Ittriestoprotectyoufrom a riskoffailure, judgment, orcriticism.
失敗や判断、批判のリスクから身を守ろうとする。
How?
どうやって?
Bykeepingyouparalyzedsoyoudon't takeanyaction.
あなたが何も行動を起こさないように、麻痺させることによってね。
Becausethenyou'resafe, butyou'realsostuck.
そうすれば安全だが、身動きも取れなくなるからだ。
Ifyourparentssethighstandardsforyouandexcessivelycriticizedyouwhenyoufailedtomeetthesestandards, forexample, yougotan A, whycouldn't yougetan A pluslikeyourperfectcousinJulio?
Ifyoudidn't receiveemotionalvalidationas a child, oryouhad a parentthatwashardtoplease, youmightworkreallyhardasanadulttotryandseekapprovalfromeveryonearoundyou.
Insteadofsaying, lookatwhathappenedtome, lookatwhattheydidtome, use a techniquecalledcognitiveshiftingandconsciouslyredirectyourattentionto, okay, thisiswhat's happeninginmylife, thisiswhere I wanttobe, andthisiswhat I'm goingtodoaboutit.
Whileoutwardlytheyappearsuccessful, allowingtheircoredrivingforcetoemanatefromthefearoffailure, envy, greed, seekingapprovalandstatus, is a provensourceofunhappiness, constantstress, and a lackoffulfillment.