focused on goal setting productivity planning  organizing i just don't see the point in any of  

it if you're not enjoying your life at least most  of the time and in this video i want to talk about  

some things that you can do to enjoy your life a  little bit more to make things more interesting  

to make things a little more fun some mindset  shifts to embrace as well as actionable stuff  

to start doing first start with this mindset  shift if you have committed to doing something  

go one to two steps above the bare minimum  if you're going christmas light looking like  

you do every year deck your car with christmas  decorations bring matching hats if you are going  

on a long drive make your car cozy and create  a themed playlist if you're picking up a friend  

from the airport bring a sign with their face on  it and their favorite donut there are definitely  

a lot of things in life that i think it's okay  to half-ass we don't need to go all out for  

all of the things when it comes to the little  experiences that essentially make up your life  

go the extra mile those little experiences make  up your days your weeks your months your life so  

even when it comes to more mundane experiences  like dropping your friend off at that event  

or helping your friend to paint or move go the  extra one to two steps to make those experiences  

memorable this can be really easy to action when  you sit down and you look at your calendar for  

the week to come look at each event that you're  going to or activity that you're doing and ask  

how can i go all in on this what's one extra step  that i could take to make this a more memorable  

and enjoyable experience another way to create  a more enjoyable life is to create more variety  

in your habits so in stephen geyser's book  elastic habits he talks about how the appeal  

of a slot machine is because you don't know what  you're going to get every single time that you  

go back there's variety in the experience it's  exciting you don't know what's going to happen  

whereas with our habits we're doing the same thing  every day and depending on your personality type  

that could lead you to absolutely thriving but  to some people it leads them to becoming bored  

and then feeling repulsed by their habits is a  word that i would use just like ugh like i don't  

want to do that i've done that every day for the  last two weeks one way to move past this is to  

create variety in your habits by giving yourself  a list of options so i like to call this a habit  

menu so for example if the feeling that you  want to embrace it in your life is peace or  

zen the habits that you could do to support that  feeling are things like meditation a long walk in  

nature as well as journaling all of those things  contribute to a feeling of peace so instead of  

committing to doing just one every day commit to  choosing one of the three one of the habits from  

your menu you might wake up one day and decide  that you're going to open up your app intention  

my app for self-care and mindset exercises that  are highly actionable you're going to choose the  

self-compassion meditation and you're gonna have  a really emotional but fulfilling session and  

meditation or you might wake up and be like i'm  just gonna go on a long walk in nature today no  

podcast no music that'll create a feeling of zen  or you are going to journal on your limiting money  

beliefs which will create feelings of zen in the  future all of those things are going to get you to  

where you want to go but you'll also feel a little  less trapped and a little less bored during your  

days i think this one is for a certain personality  type but it's definitely something that appeals to  

me to take action on this try picking a feeling  that you want to work towards and then think of  

the different habits that could support that  creating your own little habit menu the next  

way to make life more enjoyable is to add creative  constraints in the areas of your life where you  

feel uninspired so maybe there are some areas in  your life where you used to get a lot of enjoyment  

out of it but now you feel a little lackluster a  little bit about it in thomas frank's skillshare  

class productivity for creatives he talks about  how when he was feeling uninspired by video  

creation he created a one-hour morning routine  but his constraint was that he had to create it  

within the style of scott pilgrim versus the world  not only did it make the process of video creation  

more enjoyable but it also gave him a whole bunch  of learnings when it comes to setting up shots  

creating certain styles using his camera when you  have no creative constraints it can lead to being  

complacent particularly if whatever you've done  has worked for you you follow the path of least  

resistance because that's kind of what our brains  are made to do and it makes sense but then you  

end up bored you end up feeling uninspired and  that's where creative constraints can come in  

you can do this in any areas of your life it  doesn't just have to be about video creation it  

can be about the clothes that you wear every day  the posts that you put up the articles that you  

write the way that you decorate your home there  are different kind of constraints that you can use  

to get yourself inspired again and to turn things  that were once fun into something that is once  

again fun firstly you have input constraints so  things like time money materials so create jewelry  

but create your jewelry from only things that will  once garbage create a prototype but give yourself  

only a day to create it create an amazing meal  but use only what is in your cupboard currently to  

make it you can also create rules to follow while  you carry out your process so for example dress  

yourself for a week but use the word magic to  inspire you every outfit has to be inspired by the  

word magic create your videos reviewing romantic  comedies but do it in the style other crash  

course on youtube create an article but under 300  words this video is sponsored by skillshare which  

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today the next way to create a more enjoyable life  is to learn how to have hard conversations and  

this very heavily leans on the quote hard choices  easy life easy choices hard life because obviously  

having hard conversations is not a fun time it's  usually not enjoyable but the benefits that you  

get after the fact definitely make your life more  enjoyable something that i journaled a while ago  

was most of your problems can be solved through a  hard conversation that hard conversation could be  

with yourself sitting yourself down having a  tough conversation but a lot of the time it  

is also with other people in your life if  you think about the problems your friends  

have shared with you recently a lot of them are  going to be interpersonal so things like my mom  

keeps on overstepping my boundaries my friends  are taking advantage of me my boss keeps on  

undermining me during meetings my colleague has  no idea what they're doing all of those problems  

require a hard conversation in order to solve  them but most of them don't get one there's a lot  

of talking about the problem feeling frustrated  about the problem but rarely do people actually  

have a hard conversation with the person that  they're struggling with not all hard conversations  

immediately solve problems by no means but by  having them you're taking responsibility for the  

problem and you're doing something about it you  can exist knowing that you're not just constantly  

complaining about stuff but you are doing stuff  about stuff learning to have hard conversations  

with people has absolutely been one of the most  difficult journeys for me as someone who like  

many others has been raised to put my happiness  on the line for other people some resources that  

i personally have loved have been hayley paige  mcgee on instagram i absolutely love her account  

great for a recovering people pleaser as well  as the absolute classic life-changing book on  

non-violent communication the next way to create a  more enjoyable life is something that i have been  

doing lately which is deciding on the mood that  you want to create in your life and then taking  

just one step actions to create that mood so for  example right now it is winter where i live and  

if you follow me on instagram i've talked about  how winter usually makes me miserable i dread it  

every single year i hate the cold weather i really  don't like it gloomy days but i've decided this  

year that winter will not be miserable it will  be cozy creating a cozy mood in my house isn't  

really an ongoing commitment there are just a  few little steps that i can take lighting some  

candles getting some really warm lights getting my  hoodie set so to embrace this mood it's not like  

i'm creating a list of daily heighty habits to do  in my life i'm doing one step actions that i never  

really have to revisit cozy just means candles  it means fairy lights it means blankets it means  

warm lights in your home these are little changes  that you can make to your environment to create a  

cozy mood and a lot of moods can be created with  just one step actions feeling a little magical  

could mean investing in some and glittery lip  gloss cracking out harry potter buying yourself  

flowers i feel like back in the day the people who  did this really well with those girls on youtube  

they had a new look to their room for every month  of the year most of it was diy and inexpensive and  

i just think we all need to follow suit decide on  the mood that you want to create for your home and  

then take a little one-step actions to start  creating that mood if you liked this video you  

might be in the mindset to do some media resetting  and if you are i have a few videos for you  

i'm gonna have a link to a playlist of all of my  reset videos that i have created that will get  

you in a really fresh mood a clean slatey mood  let's make changes mood that's gonna be on the  

screen as well as down below i appreciate  you so very much and i will see you soon