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My friends know.

So we just did a live stream.

And then, for some reason, it all went wrong on the computer.

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So now we're doing, you know, extreme.

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Okay, sir, I'm just going to leave the earlier one.

So that's cool information into this one, which is essentially that Ah, original extreme.

Because of just nosy instruments where I'm going to make one but here every week, celebrating disabilities.

So last week at his Purple Queen Alexandra he was deaf and disabled and became a fashion icon on David in the Lifestream.

What about disability?

On relationships, My love, You have way has been married for two years now.

Do not a full of it.

I mean, that I owe you knowing your Yeah, thank you.

Why people do this car and I do it all the time to each other.

And she's like, Would you stop it?

You already like, you know, was the word cute.

Yeah.

Keep sitting here so you don't need to add more.

Keep me cute.

Me so very sorry.

Asked about a Q.

Any move on?

But we had so gone through Mr Questions that you guys left and the community tab.

Correct questions, guys.

Really well done.

If you ask more questions on the chat to Beside Clara, who's moderating by again?

Flower Thank you so much.

Um is going to send them to us.

You my fight.

Okay, so the fact that we were answering Waas how do you both feel that you contribute to the relationship as able bodied breast is disabled?

When it's disabled, you can't necessarily duel the house rules, etcetera, for instance.

So I have disposed you that that's my nose, my muscles, my organs getting chronic fatigue, chronic pain that everything.

I found housework to be quite hard and use the example of the washing up on how I I can't be washing up, but I can do this.

Russia.

Yeah, You don't want your content.

It's like temperature on also, like, I could have my hands in the water and be like, Hey, I'm just cleaning.

Meditate them out of that.

Cut him to ribbons or something Yes, I wouldn't know.

Um, but yeah.

Great to dishwasher stacking A plus.

They just find things that we can that you find things that just as comfortable with doing so.

She likes stacking the dishwasher, putting things in the fridge.

You unstuck in the dishwasher.

I do.

On putting things away.

Um, Jessica does most of the cooking, to be honest.

Yeah.

Uh, yeah.

On.

And, um yeah, I just And then, like, for other things, like laundry.

I always do the laundry.

I do any, like, washing up the dishes.

I do well, like the heavier household chores.

Like flavoring making the bed.

Yeah, myself psych.

Smaller things.

I do.

Yeah.

I don't know what I'm doing with my hands right there.

Yeah, I think also expanding on that further than just like household chores.

You do a lot of the heavy lifting, So if we're travelling, you're the one carrying the heavy bags.

If we're just going out shopping for the day, you're the one who do you like?

Oh, yeah.

I'll just go and check.

It's over there.

And you liked doing extra war Could come back.

Yeah.

I mean, love's better energy and relationships should be like tit for tats, but I can sort of see that kind of the angle of the question in a way.

But like if I carry all the bags like we're on the flight on carol bags and like, I've helped her with her wheelchair and I basically like Donald the physical labor when we then finally get to wherever we're meant to be, like the so far all the bed or whatever.

We sit down and put Netflix on or whatever, and Jesse tends to, like, give me a foot rub on.

I feel like I feel like all that sort of stuff I've done for the day.

I'm like, I'm not expecting with that rub.

But also, I'm a bit like a kind of Well, maybe I Ha ha.

Yeah, so over it, like work as a team for the benefit of the doom.

So whatever you can do to make the team better, it is good.

That makes sense.

So I say, like, emotionally, yeah, I probably help you out a lot O.

And then physically you help me out, you know?

Oh, yeah.

And then you just do little bits where you can and like also at the same time, the like, able body Personal.

I shouldn't have to fill.

You shouldn't feel like you should never do anything you don't want to either.

No, you know, don't feel forced to do something.

Um, and don't do it because you're trying to be Amartya.

Yeah.

Sometimes you feel like it's gonna build resentment.

Yeah, if I'm in a really bad mood and just cause, like, can you go get me a drink?

It's a really bad example.

But like, for instance, I might just be like, so like I'm like, and then I and then she's like, Oh, okay.

And I feel really and then I do feel bad about it afterwards.

But, you know, maybe I just felt like saying no right down that, you know?

Yeah, sure.

But I just need to finish this email.

I'm running a locate it in a minute, and then there's like, Okay.

Is that about example?

No.

No, I don't think so.

I think that was good.

I hope we've answered that question.

Well, yeah.

Uh, next question.

Does the issue of disability play any role in the time of choosing to have Children?

Mm.

I don't I would.

I mean, from my point of view, I'll answer From what?

I think you're good for it.

Like Camel.

I don't think the disability has any.

Um, wait on that.

It's more the fact that we're both women and we have a biological clock.

Um, also just cause disability is not progressive, so it's more spirit.

It's more episodic.

So again, we can't read.

We can't ready factor that in.

But what we do?

Well, if you don't know what that means, by the way, progressive means that it will get worse over time episode communes that it goes up and down.

Yeah.

So if he had something that was more progressive and obviously we feel like more need to do earlier.

Yes.

Children immediately.

We'll have.

Yeah, but then But because of your episode, it kind of issue.

We can't control that.

But the thing we can control this maybe Like how we decide to ah, have Children.

Yeah.

Do you wanna?

Yes, I do.

Now it's done to you so because I can't have Children when it obviously I can't have him.

We're gonna have Children.

I can't give birth and carry a baby because my body is not capable of hat for a lot of foot made.

Very delicate party through.

Um, so obviously God may be a lesbian, so I'd have another womb.

Thanks.

Yeah, but also along the same lines of your body.

Can't go through it.

Her body probably kind of go through being my support system when I'm in, like, a 20 hour labor.

Yeah, I'm not.

I can't stay with you.

I can barely stay awake for five.

So we need to pack today.

Something's in a swell.

Like, Do we have a C section and said which we can plan the time, Ingles?

Or do we just, like, you know, adopt or Yeah, there's that the constant the kind of the way that I work my body works is that it's good to have a plan under schedule.

So anything that we can control a definite gate didn't answer that question.

Yes.

No, I'm sure it aside.

Okay.

Next question.

How do I get over feeling like I'm simply about and on Dhe feel that I can treat something to this marriage other than bills.

That's a very good question.

I think it's very easy to feel like a badge in when you have a disability.

Do I felt.

But the thing is, I don't feel like a Bible with you.

Well, I think a lot of it is based on people around you.

So it's the people who are in your relationships.

I kind of like, hey, fines.

We can't go that because of you.

Like Okay, what?

Thio, go do this for you.

Okay, then you're saying you do feel like a budget, and you feel but rubbish.

Really?

Um, I remember being in my last relationship, and I was on crutches, and she's just a bit kind of annoyed by my crotch is.

And then I felt terrible, and I felt so bad about myself, and I was like, Oh, God, what do I what we bring to this relationship?

Where is Oh, thank you.

Oh, it's cozy chat.

Thank you, Home Minister.

That's very, very sweet.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Um, and that with Claudia because she doesn't She doesn't make me feel that way.

If I'm annoying you and you're doing the sighing, it's because my personality yes, very little I can do the disability.

Yeah, Or it might be that I've got my own issue going on when you know how I was saying like she was like, couldn't get me a drink.

I'm like, No, it's more that I'm in a bad mood is not happy with her.

You're just grumpy.

Todo so then that comes with understanding each other.

And if I had said no for more of ah, spiteful place like No, I've already got you 10 drinks today.

Like them, actually, I just reflect on that.

And I'm like Korea.

Like to, like, chill.

It's not a big deal to go get a drink and you're manipulating this.

You're gonna make this into, like, everyone gonna get upset.

Yes.

So you're just gonna have to just gonna have to.

Sometimes you're gonna reflect on yourselves.

Yeah, I think it's not just on Asa's disabled people.

It is on the able people in our lives as well.

So I think we need to do the mental work of thinking I am not about another wonderful person.

There are loads of things that I bring to society to my relationships, etcetera.

But it is also kind of on the able people around us.

Yeah, and have been director of those you guys are educated.

You're open and upfront about the fact that you have the disability that your friends and heartless.

Thank you, Rebecca.

Well, you know, I checked.

That's already.

That's worry out there So they can't be like to me about and implies.

Like, they're a bit like, Oh, you didn't disclose he had orders, like tamales.

You know where you got into this relationship?

You knew what was happening, huh?

Oh, my gosh.

You know, another super, Chuck, You guys sound good.

Look at that.

Who?

He had us eight, By the way, I always love your little group up at university.

I only I do.

Uh, do you recognize your prefer pictures?

Cause yeah, I spent a lot of time in the comments like, Oh, that's a nice 10 that's interesting.

Whoa.

Things that excite me.

OK, next question.

How do you include?

You keep the romance alive and you have a few weeks of bad days in a row.

I love that.

The room.

It's a lot Jesus way really don't have issues keeping the romance alive.

Friends like, please.

Yeah, that's my own seven.

That is.

Romance to me is not set.

Romans is love and affection.

I'm thinking, you know, doing nice little gestures for someone.