when I thinkofsocialmediaandanxiety, I meanholymolly, that's like a loadedquestion.
ソーシャルメディアと不安について考えるとき、これはとても難しい問題です。
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Personally, what's affectedmyanxietythemostistheamountofnegativitythat I see, there's justliterallytoomuch, like I findthatthemore I'm lookingat a screen, themoredetached I feelwithmyownbodyortolikewhat's happeningrightinfrontofme, myrelationshipwithsocialmediaisyouknow, a bitaddictiverightnow, which I don't likeand I'm notproudtosaythat, but I alsofeellikethat's somethingthatprobablymostofuscanrelateto.
I don't know, isthatsomethingjustassociety, we'reconditionedfrom a veryyoungagetolikefeellikeweneedthatvalidation, Thatsenseofnotgettingthatenoughpositivereinforcementfromourhomeenvironment, notfeelingrooted, allowsustoreallylookoutsideofourselvesforourreward.
It's sointerestingthatyousaythatbecause a lotofthefeedback, ifitisnegativethat I'veevergottenislike, ohyou'resetting a badexampleorthisishorriblethat I wouldn't wantmykidtoseethisorwhatdoyouthinkwhenparentssayforexampletoyou, whentheysay, youknow, you'resetting a badexampleformykids, I don't knowhowmuchyouknowaboutmyfamilyorus, butthere's there's anassumptionofthekindofpeoplethatweareorwhowearethat I couldsayprettyconfidentlyisprettyinaccurate.
I meanwehave a realitytvshow, so a lotofpeopleknow a lotofourlives, but I thinkthatthere's stillsuch a lackofactuallyknowingourcharacter, whoweare, whenyouthinkabouteveneven a realityshowisgoingtoshowthehighlightsofyourlife, right?
Itisobviouslyeithercanbeusedas a motivationtobeyourverybestoritcanbeusedasanimpossibilityifsomebodyisreallystrugglingwithidentityissuesandwithconfidenceissues, theideaofkeepingupwiththisimageofsomebodythatyouadmiremayreallyseemimpossible.
Canyougivemeanexampleof a timewhereyoukindofhave, like, wouldhighlight a peakmomentofanxietythatisrelatedtosocialmediaforyou.
ソーシャルメディアに関連した不安のピーク時の例を教えてください。
Somethingthatlike, boilsmybloodthatreallyfrustratesmeandlike, I thinkupsetsmethemostiswhenit's someoneclaiming a falsenarrativeforme, theinternet, I guessbasisthingsoffofsuchsmallmomentswithnocontext.
I thinkthere's a certainlossofcontrolofyourownsenseofselfand I thinkthatpeoplecankindofeditedtotheirowntofittheirownpurposeandtofittheirownsenseofrealityorlackofreality, andthenyoujustbecomelike a canvasuponwhichpeopleprojecttheirownstuffonto.
Youknow, I I pridemyselfonbeing a prettydecenthumanbeing, like, I don't think I'm a badpersonoranything, so I wouldn't I'm notsayingit's, youknow, somethingactuallybadthat I wouldhavepostedorwhatever, it's justit's somethingassimpleastheydidn't likewhat I lookedlikeinthatphoto, and I'm surethatgettingthattypeoffeedbackdoessomethingtoyou, doessomethingtoyourconfidence, evenevenKendallJenner, I'm suregettingthetypeoffeedback, doessomethingtoyou, howdoyoufeelwhenyougetsortof, thattypeofcriticalfeedback?
I havemomentsoffeelinglike I'm breakingorfeelinglike I can't takeitanymore, becausesometimesitdoesfeellikeitjust, I canneverdoanythingthatright, sometimescanneverpleaseeverybody.
So I thinkthat I'vebecomenumbtoallofthatin a waythattooktimethough, andthattook a lotofliketalkingtomyselfandhypingmyselfupandbecauseofsocialmedia, everythingishighlighted, everythingisheightened, whethergoodorbad.
Andyouknow, I thinkwithwithCovidreallykeepingyoungpeopleoutofrelationshipsandsocialinteraction, wedon't havethathumanconnectionanymore, which I feellikeweashumanbeingsneedit.
Andit's thesensethatyoustarttotradeyourreallifefortheimaginedlife, wereconstantlybeingbombardedby a newrolemodelorbuy a newstandardofbeautyorbuy a newdesirethatwejustcan't quitebeadequateenoughtomeet.
Andsosettingsomelimits, appropriatelimitsandboundariesisreallycriticaland I wouldsaylastlyissetsometimeforyourselftoreallysocializewithpeople, stayconnectedtothosethatloveyouandreallyrecognizethatnohumanbeingisanisland.
I thinkit's interestingbecause a lotofourconversationaboutsocialmediawashowlikeoverwhelmingeverythingcanbeand I thinkevenjusttalkingaboutitwasreallyoverwhelming, likeit's almost a senseofvalidation.
Hearingitfrom a professionalorfithearingitfrom a doctoroflikeokay I'm nottheonlyonethat's youknowdealingwiththesethoughtsoremotionsandhowinvasiveitfeelslikeinmylifebutit's goodtobeawareofitallandit's goodtotalkaboutitandkindofletitoutandthennowyoucanbeawareprocessandhopefullymoveforward.