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  • Today we're gonna talk about addiction.

  • What is addiction, really, and how are we going to heal from it.

  • In the case of somebody who has a problem with addiction,

  • what you're looking at is someone who is sensitive to discord

  • they have a difficult time putting up with discord and negative vibrations in their life

  • and I think this is a good thing

  • what's not a good thing

  • is the urge that comes from that.

  • With addiction

  • when someone is sensitive to discord

  • but they don't know that they can control their own thoughts on what they're looking at and thus, control their emotions

  • they try through trial and error and eventually find an activity or a substance

  • which creates

  • alignment for them.

  • In other words,

  • this activity or substance causes them to soften their focus on those things which are causing

  • discord within them, the things which are causing negative emotion

  • and that softening of focus naturally allows them to flow in the direction of their own desire,

  • to flow in the direction of joy, to flow in the direction of freedom

  • and to flow, most importantly, in the direction of relief

  • whether it is the relief that's felt

  • from anxiety moving towards calmness

  • or from depression moving towards excitement

  • it is always about relief

  • it is the relief which is being stimulated by an activity or the substance

  • and this relief

  • is the very reason that we can say that:

  • the reason that people get on to addictive substances and to addictive activities

  • is a well-meaning thing

  • Everyone in this life desires alignment, everyone in this life desires that sensation of relief,

  • desires to go in the direction of their True Selves, desires to go towards joy and towards freedom

  • and so, it is well-meaning that these people find an activity or a substance to simulate relief for themselves

  • we all want to feel good

  • the problem with any addiction is that it becomes an escape

  • The addiction to the activity or the substance

  • becomes the only way that you think that you can achieve alignment

  • it tricks your body into even thinking so

  • we need to understand that whatever addiction we're looking at

  • what we're really mentally addicted to is the sensation of relief

  • it doesn't matter whether you're using cocaine, or whether you're using porn, or whether you're using cutting

  • or whether you're using an addiction to exercise

  • It's the very same addiction that we all have mentally, which is to the sensation of relief

  • which means that there are different devices people use to move towards the same goal

  • addictions are always mental first

  • and then they become physical

  • To understand the way that addiction plays out in terms of your physical body, we need to understand the concept of neurotransmission

  • Neurotransmission basically means

  • the signals and impulses that are sent in your nervous system from one nerve cell to another nerve cell

  • The faster these signals and impulses are sent between nerve cells

  • the more arousal

  • you feel

  • So, a person who seeks the arousal of a certain emotion or a certain sensation

  • or a certain mood

  • would seek to find activities and substances

  • that, basically

  • cause an increase in the neurotransmission

  • of the area of the brain that is in charge of

  • that specific mood, or sensation, or emotion.

  • An example of somebody who would seek an increase in the neurotransmission

  • would be somebody who is

  • addicted to speed, or someone who is addicted to high-risk activities

  • a person who seeks a decrease in the arousal of certain emotions, and sensations, and moods

  • would choose activities and would choose substances

  • which decrease the neurotransmission

  • of the specific areas of the brain that are in charge of those specific emotions and moods

  • and sensations

  • so, an example of somebody who might seek to decrease the neurotransmission

  • would be somebody who is addicted to Opiates

  • or calming activities

  • Once you introduce the specific activity or substance

  • into your body

  • to change the rate of the neurotransmission

  • your body goes through a compensation process

  • where it tries to reestablish its neurotransmission

  • which it had prior to you taking that substance or activity

  • but it does this compensation by assuming

  • that that same level of activity or same level of substance is going to be present within the system

  • it's almost like

  • you have introduced a

  • stool

  • into a situation and now one of your feet is resting on the stool and

  • the other foot is resting on the ground and that's how you're now achieving equilibrium

  • so, if you were to knock out the stool your body now cannot

  • basically function without the stool 'cause half of your weight is supported by that stool

  • so, when you remove the substance your body is out of balance again.

  • Basically, the reestablishment

  • of the neurotransmission

  • is dependent now

  • upon the presence of that very activity

  • or substance.

  • Because of this,

  • not only do you need to increase the rate of the activity or the substance to get the same kind of a high

  • because of this neurotransmission concept,

  • but once you remove that substance or activity, the body is now going to go into a withdrawal symptom

  • the same way as I was describing, it's like kicking a stool out that was supporting half of the weight

  • your body is now

  • compensated

  • for the presence of that particular substance or activity

  • and the lack of it is going to create

  • imbalance again. That imbalance you feel in your body as serious withdrawal symptoms

  • On a mental level

  • an addiction is nothing more than a habit that is so incredibly ingrained

  • that it feels as if that particular habit is in control of you and in control of your happiness

  • and not the other way around.

  • Thus, the addiction becomes a tool which reinforces powerlessness.

  • As you can probably tell from the previous description

  • almost everyone alive today has one addiction or another

  • There are varying degrees of healthy or unhealthy and yet again that's a judgment

  • but all of us have these dependencies, so to speak,

  • habits which feel more in control of us than we feel in control of it

  • so when we're talking about an addiction

  • here in this video, we're talking about

  • that which society would look at or you would look at and consider extremely detrimental

  • to your way of life and your health, and you aligning with who you really are.

  • The problem is, is when that high ends

  • you remain back exactly where you are because nothing about you in your thought process has changed

  • The problem is, is now that you've had a taste of what it is to feel relief

  • where you are in your life feels ten times worse, it becomes unbearable

  • so we've become chasers of relief.

  • We've become

  • people who live only for that sensation which we think is satisfied through the substance or activity we're addicted to

  • and we are constantly chasing it

  • to the effect where we lose our lives

  • to the obsession with chasing that sensation of relief.

  • Now, chasing the sensation of relief is a good thing

  • that's what we all should be doing

  • we should be chasing the sensation of relief, because the sensation of relief is your indication

  • that you are headed in the direction of your desires and your true self.

  • The problem with the drug is

  • it's a substitute

  • we should be chasing

  • our desires

  • chasing that sensation of relief with our thoughts

  • the drug we're taking or the activity we are doing that we're calling an addiction is doing nothing except for

  • remaining as an excuse for us to line up with who we really are

  • but that's not true power, that's losing your power

  • truly lining up with who you are looks like

  • I can deliberately choose the thoughts to think

  • and thus, create my reality in alignment.

  • I do not need a tool or a substance

  • which causes that relief within me

  • that I have no control over.

  • There are two parts to an addiction

  • The first part is the desire to find relief,

  • the desire to move away from discord.

  • The second part is the chemical dependency

  • In other words, whatever you are substituting

  • for your allowing to go in the direction of joy for you

  • In order for addiction to be healed, both of those aspects have to be addressed.

  • We use our addictions in order to create a distraction from our own discord

  • Therefore, our addictions are never going to heal

  • if we are distracted

  • from what it is that is causing the discord within us in the first place.

  • A person's desire for an activity or a substance

  • which is addictive

  • can never be

  • separated

  • from the situation which the person who's addicted finds themself in.

  • You can see this very clearly with laboratory studies

  • where they provide alcohol for animals

  • and they find that when they start making erratic changes, changes that induce stress within the animals

  • The animals are then

  • feeling urges, basically,

  • to go and consume the alcohol

  • The alcohol consumption goes up astronomically

  • according to the stress that is introduced into the situation with these animals.

  • What that means is:

  • Is that, if you increase your level of stress and discord in your life

  • your urge

  • to do something like

  • engaging in addictive behavior

  • is going to go up

  • If you decrease the stress

  • and anything that's causing discord in your life,

  • your urge to go towards an addictive substance

  • or activity,

  • will not occur.

  • You can't find a thought

  • which is relieving, which of course replaces this crutch you're using to relieve discord,

  • unless you figure out what the discord behind that addiction is

  • you have to find out what you're covering up

  • you have to find out what it is you're running away from

  • if you want to get the heart of that addictive behavior.

  • Addiction is not about the substance, it's not about the activity

  • it's about what the addiction covers up

  • so, you gotta ask yourself

  • What is the motivation for this particular addiction?

  • What am I trying to escape from?

  • What am I trying to escape from and what am I trying to avoid?

  • is the most important question to answer with regards to addiction.

  • now I'm going to put forth to you some steps you can take

  • to help you

  • rid yourself

  • of the addiction

  • and go in the direction of relief naturally instead of with the crutch.

  • Step one:

  • You have to be very honest about where you are

  • if you're not being honest about where you are nothing is going to help you change

  • denial

  • does not help change, it prevents change.

  • So, step one looks like admitting:

  • I have an addiction

  • honestly this behavior, this activity, this substance has more control of me than I have of it.

  • it makes me very uncomfortable to think about the idea of not engaging in this activity,

  • or this substance,

  • or this behavior.

  • That right there, is

  • the step of: "I am where I am"

  • Once you know where you are

  • you can find out more accurately where you want to go, what you want to be doing

  • what you would like to do instead

  • what your idea of the improvement is.

  • So, step one:

  • Be honest that you are where you are

  • and from there you have to decide: Do I want to change this?

  • Does the detriment to my life

  • look like more than

  • what I think the opposite could be.

  • Is this more of a detriment to me than a benefit to me?

  • Am I willing to change this?

  • this is kind of the crux for everybody in addictions

  • is because

  • you will never be able to get over an addiction

  • until you want to change it

  • that motivation must be present

  • for you to change the addiction

  • first and foremost

  • Two:

  • Change your life

  • When you're dealing with addiction and you're ready to get off of this addiction

  • you have to be prepared

  • to allow absolutely every aspect of yourself in your life to change

  • you have to structure your life so that it's more enjoyable

  • you have to get rid of the people, and places, and things

  • which reinforced that addictive behavior

  • and replace them with things that are beneficial to you

  • people, and places, and things

  • which are more of a match to who you really are

  • than a match to the person who's addicted

  • Resistance

  • and discord is what's causing you to seek the relief

  • of that substance or activity which you're addicted to

  • therefore, in order to not have the urge to engage in the addictive behavior

  • you have to structure your life

  • so that the events don't occur

  • and of course we can't do this a hundred percent of the time

  • because we're not on the business of trying to control every external aspect of your life

  • in fact, you can't do it