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  • Brian, from Davenport.

  • From lowa.

  • So--

  • -Hi, Brian. -(How are you?)

  • I'm well-- Hi, Brian.

  • I'm well as far as I know, but what do I know?

  • You know, I'm sure, I'm sure, mmm--

  • You know, I've got to say "fine," because, ultimately, it's true.

  • For all of us.

  • Agreed, agreed.

  • OK. So, good to see you, Brian.

  • So, what's your question?

  • Well, my question is in regards to releasing outcome.

  • Oh, Brian, why don't you read it,

  • so, everyone can catch up with us?

  • Absolutely.

  • So, the email that I sent,

  • "First, let me say you've been such an inspiration

  • and life-changing force in my life in the past few months.

  • I discovered you a few months ago

  • and it's just really started changing my perspective on almost everything."

  • So, thank you for that."

  • Oh, you're very welcome.

  • Where did you find out about The Work?

  • Actually, I was watching The Rosie Show.

  • Uh-huh.

  • -And Jenny McCarthy was on. -Yeah.

  • And she mentioned your name.

  • And I'd heard your name before.

  • And I thought, "Well, I'm gonna just Google it."

  • Yeah.

  • And I started watching the videos, and then I found "Loving What Is."

  • And now, I just can't get enough.

  • Oh, that is-- Doesn't it fill the hunger?

  • It's like, say, there's only one hunger,

  • the hunger for oneself.

  • And it certainly brings it forth, those questions.

  • That's exactly right.

  • It's--

  • Yeah. I almost can't even describe it, but that's an excellent way to say it.

  • Yeah. A little experience going here, but you certainly relate to it.

  • So, continue to read.

  • "My question is in regards to releasing outcome.

  • I am currently unemployed.

  • I just relocated back to my hometown area,

  • here in the Midwest.

  • I have had great job interviews

  • and I wish to be able to let go of the outcome,

  • once I have done my best in the application interview process.

  • So, my question is,

  • 'How do you keep from feeling anxious about these results,

  • when it relates to your livelihood?'"

  • OK. So, for one thing, have you ever heard me talk

  • or have you read about the three kinds of business?

  • Yes.

  • Whose business is it, who you hire?

  • That's their business.

  • -Whose business-- -It's the person's hiring.

  • Whose business is it who you hire,

  • if you're gonna hire someone?

  • -My business. -OK.

  • And whose business is it who they hire?

  • -Their business. -OK.

  • And what happens to your life when you mentally go into their business?

  • That's where the anxiety comes from.

  • Yeah. It's like, you're already running their business

  • and they haven't even hired you.

  • You're out of-- You're in the wrong job.

  • -Right. -OK.

  • So, now, and I invite all of you to notice,

  • mentally,

  • whose business you're in.

  • Whose company are you running? Whose life are you running?

  • Whose world are you running?

  • And just notice how much effort that takes.

  • And that can just bring you right back to your own business,

  • where you're standing or sitting and noticing all the gifts around you.

  • They're limitless.

  • Mm-hmm.

  • I mean, look where you're sitting and notice what's holding you,

  • that chair, and what's holding that, and what's holding that.

  • And the way you're shaking your head--

  • I mean, you're not even-- not the doer, there it comes again.

  • I mean, and that smile, spontaneous.

  • You know, you're--

  • This is a miracle. This is a miracle being lived.

  • And when we're mentally out of our business,

  • we miss what's really going on.

  • Now, to me, that's being employed.

  • That's the job that matters,

  • because in what people call "the now," in "the now,"

  • that's where everything you are to do in life is possible.

  • I mean, it could be just doing the dishes.

  • It's like, a thought comes, "To do the dishes."

  • That's your employment.

  • If you can't do that, when someone hires you,

  • what are they hiring?

  • So, you think the thought, "Do the dishes,"

  • and for some of us, our mind overrides it,

  • like, "What for?" "It's not my turn."

  • "He dirtied the dishes!" "I'm always"--yada, yada, yada.

  • And it overrides that first, clear direction.

  • "You want a great job?" OK, first do the dishes.

  • Just do that.

  • And then, it's like--

  • Do the laundry.

  • I mean, it can just--

  • It's just the most marvelous, marvelous thing.

  • OK. So, "You are unemployed."

  • Mm-hmm.

  • Is that true?

  • No.

  • It's not true.

  • And how do you react, what happens to your head and your life,

  • when you think the thought, "I'm unemployed"?

  • I get a little overwhelmed.

  • I get anxious.

  • I feel like other people are having this expectation

  • that I should be employed or that I am unemployed.

  • I start to get into other people's business.

  • Oh, isn't that interesting?

  • So, you start taking over their world.

  • Mm-hmm.

  • Let's say you're in your home, you're sitting there, alone,

  • you bring the whole world in with you.

  • That's a lot.

  • That's a lot. That's pretty stressful.

  • What they think, what they care about,

  • what they want, what they should--

  • And, of course, for me, that all belongs on paper,

  • where I can question it and wake me up,

  • wake me up to the things we're talking about now.

  • Now, in that situation you are imagining,

  • let's just say you're sitting here alone.

  • Who would you be without the thought, "I'm unemployed"?

  • I'd be much freer--

  • and open--

  • Freer to what?

  • -To speak-- -To sit there, comfortably.

  • Mm-hmm--

  • In your own skin and be supported with what you do have.

  • Mm-hmm.

  • Oh, you know, sweetheart, that is the greatest employment

  • I think we can have.

  • And then the phone rings and they say, "You got the job!"

  • and you think-- It's just like, "Next!"

  • Mm-hmm.

  • I've done the dishes, you know?

  • If I can do the dishes on cue, I can do that.

  • Or maybe not. Let's just go see what's next.

  • Let's see what's next, you know? That's my job.

  • -Right. -To see what's next.

  • And, if I don't love it, then it shows me what's next.

  • And because that's my employment, that's my job,

  • it's always priority with me.

  • That way, I'm--

  • I'm more user-friendly to the world.

  • Sure, sure.

  • And that's my heart-- Isn't that our heart's desire?

  • So, "I'm unemployed." Turn it around.

  • What's an opposite?

  • "I'm fully employed."

  • So, give you an example, "I'm fully employed."

  • Mmm--

  • I--

  • am living--

  • what's in front of me right now.

  • I'm in chair, I'm talking to you--

  • You know, I love that.

  • You know how many people in the world are sitting in a chair,

  • talking to someone

  • and they don't even know that that's their world?

  • They may be attempting to--

  • They're seeking love, approval, appreciation from that person.

  • They're just not so comfortable.

  • -Mm-hmm. -Can you find another example?

  • "I'm fully employed."

  • Ah--

  • I have a lot of extracurricular things in my life going on in the arts--

  • Oh, my goodness.

  • -Very lucky there. -Very employed there.

  • Very employed there.

  • Very much so.

  • Mmm--

  • Which feels great.

  • And I think so much of what you're saying,

  • and putting it on paper, and thinking about it,

  • and putting it up against inquiry,

  • um, it works for me.

  • And I think part of it,

  • part of, maybe, the problem,

  • if you want to describe it as that, is being patient with myself

  • when that old thought pattern comes back.

  • -You know what I mean? -Yes. I do.

  • Like, I can be cruising along and then it comes back.

  • I do. So, put it on paper, what's coming back is what's left.

  • Mmm--

  • And also, I had another example of "I'm fully employed."

  • -Wanna hear it? -Yeah, please.

  • "I'm fully employed,"

  • I'm dedicated to putting my applications in everywhere.

  • That's employment.

  • My job is to continue to put those applications in.

  • And who they hire is none of my business.

  • It is not kind, it's not respectful to run their company,

  • when I'm not even paid to.

  • Right.

  • It certainly costs me the awareness of what is, right here, in this moment.

  • And that's a beautiful thing.

  • Now, if they hire you, you make the money,

  • so then you're going to be comfortable.

  • Well, you can have that right now.

  • Because if you can't be comfortable here, you can't be comfortable there.

  • So, this is training.

  • You know, it's like, why put it off?

  • Why put off the joy of living right now,

  • when having a job, mentally,

  • is designed to give you that, ultimately?

  • So, we never have to wait for that.

  • It's like, we can retire now, on the job.

  • If they hire you and you love it, it's just doing the dishes.

  • No more, no less.

  • -Yeah. -And your art--

  • Absolutely.

  • So, those thoughts

  • that you experience,

  • sweetheart, identify them,

  • put them on paper, and that Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet.

  • And, you know, there's that new app out,

  • where you can just carry The Work with you,

  • just wherever you are.

  • You just identify the thoughts,

  • stick it on there and Work it on through.

  • I just downloaded that yesterday.

  • Oh, my gosh. Have you tried it?

  • I have, yeah.

  • I tried it yesterday.

  • It's very easy to do and it's right there in your pocket.

  • Oh, that's great.

  • How were the tutorials? Do those work for you?

  • That's, yeah--

  • I didn't go through all of the tutorials, but yeah--

  • I started out there and they're very helpful.

  • Oh, good. Good.

  • OK. Any sign that they're not, we just switch it around.

  • We have an amazing team here, an amazing staff.

  • I believe it, I believe it.

  • Oh, Brian--

  • Honey, thank you for your Work.

  • Thank you so much.

  • It means-- It's almost surreal talking to you.

  • So, thank you.

  • Well, you know, we're both employed

  • and we've just done our job.

  • And I think we did it well. "Next!"

  • Thank you. Thank you, Brian.

Brian, from Davenport.