Name: 友情＋有害な関係 GRWM (Friendships + Toxic Relationships GRWM)
Uploaded: 2021-01-14T08:38:41.000Z
Duration: 15 min 36 s
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we are sitting down, we're getting ready,

And I know a few of you guys are thinking,

you know Jenn, I'm good, my friends rock.

like keep those people close to you and keep shining.

However if you are struggling in this department,

I just wanted to give you guys my two cents on friendships.

and keeping good people around you is important

I'm pretty sure that all of us have been in a position

where we've met someone, we really hit it off,

and it's like, good for a couple of months or moments.

And then you kind of phase out the friendship

And I know it may sound a little bit harsh

like oh my gosh, she's just cutting off some friends,

If you apply this same concept to dating,

we spill our guts and talk about everything,

and then once things get rocky, we have the talk.

And then you might never talk to this stranger ever again.

Like if a person is causing you so much stress in your life,

it's not your duty to be their best friend.

But I just think it's weird because like honestly,

I find that having that talk with a friend

is way more uncomfortable than having that talk

I don't know if you guys feel the same way

But anywho, I want to talk about some specific dealbreakers

why it's on Dr. Gottman's divorce predictors.

It's criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness.

But they say criticism is enough to kill any relationship.

And I know that there's a difference between

constructive criticism and just plain criticism,

although I do appreciate constructive criticism,

if you are giving me constructive criticism

It just gets to a point where you're like

like oh, you've got something on your shirt.

I feel like it's like the tone they say it, too.

I don't expect to be coddled in a friendship

you're saying something that I'm doing wrong,

But for some things I just don't really care.

Like for example, if I have like a stain on my shirt

it's like, yeah, I have a stain on my shirt.

I'm already at the Grove, I do not have a Tide pen.

So what was the benefit of you pointing that out to me?

It just makes the person that you're calling out feel bad.

If there is a friend where you're always wanting

you might wanna re-evaluate and really think about

and would help the friendship for the better

and then bring it up in a calm conversation

And I feel like that would have a much better reaction

than always nitpicking and nagging on a friend.

And when you do that, that is productive feedback.

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友情＋有害な関係 GRWM (Friendships + Toxic Relationships GRWM)

literally

constantly

absolutely

effort