making a tradition at the end of every year and it's to talk about how to

reflect and plan for the new year 2019 is coming real fast and I know that a

lot of us are getting in that state of mind is just like this year I'm gonna

reach this and do that you'll probably like 99% of other people drop those

resolutions real fast probably by January 9th that's just my

prediction okay I want to talk about effective ways how we can reflect and

set goals that we can actually keep and I'm also gonna do a little reaction

video about my 2018 goal-setting video to see if I have achieved any of the

things that I put on my to-do list for 2018 that would be interesting so I want

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spots go real fast so get on it step one when you are starting your 2019

I don't know I did that 2019 goals you have to sit down and

reflect take you know a few minutes and look at your past year 2008

and see what was good what was bad did you achieve any of the goals that you

set for yourself if yes how and if not why it's very important to understand

what happened and you know to see if there are any patterns maybe you

sabotage yourself in a way of not achieving those or maybe those were

goals that you thought you wanted but you don't want now we put together a few

reflective questions that I suggest you guys write down to help you with the

reflection process so question number one is what moment stood out for you in

2018 and why question number two what happened in 2018 that helped you grow as

a person question number three what in 2018 are

you most grateful for question number four what in 2018 didn't work for you

and why and then question number five is what is your biggest takeaway for 2018

putting those five questions on a piece of paper and filling them out it might

give you another perspective about what happened in 2018 the second step is

asking yourself the right planning question so question number one is what

areas do I want to focus on 2019 I would be very specific and make sure that you

don't make too long of a list focus or maybe one to three areas where you

really want to put all your focus on for this year question number two is if I

accomplish only one thing in 2019 what would I want it to be question number

three is how do I want to grow and evolve as a person in 2019 question

number four is what do you think should be left behind in 2018 and then question

number five which is very important what do I need to do to bring myself joy and

happiness in 2019 focus on what really brings you that joy it can be something

very simple as drinking my lemon water in the morning to something bigger like

taking you know one big trip this year think about those and write them down

and again don't feel the need to fill up the paper with a whole bunch of

different let's try to keep it minimal now that

you have all this information in front of you you can start planning

effectively as much as it's nice to reflect and dream ahead if you are not

taking action nothing's gonna happen always keep in mind this phrase too much

thinking not enough doing started doing so I personally made the mistake of you

know making my resolutions and then feeling like I needed all to happen

right away and I have to follow through a hundred percent with all of them and

that mentality always always sabotage me when you are doing the planning you want

to make sure that you are very very specific I think that a lot of us who

put too much of a fake resolution out there when it's time to start practicing

them we don't know where to start and we get overwhelmed a lot of people say I

want to lose weight I want to get healthier this year they go get a gym

membership and we know how it all goes with the gym membership we'll go for

like the first two weeks and then we're like yeah but I need stuff working and I

have to feel like access needs attention put a little goal for yourself for every

month to start making it a habit you want to get healthier how can you get

healthier don't go into this whole like I need to change my whole life kind of

mentality start small this month I'm gonna focus on drinking lemon water

every morning every single day keep it up for the month and then for February I

want to make sure that I go to the gym twice a week and literally book yourself

two classes every week attention and go it takes about four to six weeks to

create a habit trust me it's gonna stick so follow these five SMART goals you

want it to be specific so instead of saying I need to get in shape this year

make sure that you actually say I'm gonna go to the gym twice a week make

sure that it's measurable so instead of saying I want to get into shape put a

goal that you can get to so if it's I want to lose five pounds or I'm gonna go

to gym classes twice a week then you want to make sure it's attainable so

don't jump into this crazy new routine that will make you feel deprived and

then we'll be very easy to drop you don't

need to cut all sugar right away you don't have to go five times a week to

the gym number four is you want to make sure that your goals are relevant to

what you want to achieve in your life you can go back to the questions about

reflecting on your 2018 and to the planning questions for 2019 and you will

see a very clear idea of what you really want to achieve rather than what you

think you should achieve your answers there will guide you to make sure that

you're making the relevant changes and you're making relevant goals for

yourself and then number five is deadlines because when there's no

deadlines you really don't feel accountable or you really don't feel the

pressure of achieving those things I'm not saying that it all needs to happen

really fast even giving yourself a year if you don't have to go and if you want

to lose weight weigh yourself every week but telling to

yourself you know what every month I want to lose one pound or every month I

want to do a progress photo just to see if there's a difference so it's small

little deadlines just to see progress that will encourage you to keep on going

and before we're finishing this video I wanted to do something fun and just kind

of look at the video that I did last year and see if I follow through with

the things that I set myself or that I manipulate myself out of actually going

after those so yay okay let's get to my 2018 a new year resolution hainan my I

look so young and fresh but I woke up from a nap saying all these things I

want to do in 2018 but I believe that this will keep me accountable and at the

end of 2018 I'm gonna do a review if I accomplish all of these resolutions Wow

look at me achieve that I'm doing it yay so the first thing is no rain no

flowers type of attitude you know when something like bad happens or things

don't go our way we're just like get frustrated and really let it kind of

stop your hard work and positivity Wow yay no rain of flowers so basically it's

just kind of accepting the struggle with a reward and kind of loving the process

that's what I'm trying to say here Valyria forum 2017 was a little level 4

in English now I'm like level 5 I think that this year I definitely fell in love

with just the downs and lows and ups and in-betweens I don't catch myself anymore

being like I can't believe it happened to me I changed my mindset to being more

grateful and just kind of making more of a comedy out of it so when things happen

to me I'm just like of course it's gonna happen to me rather than I can't believe

it happened to me I kind of look at it more of okay this really sucky thing

that happened it's just you know another thing that I can laugh about in a few

weeks or months or years I really want to work this year on an attitude where

no rain of flowers it has to rain things don't always work out and when they

don't work out it's just a stepping stone I hope that this year I also got a

little more to the point always keep that in mind and say thank you for the

rain rain flowers got it move on I've been working a lot in 2017 to make a

gratitude a habit of mine and something that I do and practice every single day

it's such a beautiful thing not to only show my children and to pass on in my

family tree but it's also something that it grounds me that keeps me in a good

mood that makes me feel stronger and more in charge of my life can we talk

about the shinbone always focus on the positive and not the negative this is

something that I obviously want to keep working on just my inner strength

becoming my own warrior and start every morning with that type of attitude

gratitude attitude like a what but gratitude attitude so

resolution number two was keep practicing gratitude and inner strength

and I definitely feel that this year has been very much focused about getting to

know myself and trusting myself throughout bringing another baby into

the family Maxie and building up this social media career I kept saying like

to become my own warrior and to save my own self I still believe in that and

something else that happened throughout that kind of inner work is to not feel

that need of doing it all self which was something I knew before

but actually started practicing more this year I started valuing the support

system that I have and the whole idea behind teamwork I've feel more grateful

than ever before next thing is don't stop myself from dreaming big I find

that sometimes when I share some of my thoughts and dreams and things that I

see myself creating and building in the future some people are too small-minded

to see the top of that mountain and sometimes that rose me back a little bit

and you know makes me question my own goals I'm super grateful to have a

partner in my life Gary my husband to have the same type of attitude where

there's no limit to how big we can do and and make and create now that I look

at it I think that rather than talking about how other people are small minded

I can see that I'm actually talking about myself I think that this year more

than ever I exposed myself as being the person that is in my own way it's kind

of a revelation that I've had recently I definitely started working on it now and

this is definitely still my goal for 2019 rather than letting other people's

opinions affect how I see my future going I want to tweak it to not standing

in my own way and that being small-minded about how much I can do and

achieve and be the next thing is surrounding myself with creative

inspiring people and that's something that I've been definitely doing this

year this has definitely been accomplished this year because of the

amazing team that we've built around valera Inc I can proudly and confidently

say that I'm surrounded with the most amazing creative supportive fun

authentic girls around now I see that I totally put that intention out there and

that's what happened this year so mission accomplished resolution

accomplished it also manifested itself with Mike

Unity online I am really close to a lot of you guys and I want to thank you feel

close to me I've been really amazed by learning more about you guys about your

struggles about your accomplishments I have so many girls that send me the job

that they God or the confidence that they feel that I just love everything

from your outfits to you know all these things that you share with me so Wow

I kill this resolution this year yay meeting more of you guys and that sounds

like that I'm really excited about and I'm definitely gonna put this into

action so I was talking about meetups so this is something that hasn't been quite

accomplished this year about I touched a little bit on this resolutions I did

have kind of the meet and greet at Sephora that Theatre in Toronto

I had a meet-and-greet in Israel when I went to visit my friends so I met some

of you there but it's definitely something that I wanna keep doing and my

goal honestly I'm putting it out there I want to create like this big event where

it's gonna be a meet and greet so I can meet all of you guys and we can talk

about motivation and self-love definitely gonna keep that resolution

for 2019 also I really want to just do meet and greets everywhere around the

world so going in April to India I'm really trying to make that happen I just

want to meet all of you so that's definitely something that will stick in

2019 last but not least is using my platform to really do good I've been

really focusing and growing my social media and you know creating this

beautiful community I want to start really learning about more causes and