that we have tell us to embrace forgiveness. But what is forgiveness? Forgiveness is about

letting go of the anger and resentment we feel inside toward someone else. Its not about

saying what they did is okay. Because, often times it's not. I've certainly had to forgive

people in my life that did things that were unforgivable I had to forgive them because

to forgive them meant letting go of something that was tearing me up. and it wasn't doing

any harm to them it was just tearing me up. So I was finally able to let go and forgive.

in order to Moving into forgiveness its important to recognize that without letting go of the

anger first, its impossible to truly forgive. So you have to find a way to release the anger

if you want to truly forgive. I used to have an anger room in my office and I recently

discovered there is a place in Dallas called The Anger room where you can go and break

things up, I'm not big on breaking things up, but I like that idea, the idea of releasing

that anger in a safe way. I used to have a punching bag in my room where you could punch

it or kick it, and a wall where you could throw clay balls against it and you could

scream and holler and let all that stuff out. Once you've released the anger, then, and

only then, can you truly forgive. And I want to talk about that in the context of relationship.

Because the reality is that to stay married to somebody, in order to stay with someone,

you have to maintain that commitment, you have to continually forgive. you have to continually

let go of things you might not really want to let go of, and you but don't forget, but

you do forgive, you don't keep holding on to that resentment. If you are continuing

to hold on to that resentment you have to find a way to get that anger out in a way

that doesn't destroy your partner so that you can continue to stay connected.

So that's my tip for today. My book is called Oh Wow This changes everything and its available

on audible and kindle. Talk to you later! Oh, you can find out more about me at melodybrooke.com