collaborator of this video and before I do that I want to introduce what this

video topic is about now this video is going to be about how to be more

charismatic we're going to give you six solid tips on what you can do to

increase your charisma without further ado here is alpha M gentlemen great to

see you practical psychology thank you so much for having me on your incredible

channel to talk about something I'm incredibly excited and passionate about

which is charisma the reason charisma is so exciting to me personally is because

I know that it's something that can be learned most people including myself

we're not born charismatic think of it like any skill the more you practice the

better at it you're going to get tip number one is make other people feel

better about themselves what are the main reasons why charismatic people are

so magnetic is because of the way they make you feel about yourself one way

that you can actually help other people feel great about themselves is by giving

them compliments what happens when you get a compliment

exactly you feel great about yourself you also view the person that gave that

compliment to you more favorably so tip number two is to be curious one of the

best ways to be charismatic is by directing the attention from yourself to

someone else now this is pretty cool because if you're a bit shy or nervous

around a whole bunch of people this can help by taking the tension away from you

the trick here is because people are usually egocentric even from a child

they love to talk about themselves what they've done what they're going to do

and if you can get them to keep talking about themselves in a manner that

doesn't seem like an interview you will intrigue them when the best tricks I

found is before asking someone a question make a statement here's an

example hey how was your trip it was awesome we went skydiving scuba diving

and even rock climbing that's interesting I've been scuba diving and

rock climbing before on a vacation when I was little but never skydiving can you

tell me what the best part was or were any tips if I ever go see right here

you're saying something about yourself how it relates to their story and then

psychologically rewarding them to talk about their story again and one of my

favorite books how to win friends and influence people the author tells a

similar story about how he was at a party and at the end of the party one of

his friends says that he was super intriguing and fun to be

on much more than any other person at the party and the author wanted to know

why so he analyzed everything he did that evening and he came to the

conclusion of three things he asked his friend more questions than anyone else

he listened to what the person had to say not only with his ears but also his

body and he prompted him to continue talking so basically just be genuinely

curious about another person the third tip to being viewed as more charismatic

is learning to be an active listener listening is a lot more than just

hearing what somebody else is saying you listen with your body I contact body

language instead of clothes open up stand a little bit closer huh

RIA I really think you see what I just did that exactly

active listening I let the person that was speaking know that I am indeed not

only hearing I'm engaged in what they're saying the fourth tip is to be warm but

also powerful now this might seem like an oxymoron because when you think of a

character trait of warmth you might think of your loving grandmother or a

small young child and when you think of someone who is powerful you think of

large men like Tony Robbins Vladimir Putin or even this guy but according to

the research in the book compelling people charisma can be created through a

personality combination of warmth and power or also humility and respect the

research found that many influential people throughout history have a

combination of these two qualities and if they only had one quality they didn't

last very long now one thing to note here is that you can do actions to

portray these characteristic traits but ultimately this tip comes down to how

other people perceive you so I'm going to be giving three quick tips on how you

can be perceived as both warm and powerful so warmth if you're older you

automatically get this point on average people over the age of 65 are perceived

as warmer less of a threat and more genuine number two if you have a wide

smile you may be approached more often which over many years can increase your

communication skills and thus warmth tip number three is that if you close

the distance between you and a group of people or even a single person you

signal that you feel safe with them which is also perceived as warmth

now on to power one of the simplest ways you can be seen as more powerful is by

increasing your total muscle mass now the other side of that is I have seen

people who have never touched a weight in their life but can cultivate a crowd

just by their body language keep your chin up shoulders back and try to have a

confident stride and the last tip on pie our is avoid touching your face or using

filler words like um or hmm because this will lower someone's trust with you on a

psychological level the fifth tips of being viewed as more charismatic is

being a positive and optimistic person both in what you're saying and your

opinions everyone's been around or known that

negative person right that's always negative and putting other people down

how much do you want to be around them exactly like zero and on the flip side

we all know people that are super optimistic people that think a it's

going to be okay we can do this things are incredible and you're amazing

these people we view as more charismatic my third and last tip is going to be

about confidence so naturally if you're on the path to becoming a more

charismatic person you'll know the importance of confidence and especially

self-esteem one of the things about being around people over a long period

of time is that you will eventually get smoked out and this means that if you

are not genuine not authentic if you're putting on a mask of charisma people

will find out this is probably why alpha has done so well on YouTube and in all

of his business projects I've seen some videos of him that really really hit

home on sensitive and personal topics and that genuine and honest

characteristic trait of his is something that over time will get smoked out and

people will see the real person behind the charismatic personality so it's best

if the charisma is real and not just on a surface level

so my tip at the core is to be confident in who you are and to have great

self-esteem now most of the time depending on how you grew up your

friends your parents this doesn't always come naturally so you'll have to work on

it I can guarantee you though if you focus on it and work on it you will get

better your confidence will grow you start hanging around the right people

your self-esteem will grow and over time it can solidify so if you want more tips

on self-esteem and confidence alpha has some great videos about this on his

channel and I did a pretty long video with lots of specific tips and I'll link

all of those in the description below alright guys that was six solid tips on

how to increase your charisma the link is in the description to go check out

his channel or you can check out either one of these in cards hope you guys

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