
Youknowwhat?
何を知っている?
I wouldliketonotbringoutangryAngelaasmuchlike I wantto I aminanunconditionalway, a humanbeingwhohas a certainamountofworthanddignity, and I bothwanttochangeandalsofeelacceptingofmyself.
Somebodyfamoussaidsomethinglikethat, but I can't remember.
誰か有名な人がそんなことを言っていたが、思い出せない。
It's likeGeorgeOrwell.
まるでジョージ・オーウェルのようだ。
I'm suresomeonefamoussaiditnotonlyearlier, butwaybetterthan I am.
誰か有名な人がもっと早くから、しかも私よりもずっと上手に言っていたに違いない。
Butthat's where I think I'vecomewithmyself, too, intermsofmetellingyouhowmypersonalitychanged.
でも、自分の性格がどう変わったかを話すという点では、自分もそこにたどり着いたと思う。
Like, yeah, hey, I acceptmyselfforwho I amand I wanttobecomebetter.
今の自分を受け入れて、もっと良くなりたいんだ。
Andbothofthose, they're a contrastinsomesense, a conflict, butlikealsotrue.
そのどちらも、ある意味で対照的であり、対立しているが、真実でもある。
Absolutely.
もちろんだ。
I don't knowifwe'veansweredJoshua's questioninanykindofcompleteway, but I willsaythis, Mike, thereasonwhywe'vebeentalkingaboutpersonalitysomuchoflateisthatitissomethingweallaskourselves, youknow, whoam I andwhohave I beenandwhowill I be?
And I thinkthat's thejustificationfordevotingnotonlythisconversationtocan I changehowmalleableispersonalityanswerlikemorethanyouthink, butalsoforhavingfivemoreconversations, eachdedicatedtooneofthelettersinOcean.
And I reallylookforwardtothatbecausewhen I lookatmypsychologicalselfie, asitwere, likewhen I lookatmyownpersonalitywithanykindofhonesty, there's somuchtherewhere I couldunderstandmyselfbetter, butalsoinimportantwaystoimprove.
Andlook, here's what I wouldsaytoJoshuaintheprocessofallthis, I'm goingtotakethechallengemyselftosayoneachoftheseoceanprinciples, what's onethingthat I candotomaybeimproveineachregard?
However, it's interestingtonotethatrecentresearchfromleadingpersonalitypsychologistshasfoundthatthe, quote, littlesixbetterrepresenttheprominentdimensionsofchildtemperament.
Later, MikeandAngelanearlyrecallthenameofJerrySeinfeld's populartalkshow, whichfeaturesthecomedianchattingwithguestsover a cupofcoffeeanddrivingaroundin a classiccar.
Butinmyexperience, nostalgiaworksbestas a presentmomentexperience, whereyoujustkindofstopandinternalizethatlovelyfeelingrightthereandappreciatethisamazinghumanabilitywehavetofeelsomethingsowonderfulfor a secondtime.
A philosophyisnotice, appreciate, smile, andmoveforward.
哲学とは、気づき、感謝し、微笑み、そして前進することだ。
Eventually, I movedonfromDisneyto a newcareerinsocialresearch, but I'm happytosay I stillget a blastofpresentmomentnostalgiaanytime I hearwhenyouwishupon a star.