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  • Hi, Brad Browning here, breakup coach and author of the Ex Factor Guideand in this

  • video I’m going to teach you how to win your ex back by simply texting on your phone.

  • I know, I knowthere’s a lot more to winning your ex back than sending some text messages.

  • But texting can be an extremely effective method of establishing rapport, trust, and

  • attraction with your ex... if executed correctly. BUT if you have no idea what youre doing,

  • then texting your ex can be a one-way ticket tostaying single and looking desperate.”

  • So watch this video to the very end if you want to learn exactly how totext your

  • ex backcorrectly.

  • A lot of clients ask meshould I call or text my ex? Personally, I believe texting

  • is a much safer way to communicate with your ex. It doesn’t require you to have a full-blown,

  • face-to-face conversation and it’s extremely non-invasive. Your ex is free to reply to

  • you whenever he or she wants, and youre able to reply to your ex’s text whenever

  • you want too. This sort of dynamic allows you time to think about what to say before

  • you actually say it.

  • With most of the clients that I coach, I tell them that texting is usually the best route

  • when communicating with their exes, but in some cases, texting might not be the right

  • move. For instance, if you and your ex never texted one another during your relationship,

  • it might be weird to all of a sudden start texting him or her. So keep this in mind before

  • employing the tips that I reveal in this video.

  • Now, before I get started with what to text your ex, I’m going to first teach you what

  • NOT to do, so you know, right off the bat, what you absolutely SHOULD NOT do if you want

  • to get your ex back through texting. And let me tell you, after coaching people for 10

  • years, I can say that the vast majority of people DO commit these huge texting errors

  • and theses mistakes can sometimes decimate any chance of rekindling a relationship with

  • an ex.

  • I always like the saying… “When emotions run high, logic runs low.” When youre

  • reeling from a tough breakup, chances are youre not thinking clearly. Youre heartbroken,

  • desperate, depressed, and youre just not yourself. And most importantly, youre not

  • thinking logically! And when logic goes out the window, people tend to send 3 kinds of

  • BAD text messages. These are text messages that you might be guilty of, so it’s important

  • you listen closely to what I’m about to say

  • The first kind of bad text message people like to send to their ex after a breakup is

  • what I like theHate Text.” While venting can be therapeutic, saying mean things to

  • your ex will ruin your chances of ever rebuilding a relationship with him or her. If you find

  • yourself angry with your ex, then give yourself a moment to cool down before you pick up your

  • phone. While being angry and emotional is COMPLETELY NORMAL for a person in your situation,

  • it’s wise to not act on these emotions if you want to win your ex back. I meanwhat

  • is your goal right now? To get in thatone last shotat your ex? Or to win them back

  • and make them love you again? Think about it this way: people tend to gravitate towards

  • things that make them feel good, and if your ex associates negative feelings with YOU,

  • the less likely it is theyll feel attracted to you again, let alone talk to you. So take

  • a chill pill, relax, and live to fight another day.

  • The secondbad textorbad text messages”, I should say, are what I like to callSpam

  • Texts”. When emotions are running and high and youre feeling desperate, all you want

  • to do is just pick up your phone and start texting your ex NON STOP! The problem is

  • nobody likes spam and nobody wants to talk to someone who’s frantic and desperate.

  • Put yourself in the shoes of someone who’s receiving 20 or 30 messages a day from someone

  • you don’t even want to talk to! Maybe youve even been there yourself. Annoying, right?

  • One client told me that he sent 67 text messages over the course of 2 days to his ex without

  • getting a single replyand needless to say, this man didn’t get his ex back. No

  • surprise there.

  • The last textingno-nois theOveremotional Text”. These are texts that come across

  • as extremely needy. Anything along the lines of, “You broke you my heartor “I don’t

  • think I can love another again.”…stuff like that will kill any sort of attraction

  • that your ex has of you. At the time, you might think that these text messages sound

  • honest and sweet, but in reality, showing neediness to such a high degree will drive

  • your ex far, far away.

  • By sending any of these three text messages, you turn yourself into what I callThe

  • Texting Terrorist.” Youre forcing your ex to feel hurt and annoyed by youand

  • in some cases, youll even scare your ex off completely.

  • Now I know what some of you might be thinking…”Oh crap, I totally made all of these texting

  • mistakes! Am I screwed or is there a chance of salvaging my situation?” The quick answer

  • is yes, there is a chance you can recover from these mistakes and there is a chance

  • you can get back on the road of winning your ex back, but youll have to follow my instructions

  • very carefully.

  • If youve committed some of these errors, then it’s important to get your ex back

  • to what I callEmotional Neutral.” Right now, your ex is feeling annoyed or angered

  • by your text messagesand rightfully so. So the next logical step is to remove all

  • the negative feelings your ex has of you by sending a quick apology text and employing

  • the no-contact strategy. If this is the first video youve seen by me, the no-contact

  • involves not contacting your ex for a certain period of time. Youve probably seen some

  • relationship gurus here on YouTube disagree with this tacticbut through my experience

  • and research, the no-contact strategy is absolutely necessary in most situations. There are certain

  • exceptions to this rule, but for the vast majority of you, no-contact is a must.

  • So if youve been sending any of these hurtful or desperate text messages, the quickest way

  • to get your ex to rebound is to first send a quick apology textsomething quick and

  • short.

  • Say something like…”Sorry I’ve been emotional the last few days. Other things

  • have been stressing me on top of this breakout and I lashed out. Wish you luck.”

  • And that’s it. This text message accomplishes two thingsyou apologize to your ex and

  • you give yourself an excuse for acting inappropriately. After you send this, you MUST engage in no-contact

  • for a period of at least 30 days. It doesn’t matter if your ex texts you back or asks you

  • how youre doing, etc., when I say no contact, I really do mean NO CONTACT. So literally

  • ZERO text messages during this time. This is very important for several reasons.

  • See, right now your ex thinks that YOURE chasing him or her. They think that they have

  • all the power and that, if they wanted to, they could have you back whenever they wanted.

  • So what you need to do is to take that power away from them so that they begin to start

  • chasing YOU instead.

  • For example, imagine your ex sends you a message 15 days into the no-contact period and he

  • or she gets no reply for several days. Your ex will start constantly checking his or her

  • phone, waiting for a response. This will make your ex emotional and he or she will wonder

  • why you aren’t replyingand this is exactly why no-contact works so brilliantly. It turns

  • the tables upside down and makes your ex WANT to talk to you.

  • Of course, no-contact is only a small step towards getting your ex back, but if you want

  • to learn my full, proven system, then just head over to BreakupBrad.com and checkout

  • the full length video on my website. That’s BreakupBrad.comand I’ll link to that

  • video in the description below.

  • A lot of men and women ask mehow long should my no contact period be? And the answer to

  • that fully depends on the severity of your breakup. How much begging and pleading did

  • you do directly after the breakup? Did you send angry text messages to him or her? Did

  • you send any of the three so-calledbad textmessages I described earlier? Ask

  • yourself these questions and BE HONEST with yourself. If you committed several of these

  • errors and you know your ex is annoyed or angry at you, you probably need to wait more

  • than 30 days. In some cases, I recommend clients not contact their ex for 60 days or moreagain,

  • this all depends on his or her specific situation.

  • So let’s fast forward this timeline and say that youve done everything perfectly.

  • You quickly apologized, you engaged in No Contact, and you do all of the other things

  • that I recommend in my Ex Factor Guide program. What now? How do you go fromNo Contact

  • to having a positive conversation with your ex? And, by the way, that is the goal right

  • now. At this point in time, your only goal should be to establish positive rapport with

  • your ex. Youre not going to make them fall madly in love with you again just by sending

  • a few messages to thembut building rapport is a crucial beginning.

  • So what kind of text should you be sending? In my Ex Factor Guide, I go through dozens

  • of text messaging examples, but in this video, I’ll go through three kinds of text messages

  • that are sure to establish a good basis for reconnecting with your ex.

  • Text number one is something that I like to call myBig Interesttext message. Remember,

  • nobody wants to receive a super boring text likeheyorwhat’s up”…not

  • only do these texts lack purpose, but it doesn’t make your ex feel any emotions at all. You

  • want to send something that makes them feel goodAND that has actual value. To let you

  • know what I mean, let’s jump into an example of a “Big Interesttext message

  • You could send your ex something like

  • Hey, just heard that theFoo Fightersare coming into town in Junejust remembered

  • how much you loved them. Hope everything is going well.”

  • And that’s it! For now, this is all you need to send to your text message to eventually

  • get started and reconnect. So why does this text message work? Well, for one, you have

  • a very clear purpose as to why youre texting your ex. Youre not begging, youre not

  • pleading or getting angryyoure simply letting him or her know about something that

  • may be a huge interest to them. Secondly, you don’t force a conversation. You end

  • the reply with, “hope everything is going well.” Your ex can reply to your text or

  • they can simply ignore it if they wantbut if you did everything correctly up until

  • this point, you should be getting a positive response from your ex.

  • The second ice-breaker text message is a little more advanced, so use it with caution. I call

  • it myGood Remindertext message. The goal of this text message is to remind your

  • ex of a positive experience you two shared while you were together, without appearing

  • awkward or weird. Let’s jump into an example text

  • You could say something like

  • Hey, remember that amazing dinner we had on the corner of Yates and Blanshard St.?

  • What was the name of that restaurant again? I want to take a friend there.”

  • Depending on where youre at with your ex, this message can do wonders. In this particular

  • text message, youre reminding your ex of the amazing dinner you two shared togetherand

  • this will force your ex to think about that positive experience. Secondly, this text message

  • is great because it incites a little bit of jealousy and mystery. Your ex might be thinking…”WHO

  • are you taking to dinner and why?” Again, this text message is extremely effective if

  • you send it at the right time. If you feel like your ex is still annoyed by you, then

  • sending this text will only ensure that WON’T get a reply back.

  • The third text message is one of my favorites. It’s called theSmile Text”. Now, this

  • text message should only be used if you handled your breakup properlyas in, you didn’t

  • beg or plead, and you didn’t get angry. Let’s jump into an example, shall we?

  • Say something like

  • “I just stumbled upon my old copy of Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince and it made

  • me think about you for the first time in awhileand it put a smile on my face!”

  • Again, like the last two text messages, your text message has a purpose. Youre trying

  • to reel your ex in emotionally with something positive and interesting. You aren’t trying

  • to stir up any drama or the set the world on fire, youre simply reconnecting and

  • building rapport. Attraction, love, romance, etc., are things that will come much later

  • in this process. And again, if you want to learn THE ENTIRE method on how to get your

  • ex to come back to you, just simply watch the full video presentation on my website,

  • BreakBrad.com

  • Hopefully, if youve done everything correctly, your ex will respond to you in a positive

  • way, but there are a few things you need to remember when trying to carry a conversation

  • with him or her.

  • Rule number one: Put a “delayin between all of your text messages. At this point,

  • youll want to appear as nonchalant as possible, and putting a solid delay in between text

  • messages can do just that. So instead of replying to his or her text messages right away, wait

  • an hour or more. This will create some level of anticipation in your ex, and will also

  • help remove any sort ofdesperateorneedysentiment your ex still may have

  • of you. Also, if youve just reconnected after the no contact period, then you should

  • only be exchanging a few text messages a dayno more than 6 or 7 text messages in any

  • given day.

  • Rule number two: Keep your replies brief, but don’t forget some basic principles.

  • If you were to send huge, long, rambling text messages, your might appear a little desperate

  • for attention. So keep the text messages as short as possible, but not so short that you

  • kill the conversation. Keep talking about things that interest your ex and ask honest

  • questions.

  • Rule number three: Never bring up any drama. Don’t talk about your past relationship,

  • don’t ask who theyre dating right now, and don’t try and argue with your ex. The

  • goal here is to remain positive so that your ex will WANT to meet up with you.

  • So now that weve established some rules, how do you go from texting your ex to dating

  • your ex? Well, first things first, you need to establish a quick meet up. No, you don’t

  • want to ask your ex out on a date or anything like that, but youll want to have a quick

  • coffee or hangout with your ex at some point. The best way to do this is to make sure you

  • have a very good REASON to want to see your ex. For example, say youve been texting

  • your ex back and forth for a few days and you want to finally take it to the next level

  • and set up a coffee hangout. Don’t just ask them to go out for coffeethis could

  • set off alarm bells inside your ex’s mind. Youll want to have an EXCUSE to meet up

  • with your ex. Let me jump right into an example text before I explain

  • You could say something like

  • By the way, I’m planning a trip to Portugal at the end of August and could use some advice.

  • Since I know youve been there, it would be awesome if you could give me some pointers!

  • Can we grab a quick coffee this Friday? I’d really appreciate it!”

  • And here’s another example

  • “I’m redesigning my living room and was wondering if you could give me a few pointers!

  • I know youve always been good with interior design stuff. Could we grab a quick 20 minute

  • coffee?”

  • Something simple and straightforward this is a perfect way to set the tone. Youll

  • want to appear friendly FOR NOWany sort of flirting or suggestion of romance might

  • scare your ex. So for now, just set up a meet! Once you learn how to do this, youll be

  • able to start pushing your ex’s psychologicalhot buttonsand make them fall for you

  • again by using my “3R System”.

  • The “3R Systemis what I teach in my Ex Factor Guideand it’s method that

  • I’ve used to teach thousands of men and women win back the love of their lives. It’s

  • pretty simple and straightforward, and it will give you the very best chance to win

  • your ex back for good. For more information on exactly how my “3R System works, simply

  • head over to BreakupBrad.com and check out the video presentation. Again, that’s BreakupBrad.com.

  • Well, that’s all I have for you today, ladies and gentleman. Hopefully youve learned

  • something in this video, but if you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to

  • comment below and I’ll do my best to get back to you. Thanks and I’ll see you soon!

Hi, Brad Browning here, breakup coach and author of the Ex Factor Guideand in this

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