Name: これをすれば幸せになれる (If you do this ,then you'll be happy)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T10:46:10.000Z
Duration: 6 min 19 s

今日はとても曇っていて雨が降っているので

so having a cup of tea is incredibly comforting.

お茶を飲むのは凄く気持ち良いですよね。

And this is our first 'Tea-time Tuesday' segment in the new studio.

今回は新しいスタジオでの初の ”火曜日のティータイム”の動画です。

Finding happiness is something I was hoping we could chat about today

今日は「幸せの見つけ方」についてみなさんと話したいと思います。

and I know that it's an incredibly difficult topic to cover because every person is so individual

とは言っても、このトピックは簡単に語れる話ではないですよね。

when it comes to how they feel happy and what makes them happy.

”幸福”については、人類誕生以来ずっと哲学者によって語られ続けてきているように感じますが

And, the topic of happiness: I feel like it's been tackled by philosophers since the dawn of man

どのように人がもっと幸せになれるかなんて 確かな答えはないようですね。

and there seems to be kind of no trivial answer when we are looking at how people can become more happy.

But when we look at something like social media or commercials, they make it seem like it's not even a question at all.

まるで人がどう幸せと感じるかについては全然問題じゃないと思い込んでしまいました。

They give us the impression that, you know, if you buy a certain thing or if you look a certain way,

もし特定の物を買ったり、特定のルックスになったりすれば

幸せになれると語りかけてきます。

They make it seem like happiness is conditional.

幸福になるには条件付きだという風になってしまいました。

”もしあなたが○○をすれば、幸せになれる”

By now I think we've all learned, from one source or another, that social media is heavily curated.

しかし、SNSの写真はすごく修正されたものだということを知っていますよね？

We selectively, and very carefully, choose what we share with the world.

私たちは何を公にするのか とても注意深く選んでいるのです。

The content that I share is very much included in all of that.

私がシェアしている内容もそうです。

So for example, I share with you meals that I authentically eat at home.

例えば、私は家で普段食べている食事を皆さんにお見せしていますよね。

But I plate it in a way that I wouldn't normally do if I was eating it alone at home. Cause I grab some

でも、自分ひとりの時にはしない 盛り付け方をしています。

artsy-looking bowls. I place it on a backdrop with some accent pieces that color complement the food.

オシャレな器を使い、 食事を引き立てるような背景にします。

ちょっとごちゃごちゃした感じに見せます。

I add garnishes to make it look really pretty.

料理の見栄えがするように付け合わせも加えます。

And, I do all of that because it's an art form for me,

それをやる理由は私にとってのアートですから

but I think it gives people the impression that, that's what my food looks like all the time. But it's not!

まるで私はいつもそんな食事をとっているかのように思われるかもしれませんが

It's the whole expectation vs reality bit.

And the same thing happens when we are scrolling through social media

and we see these people who look like they're living exceptionally happy lives.

ソーシャルメディアを見ていると 同じことが起こっていて

And we start to think to ourselves, "Maybe if I do what they're doing,

自分とはかけ離れた幸せそうな生活をしているように見えます。

そこで、”もしあの人がしていることを私もすれば

Maybe if I travel more, then I'll be happy.

きっと私も幸せになれる”という考えに繋がるのです。

”もっと旅をしたら、私は幸せになれるんじゃないか”

that makeup, that jewelry, then I'll be happy."

"Maybe I don't have time for that, because I'm studying, but if and when I graduate then I'll be happy."

”化粧品を、アクセサリーを買えば、、、

It's this game we're constantly playing and it's a game we're never winning.

And it's the If... then game. "If I get fit, then I'll be happy."

”勉強しなくてはいけないから そんな時間は私にはない、でも、”

"If I find a loving and supportive partner, then I'll be happy."

”卒業したら、幸せになれる”

絶え間なく続くゲームなのです

そして、勝利のないゲームなのです

And, I think it's toxic for a couple of reasons.

For one: it makes us feel like happiness is something that only comes later and as a result of something.

”スリムになったら、幸せになれる”

”愛情深くて支えてくれるパ―トナーがいれば、 幸せになれる”

Happiness is something we can all tap into at any moment.

”～したら”、”～したら”、”～したら”の繰り返し

let's say we do that thing; we go travel,

we graduate, we buy that jewelry, we get fit, we have that partner.

一つ目の理由は、幸せは何かの後に、 その結果として来るものと考えてしまうからです

Cause from my experience, it's always something else.

幸せはどの瞬間にも見つけられるものなのです

The bar keeps getting set higher and higher, and happiness seems to be this thing that is forever out of reach.

二つ目の中毒だという理由は、

And, that's how a lot of us can end up feeling like we're stuck in a rut.

アクセサリーを買って、やせて

I think there are three things we can do.

For one: catch that thinking dead in its tracks. If you notice yourself doing the If... then thinking,

remind yourself that it's important to have aspirations and dreams and desires,

私の経験から言って、いつも何かが足りないのです

but achieving those things alone will not make you happy.

幸せへのハードルは高くなる一方で、

Other things can also bring about happiness!

幸せが一生手に入らないかのように 見えてしまうのです

Number two: in that exact moment when you notice yourself doing the If... then thinking

そして、どうしようもないように感じてしまうのです

try to shift your mindset and, one way to do that is to just stop, look around you, and start saying "thank you."

じゃあ、どうしたらいいのか？

３つの、できることがあります

一つ目が、”～したら”思考を捉えること

”～したら”思考をしていると気付いたら

or you're surrounded by certain people, you live in a certain country.

野望、夢、願望を持つことはよいけれど、

これらを手に入れるだけでは 幸せになれないのだと思い出してください

I think that when we do the If... then thinking, we are focusing on the things that we lack.

他にも幸せをもたらしてくれることはあるのです

But when we say "thank you," we are grateful for the things that we have.

二つ目は、「～したら」思考をした瞬間に、

And, so you might want to travel really badly, but we live in a country where a lot of people come to as tourists.

Is there a way that maybe you can be a tourist in your own country?

例えば周りを見渡し、ありがとうと言ってみる

It's just about shifting the mindset a little bit.

ありがとう、ありがとう、ありがとう

We might not have graduated yet, but we have the ability to get an education.

まわりにある全ての事に対して

We have the ability to advance our knowledge.

We might not have a partner, but maybe we have supportive friends or family.

The point of this is to focus on the things that we have instead of the things that we lack.

感謝することは必ずあるはずです

I think it's really important to also mention, that it's okay to not be in the state of happiness all the time,

”～したら”思考をする時には、 足りないものに目が行きます

contrary to what social media makes you believe.

でも、”ありがとう”と言う時には、 すでに持っているもの感謝できます

That's just being human! And, I think that's sometimes the flaw of some of the self-improvement movement.

例えば、すごく旅行に行きたい場合にも

It makes us feel like if we're not stronger, happier, faster, better versions of our former selves then we've failed in some way.

自国を旅することもできるのです

We feel guilty for feeling the ups and downs of life, but that's just characteristic to being human.

あなたの国で観光客となることだってできるのです

We need the ups and downs and hardships to learn and grow.

And those down moments help us appreciate the up moments so much more!

まだ卒業はしていないけれど、

So if I can summarize: happiness is this very difficult and complex topic to explore but it's the state of emotion that we are all constantly striving to achieve.

教育を得られているという現実

And, I think one important way that we can do that is to be grateful for the things that we have instead of focusing on the things that we lack.

So trying to minimize that if... then thinking whenever we can,

and to realize that it's only human to feel down sometimes

支えてくれる友人や家族はいるかもしれません

and to not, kind of feel, guilty for feeling that way.

And, also, before I sign off, there is one more thing

ないものではなく、 今あるものに注目することです

I've been wanting to mention for a while now.

Thanks a lot for enjoying this cup of tea with me! I hope you guys have an awesome week ahead.

”幸せ”と常に感じていなくても良いのです

SNSが信じさせようとしている事と真逆です