I'vebeen a morticianforover 13 yearsandcaredforthousandsoflovedones.
I takebodiesthatareunreviewableandworkmydarkartinto a viewableoptionforfamiliestohaveat a funeral.
It's mygoaltocombinescienceandbeautyTocreate a positivelastmemoryforthatfamily.
It's about 6:30 AMhereandjustgettingmydaygoing I spendeachmorninglikethisandwhatcan I say?
I'm a doglover.
I'm notyouraveragemortician.
I'm also a licensedembalmercremationistdesireEcologistandpostmortemreconstructivespecialist.
Beinganembalmerisdefinitelyphysicallydemanding.
It's mentallydemanding, It's emotionallydemanding, butforsureyougottabeinshapeso I stretch.
I doyoga, youknow, goingovermypositiveaffirmations, I makecoffeeeverymorning.
I havemydeathwishcoffee, which I absolutelylovebecauseit's superstrong.
I preplanallmymealsandpackagedallmymeals, usuallythedaybeforeorthatmorning, dependingonwhat I'm goingtobedoingfromtheirheadintothebathroomandstartmydailyroutine.
I useretin a ortrinitytoninonmyskintomakesurethat I'm abletobattlethese, youknow, maybebreakoutsorwhatnot.
I love a miragefacewashand I willusethat.
Itreallygetsinthereontopofthemirroredfacewash.
I willuse a dermalogicalmicroscrubanditreallydoesseemtogetinthereandremoveanyofthoseoils.
If I'm wearingmakeup, I willbustopenmymakeupkit.
I am a mattegirl, I'm a Macpro, I was a makeupartistbefore, I was a mortician, I liketotakecareoftheoutsidetoo, and I feellikewhen I lookgood, I canpresentthattofamiliesandthentheycanfeelconfidentthat I'm goingtomaketheirlovedonelookgood.
I lovethistwofacedbronzerandeventhoughitiskindofthick, itsmellsreallygood, which I love, I'm inmyfortiesnow, sothatmeansthat I dohavetousehaircolorand I absolutelyloveredkinhaircolor, I'd use a lotofemollient, I lovebiologicand I usethatrehydratingmask, it's like a stapleinmyshower.
I'vehadthishaircutfor a fewyearsnowandlivinghereinArizona, it's beenthebestthingthat I'veeverdone.
It's socoolinthesummerand I loveitbecause I canflipmyhairoverif I havetomeetwiththefamilyandmakeitlookprofessionalorif I'm goingto a concertonfridayorsaturdaynight, I canflipittheotherwayandjustlookreallyrockingasfarasselfcareisconcerned.
It's reallyimportanttomethat I goseemychiropractoratleasttwice a week, especiallybecause I'm travelingsomuchtrytodoregularmassages, heattherapyathome.
I use a heatingpadprettyregularlyduringtheweek, atleastthreeorfourtimes a week.
I'llhave a heatingpadonmyneckormybackgoinganddoingmaintenanceonmyownBotoxandum, youknow, myownliquidfaceliftandJuvedermandallthat.
That's reallyimportanttome.
Italsokeepsmeintunewithwhatisontrendandinstylewithinthebeautyindustryandthatway I cantakethatbacktothefuneralhomeandapplythosesametechniquestothedeceased, lovedonesinmycaresince I dospecializeinembalming, I'm inscrubs.
Mostofthetime, I usuallyhave a buninmyhairand I havemyscrubsandthat's what I'm rockingatwork.
I use a labcoat.
Sometimesif I'm workingathomeand I'm onlineanddoingonlineconsultingorcoachingcall, thenit's a littlemorerelaxed.
I'lltypicallywearmyscrubsand I doallofmyonlinecoachinginmyhomeoffice.
Weofferopportunities, wehave a scholarshipforyoungwomenandtransgenderindividualsandweofferopportunitiesforfemalesthatareinthefuneralindustrywhetherthey're a manager, whetherthey're a student, itdoesn't matteraslongastheyhave a focusonpreparingthebodyforfamilies, I offerthemtheseopportunitiesforscholarships.
There's always a stereotypethatembalmersarenotpersonableorthatwedon't liketohavefunorhangout.
Weareordinarypeoplewithextraordinarygifts.
I liketocallit a darkart.
I'm a followerofotherdarkartistswhomaybecreatingartoncanvasorsculpturesandtheonlydifferencebetweenthemand I isthat I doitonthehumanbodymentally.
Thistypeofworkisnotfortheweak.
So I definitelytrytoplaysomerelaxingmusicandlistentopositiveaffirmationsaboutlifeandliving.
I definitelydealwithpeoplethataredistraught.
They'regrievingheavily.
There's a lotoffearinvolvedandlet's behonest, likedeathisscary, it's scaryforallofusandthat's importanttometoknowhowtohowtoconquerfeartohavethetools, I needtoconquerthosefearsthat I faceeverysingleday.
Myworkscheduleisreallydemandingfuneraldirectorsandembalmerswereoncall 365 days a year, muchlikedoctors, I takecallinthemiddleofthenight, regularly, myphoneisneveroff.
I doembalmonthegraveyardshiftquite a bit.
I'm hereatthefuneralhomebecausethisiswhen I beginmyday, usuallywheneveryoneelseisgoinghome, I'm beginningmyday, it's goingtobe a longnight, so I don't put a lotofmakeupon.
I dressforcomfort.
I havemycompressionsocksonand I'm gettingreadytogetmyembalmingkitandgetinthepreproomtotakecareoftheserecentlydeceasedlovedones.
I mightbeembalmingtilltwoor 3:00 AM.
Thosenightscanbeprettyroughbecause I'm ontheroaddrivingfromthefuneralhometofuneraltofuneralhomebut I don't knowwhatitis.
I likeit.
I liketheserenequietnessofthepreproomwhenit's justmeandthatperson's lovedone.
It's abouteight o'clockatnightand I got a deathcallandso I amheadedouttogoandbomb.
I'm onmywaytomynextfuneralhome.
It's 10:30 PM, verydifficultcasebut I feelsatisfiedwiththeresults.
Thattypeofschedulecanbecomerigorousas a specialist.
I dotravel a lotaswell.
I'm a publicspeakerand I travelalloverthecountryandsomepartsoftheworld.
I dohostonlineeventsatleastfourorfivetimes a month.
Somyscheduleisprettybusy, mostofwhat I teachistechnicalbasedandit's artandscience, butinreality I teachwomenhowtoovercomefear.
Thetypesofservicesthat I offerarehighlyinnovative.
Wehad a verylimitedsupplyandoptionsformakeupandtheyweredesignedbymenandchemistsand a lotofthemsmelllikepaintorlikecraftproductsand I'm reallyhappytosaythatthingsarereallychanging.
Andoneoftheproductsthat I reallyliketouseis a mortuarymakeupproductcalledLolaseven.
Andwhat I loveaboutthemakeupisthatitworksamazingonembalmedandunembalmedskin, butitalsosmellsamazing.
Thewomenwhocreatedthismakeupisalso a funeraldirectorandanentrepreneurandit's just, it's justproofthatourindustryischangingandwomen, allthewomenthatarecominginourindustryarehelpingtochangethatonestepat a time.
Andifyoudon't removethatcreambeforeyouapplythemakeup, itcanlook a littlecakey.
So I alwayscompletelyfacial.
I do a fullfacialoneachpersonbefore I evenstarttoapplymakeup.
Asfarastryingtomakethatpersonlooklikethemselves.
I trytoaskthefamilyasmanyquestionsas I canand I haveanintakesheetwhere I'm writingdownallthisinformationand I getreallydetailedtolikewhatshapeofnailsdidshewearifit's a youngwomanwhopassesawaylike I wanttoknowexactlywhatbrandofeyelashessheused.
I wanttoknowexactlywhatbrandofeyelinersheused.
I wanttoknoweverythingaboutherskincaresothat I canmakeherlooklikeherselfindeaththewaythatshelookedinlife.
Asfarasclothingisconcerned.
I alwaysaskthefamilytobringinsomethingthatreallyrepresentsthatperson's life.
Likewhatdidtheylike?
Dotheyliketowearpajamaseveryday, bringinJammerdays, Weretheycomfortablein a suit, thenbringin a suit.
Onelittletrickthat I dotomakeclothinglooknice, tailoredandfittedonthedeceasedis I tailorthemupthebacksothattheydon't lookbuncheduponthefrontandit's alsoeasiertoputtheclothingonwhenitcomestoacneondeceasedbodies.
I typicallywillnotreallygoaftertheacne.
Like I wouldmaybeifitwaslike a livingpersonbecause a lotoftimesyoucancreate a defectontheskinifyou'reaggressivewiththeskin, if a personhasblackheads.
However, I'm gettingthatdone, I willdefinitelygivethem a facialand I willdefinitelygetinthereandput a littlepressureandremovethoseblackheads.
Um, absolutely.
I feellikeitisthatperson's lastbigdayandtheygottobelookingtheirbestasfarasteethareconcerned, aslongasthemouthisdisinfected, that's what I'm lookingforflossing.
I won't flossteeth, but I'm definitelyintherewiththetoothbrushandhoseandwater a lotoftimes I willhoseandwaterthatarea.
A lotofthatwillcomeupafterdeath.
So, absolutely, I'm goingintherewiththetoothbrushandtypicallyListerinesometimesevensoeyebrowsaresoimportant, There's such a hugethingrightnowandsomeofpeoplearewearingthebushyeyebrowsandyougottoputthesoapandmaketheeyebrows, youknow, standout.
So, soimportant.
I wouldsayeyelashesandeyebrowsrightnow, wecan't messthatup.
As a mortician.
I havetogetthatrighteverysingletime.
Anotherthingtooisthat I don't puttheeyelashesontopoftheeyesbecausewe'renotusedtoseeing a personwiththeireyesclosed.
Typicallybythetime I gethome I amexhaustedandreally, reallyneeding a glassofwine, I'm goingtogotobedandsleepfor a fewhoursand I'llgetupandstartbookkeeping.
I have a boyfriendnow, butit's definitelybeen a challenge.
Datingisalwaysuncomfortable I guess.
Likewhen I firstmeetsomeoneand I tellthemwhat I do, I gettoreactions, I eithergetcompletelyoverwhelmedwithquestionsor I getthislook, a lotoftimespeoplegetfreakedoutthere, theythinkthatdeathiscontagious.