And welcome back to another episode of shine Buzz daily, where it's all about raising your vibration, taking inspired action and moving forward to create the life that you want After a toxic relationship.

Today, I'm gonna share with you something I don't know.

It's kind of an inspirational story, to be honest with you, and I think you're really gonna like it.

So stick with me as we do this now, just for those of you who are new around here, we start this session off with about 15 or 20 minutes of content, sometimes a little less than we read the cards.

And then we jump into the chats of stick around.

If you have questions, comments, concerns or things you want to talk about and let's get going.

Good morning, Peggy.

How are you?

All right, we're busting into it.

It's gonna be a good one today, I hope.

I think you guys are really gonna enjoy this.

So let us let us do it.

All right.

So we're gonna talk today about the singer actress Demi Lovato.

Do recently overcame some toxic relationship issues and found the love of her life.

You're gonna like it.

So let's just do it if you have ever found yourself.

And I know a lot of you have found yourself in a toxic relationship, you know very well how alone you feel and how, when the going gets tough, you look around and most of the people that used to support you weren't there or you're just alone for other reasons.

Narcissus and talks of people to isolate us in relationships.

And as we've discussed many times, when someone is struggling with active addiction or alcoholism during the active addiction part, they tend to behave just like a narcissist, even if they're not otherwise a narcissist.

Right?

So today I'm gonna share a story with you that proves that not only are you not alone, but that toxic relationships can literally affect anyone at all.

Even that rich and famous, the young and beautiful, all the people, right.

So I hope that you're gonna find a little bit of inspiration in this story as well as a new level of understanding in your own situation.

And maybe, I don't know, maybe even a new theme song.

So let's get a shine buzz.

So 27 year old Demi Lovato is a singer, songwriter, actress and television personality.

You might remember that she started her career back in 2002 when she appeared on a on the Children's television.

Siri's Barney and Friends Anybody, um.

But then she rose to prominence for portraying Mitchie tourists in the Disney Channel musical film called Camp Rock in 2008 and then its sequel, Camp Rock, to the Final jam in 2010.

Her parents divorced when she was only two years old, and her father, Patrick Llevado, who unfortunately died of cancer in 2013 was an alcoholic and drug addict, and her mother, Diana, had said that she she's quoted, and I'm gonna I'm gonna read the quote to you, she says.

I thought I could change him.

And I think victims of domestic abuse often feel the same way.

You're not always gonna be able to change someone, no matter how much you want to.

There may come a point where your love for that person may not be enough to keep you safe.

She said this in a recent biography that she released.

So at that time Diana left, her husband, Patrick, took her daughter's Damian Dallas and went to a women's shelter.

Now we all know how hard that is and how difficult that choice must have been for her.

Right?

Well, this is interesting, because kind of a two generational story of abuse and and and recovery there with me later, Demi would would say that her abusive father influenced her first foray into drugs.

She was only 17 years old.

She was still working with the Disney Channel of the Time, and just two years ago, she when she was 18 she ended up in the hospital with an overdose.

And we're gonna talk about that in a minute.

But, um, in a YouTube documentary a couple years ago, three years ago, it was called simply complicated.

Danny said I felt out of control the first time I tried drugs and she said she guess she she's gonna quote her here.

I guess I always searched for what he found, meaning her father in drugs and alcohol, because it fulfilled him and he chose that over a family.

She added that his mental illness made him incapable of even being with her, taking care of his family, and I think a lot of us are gonna be able to relate to this next part, she said.

I was very conflicted when he passed because he was abusive, and she added, He was mean, but he wanted to be a good person, and later she said that he wanted to have his family.

But when her mom married her step dad, he, her father still had this huge heart where he said, I'm so glad that he the stepfather, is taking care of you and doing the job.

I wish I could.

D'oh!

Now I'm not going to speak ill of the dead.

But if I'm being honest, that seems a little familiar to me, Right?

Anyway, Demi has said that she has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, that this is very public information.

I'm not telling you anything.

She hasn't already told the world, Um and and like her mother has struggled with eating disorders.

But again, she's been very open about this, and I think that's powerful in some really good ways, because when you have someone like her standing up and saying, Hey, this is what I'm dealing with we feel less alone, right?

Well, her mother revealed her own issues with the eating disorders as well as Zannex addiction in her recent book.

And we also know that a lot of times when you have someone in a toxic relationship, they will turn to things like drugs, alcohol, even eating disorders, too.

Sort of, you know, find, I don't know, comfort to numb out, to feel like they're in control of something that the eating disorder part, according to Demi's manager in that film that we talked about the YouTube film, she said.

He said He said his name was film film McIntyre.

He said Demi was living.

Two lives on, he said.

Once the cameras stopped rolling, she's living another life.

She couldn't really be herself.

She wasn't a normal teenager.

She couldn't be one.

So this would eventually lead to her tipping point, where she did go to rehab at the age of 18 in November 2010 after a public outburst which apparently included her punching a backup dancer in the face that I read that she said something about all I was thinking was I'm gonna beat this boot up and I and I felt like that was something that maybe wasn't her usual style anyway, This was in South America while she was on tour with the Jonas Brothers and about six months after her relationship with one of them, and it, Joe Jonas and and Demi Lovato apparently dated.

So in January 2018 she was on Good Morning America, and then she said some really awesome stuff, she said, I think she said, I make it my life goal to inspire other people.

I think it's important for me to use my voice for more than just seeing.

I know how I know.

I just know how important it is to use my platform to help others and to share my story in hopes that it inspires people to either get into recovery or better themselves, Whatever it is, I just want people to know they're not alone, and I'm here for them.

I mean, I think that's just a really sweet Um and I don't know.

I feel like she's joint in path, right?

Uh, but then, unfortunately, that same year, after going so far as to even provide free therapy sessions for her fans who attended her concerts when she toured with D J.

Calad, she would famously overdose on drugs, and she risked her life.

I was mistaken beginning when I said she was 18 when she did the overdose.

I'm sorry about that, but since, um since then she obviously should.

She survived, thankfully, and she she's been recovering.

In August of 2018 her team announced they would help her clear a few toxic relationships from her life, which included, I think, a relative and a close friend and someone else.

And she has reportedly been actively recovering since then.

I saw her on Ellen.

I'll tell you that a minute.

Okay, now this gorgeous young woman has come forward with a whole new attitude and a story of triumph, and she's found, Ah, whole new love.

And I'm from being honest with you.

I think she's really standing in a place of inspiration for all of us, anyone who has struggled with a toxic relationship relationship in their life.

So Thursday night, which was, you know, last night, slashed this morning at midnight, she released her new song, her first official single since 2018 and it is called I Love Me, right.

I love it.

In this new video, which I washed this morning, we see her sort of fighting with multiple versions of herself, like physically, which obviously symbolic.

Um, and later, as the song goes on, she's walking down the street.

She's singing about the various myriad of insecurities that holds all of us, that the insecurities that hold all of us down as we're trying to live a life and be happy and so on and so forth.

And then she sings of her newfound love self love, which I just love.

We see this beautiful confidence coming out of her, and she just looks gorgeous.

She sounds great, she says.

I'm gonna read you a couple the lyrics so you'll see why I'm so excited about this, she says, Because I'm a black belt when I'm beating up on myself.

But I'm an expert at giving love to somebody else.

I, me, myself and I don't see eye to eye.

Oh, why do I compare myself to everyone?

And I always got my finger on the self destruct.

I wonder when I love me is enough, right?

Wu, That's a little Anyway, I I happen to catch her on Ellen yesterday.

Well, actually was on YouTube.

Some may have been a couple days ago that it was recorded.

But I just saw yesterday when she talked about the single and the road to recovery, and I thought, That's powerful and she she said, So money, um, things I could relate to as a survivor.

And I think that you could really, too, as well.

I'm sure you can see that clip still here on YouTube and in fact, what I'll do after the video's lives.

I'll put it in the description or in the in the pin comment.

But she talked about her new self care routines that are actually helping her as she's recovering from that relapse as well as her eating disorder.

And near the end of the interview was maybe the best part.

She turned to the audience, and she said, We're good by ourselves.

We don't need a partner and we don't need substances were good.

I loved it.

I feel like this story offers a special kind of inspiration for survivors like us.

And like I mentioned, I feel like her new song might just be the theme song a lot of us really need right now, right?

I want to know what you think That's the question of the day.

What do you think about Demi Lovato?

Her new song, Her recovery story?

Or how can you relate to it?

So share your thoughts, ideas, experiences in the comments section or the chat of your with me live right now and let me know what you think about this.

And, uh, now, my friends, it is time to read the cards.

So let's just jump right into it, shall we?

All right.

Thank you.

My three loves.

All right, we're going Thio first read the card from our dialectical behavior therapy skills deck.

And today we are on number 41.

Now, you can buy these if you want to.

I will put the least the description after the session.

But you don't need to because I'm sharing all of them with you.

And like I said, wrong number 41.

So this is an interpersonal effectiveness skill.

Our 2nd 1 and it reads.

Get ready.

This is your homework.

Grab your pen and your pencil in your paper.

Write this down.

Pay paid mindful attention to others today.

Focus on the people to whom you're speaking.

Notice what they're saying with their words and what their body language is telling you If you find anything confusing.

Asked for clarification, for example.

How are you feeling?

Are we okay?

Or I noticed you seem nervous.

Is that accurate?

Don't do this with a narcissist, but everybody else, all right.

And next up, we're going to read our daily affirmation for today from the Gabrielle Bernstein Super Attractor deck again.

You can purchase those.

I'll have it in the description below.

But it's not necessary because I'm sharing all of them with you.

And today's card.

It's a pretty one.

And it reads.

My greatest spiritual gifts don't come through force.

They come through freedom.

That's a good one, right?

My greatest spiritual gifts don't come from four through force.

They come through freedom.

All right.

Hello, everybody.

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Okay, we are going to jump into the chats of you have questions, comments, concerns, things you want to talk about.

Hit me up in the chat right now, and I will be answering your questions and we'll go forward from here.

So what do you think about the Demi Lovato thing?

Can you relate to it?

Share your thoughts, ideas, Everything right?

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