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  • that's the raw it's not the right angle it's not right so come closer how do I

  • come closer yeah tilt it there you go oh so it's not that we weren't close

  • enough and because there weren't enough of you why you got a label stuff all the

  • time why you gotta be like that don't don't be labeling stuff I just want to

  • say hello what's up how you guys do it I feel like we're so connected now we're

  • so connected even with me because I got people damning me and saying nice stuff

  • and it's all your girls can we come up with a name for your for your family

  • here what's the name oh I got an idea we can call you guys the Val gals huh Val

  • gals how awesome is Val gals if you guys are into the Val gals leave it in the

  • comments below we're gonna look at it and if you think that's a really bad

  • idea then let us know that too and come up with some suggestions as to what you

  • guys are going to be called great hi guys welcome back to my channel today we

  • decided to do a video about relationships we decided to do this

  • video just because we shot a video previously talking about money and kind

  • of communication and relationship and we got some really awesome feedback and a

  • lot of interest so we decided to cover this subject which is four ways to

  • strengthen your relationship I'm question I'm not a professional like you

  • you are a professional okay when we're looking at this camera do I look into

  • the lens or do I look into the screen so can we take the screen off because it's

  • distracting me no because I need to make sure that the brightness is good and

  • it's focused because we don't want to shoot a video and then it's not focused

  • that's incredible okay all right so the first thing the

  • first thing I want to say about relationships I'm trying not to look

  • into the screen the first thing I want to say about relationships is I wish

  • malaria would be more jealous she is the most on jealous girl in the history of

  • women because I'm confident I know you're confident but you could be just a

  • little job I get that I know but you could be just a little jealous

  • a little jealous you know like hey don't look up my man you know that'd be nice

  • do you feel like there's a middle ground between like being me

  • which is like I'm not jealous to being like level 10 crazy person I

  • just think you should take it up a notch just take it up with a jealousy not just

  • a little bit I just think you're very comfortable and you're not jealous okay

  • that's what I think okay so let's talk about the four ways that we use to

  • strain our relationship point number one is to over communicate communication is

  • key we talk about everything and part of being able to talk so much and like

  • really get into the root of things is coming from like a non-judgmental place

  • I can share whatever I feel and think about with Gary and he's not gonna judge

  • me or label me and I hope you feel the same I think one of the things is that

  • first of all in general don't scream at each other you have to keep calm staying

  • calm is very important I think you got to be aware of your tone you got to be

  • aware of how you're speaking with each other and it's not just about raising

  • your voice it's not being condescending it's it's staying respectful at all

  • times you had a condition your partner that this is the style of communication

  • you want so when you and I get upset each other it doesn't happen often we

  • don't fight a lot we don't fight because we don't hold back from expressing our

  • feelings at that moment if you upset me if something makes me angry a step away

  • maybe I'll take a few deep breaths just to not like first but I'll come back and

  • I'll express everything that I feel so I won't have this like thing going inside

  • of me and that will grow and then I'll explode and it will completely go out of

  • proportion so I think that's where the communication is so so important is

  • because it also kind of helps you to just like detox you guys are you know

  • disagreeing or anything's going on just like talk about it until it's solved

  • until you have no more hostility and anger inside most men they don't want to

  • have this kind of communication they don't want to talk things out they don't

  • want to figure stuff but do you feel like because man just like kind of let

  • it go faster or just because they're not good with words and the way both both I

  • think that they don't want to invest the time they don't want to get to the

  • bottom of things they just want to like go out the door and just say forget

  • about it and go about their business and they just leave it and I think that's

  • when the relationships start breaking down over time I'm a yeah

  • I talk I talk things through I communicate and I just I don't just over

  • communicate with you but that's just my style of everything I do

  • anyway before running businesses I over communicate with people I speak with

  • them a lot I got my hand gestures why can't you let me have my hand gestures

  • yes the second way that is very very important for a relationship to be

  • strong and is to maintain your sense of self I think that is something that is

  • extremely important once you're in a partnership that doesn't mean that you

  • as an individual is finished that's something that is very prominent in our

  • relationship look I think we give each other the space to do what we like to do

  • women always mention to me like oh you're so lucky that Gary is so

  • supportive of everything and like you know yeah I go and I go I know that

  • there are guys who aren't like that with their wives or their girlfriends or

  • whatever and I think those guys are dealing with their own insecurities I

  • don't know I feel pretty secure I'm also older than you so I've had time to

  • figure myself out so to me it's just like if you want to go with your

  • girlfriends like you're gonna agree with your girlfriends them just like yeah

  • cool go to visit your girlfriend giving each other that space is so so important

  • I know that I feel happy I feel like my needs are met as like you know a woman

  • as an individual not only as a wife and a mother so that's definitely something

  • that's extremely important for a relationship and I know for a fact that

  • if I didn't have and felt that freedom I would be miserable yes you have to give

  • it to the freedom but I don't think you're telling them how to do it here's

  • the thing here's the thing and I'm gonna go there I'm gonna go there because

  • here's the thing if you're worried that your man is out doing stuff that you

  • think you shouldn't be doing things that are disrespectful to you you gotta ask

  • yourself is he the right man to be with at all in addition to give each other

  • space you have to have that trust none of this checking up making sure testing

  • there's no point oh my god it takes so much energy and mental capacity to do it

  • and maybe you can do it when you're younger and you're just dating but trust

  • me when you start a family and you have your career and you have kids you don't

  • want to be dealing with it like that's not where you want to put your energy it

  • starts with trust and if you don't trust I would question if you're in the right

  • relationship if you don't try extremely crucial to have a strong

  • relationship is when you are communicating when you are talking to

  • each other is to make sure that you are open that you listen and that you don't

  • rush to blame and I feel like that's something that everyone can improve

  • myself as well even if someone made the mistake listening to each other's

  • perspectives of like how they view the situation and don't rush to blame

  • because again it doesn't contribute to anything at the end of the day I find

  • that I I slip into that easily where I start blaming her and it's something I

  • have to keep in mind and pull myself back from that's the natural place where

  • my mind goes yeah and I know it's incorrect and then I try to correct my

  • thoughts on that matter you know as they're happening but it's not easy to

  • do quite also like the solution to this is just know that you're blaming the

  • other person you got to step back and ask yourself is it their fault and then

  • not lay blame and then the last but not least which is extremely important

  • especially if you look in today's over-connected world is being present I

  • think that we all have a problem with this I think that it doesn't matter like

  • how many people can talk about like I come home and I put the phone down and I

  • turn this off sometimes I catch you you're completely in space you're

  • thinking about God knows what I think that it's natural I think it happens to

  • a lot of people it is very difficult to stay present and that's something that

  • we have to work on to really train our mind to be like snap out of it what are

  • you doing right now I'm looking for PK because I know he's taking an uber here

  • and I'm just wondering when he's gonna pull up and I think he's pulling up he's

  • my best friend we're talking about being present close

  • so I think that's something that we still really but we still try to work

  • hard on obviously there's a lot of work to be done I noticed when Gary's present

  • and I just really appreciate and like really cherish those few moments so so

  • here's what it comes down to I'm gonna say this to the to the men watching guys

  • guys guys look wasn't me look at me look at me you guys won't have success

  • relationship pay attention to your woman that's it just pay attention to her and

  • don't get discouraged right because there's levels to this stuff you got to

  • get into what I just wanna make sure that sounds good I'm just I'm passionate

  • why can't I be passionate and you know watch your relationship blossom because

  • it's a beautiful thing okay thank you guys I hope you enjoyed

  • this video I'll see you guys next time

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