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- There's one trick that will make you
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rich, happy, and successful,
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and it can make all of your dreams come true
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and I'm gonna tell you what this trick is
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by sharing with you a story
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about how somebody learned this trick too late in life.
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This is Lucas.
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Lucas was born in the middle of America
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to a man named John and a woman named Emily.
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From a very early age, Lucas displayed signs of genius.
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People would watch him in shock
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as he solved these incredibly complex math equations
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as if they were simple puzzle pieces
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that he could easily fit together.
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He had intelligence far beyond the other kids
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and even most of his teachers.
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It became clear to everyone
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that Lucas would go on to do great things in this lifetime.
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His parents were proud of him
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and they loved him with all their hearts.
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But one day, something happened to Lucas.
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It was something that would leave a permanent scar
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on the bright canvas of his life.
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It was a moment that was truly unforgettable.
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One foggy night,
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Lucas' mother was working late in her office.
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After she was done, she got into her car and she drove home
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to see her loving family.
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As she was driving through a green light,
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she was hit directly in the driver side door
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by an intoxicated driver.
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While Lucas was reading a book in his room,
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his dad came in and said,
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"Son, your mother was in a car accident.
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"She's in critical condition at the hospital."
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When Lucas was looking at his mother's unconscious body
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in that white bed, it didn't feel real.
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This is something that only happens in the movies
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in order to make you cry.
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It's not something that is actually supposed to happen
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in real life, Lucas thought to himself.
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A few hours later, Lucas' mother was pronounced dead.
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Lucas did not attend the funeral.
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He didn't really talk to anyone.
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It was all too painful for him.
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The next few weeks were incredibly confusing for Lucas
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which was something that he was not used to feeling.
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He felt like there was this giant black hole inside of him
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that he had no idea how to fill.
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At first, he tried asking his dad questions like,
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why did all of this happen?
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What happens to mom now?
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What is the meaning behind all of this?
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But the only words his hurt father could really say were,
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"Son, sometimes horrible things happen
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"and there isn't always a clear reason why."
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But Lucas' logical brain was not able to accept this answer.
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He needed to uncover the why behind his mom's death
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and uncover all the mysteries surrounding death.
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There's no problem that is unsolvable,
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Lucas thought to himself.
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So he started to watch videos,
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read books, read blogs, talked to people.
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He even began studying the work
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of Ancient Greek philosophers like Aristotle and Socrates,
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but Lucas quickly realized
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that the concept of death is not like his math equations
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where everything is made up of simple 2D puzzle pieces
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but rather it's made up of complex mind bending 4D pieces
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that don't even conceptually make sense when you look at it.
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As the weeks and months went by,
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Lucas realized that no matter how much he read
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or how much he studied,
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he never really found the concrete undeniable answer
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that he was looking for.
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So he stopped searching.
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His mom's death left Lucas in a constant state of pain.
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So he set out on a self-destructive journey
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to distract himself from this pain in any way that he could.
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At first, it started off small
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where he began to watch more TV and eat unhealthy food.
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He then started to use social media more
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like YouTube and Facebook and Instagram
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and he would just sit on his bed for hours
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just scrolling and scrolling and scrolling
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consuming a seemingly endless amount of content.
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But the more distractions that he consumed,
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the more he craved.
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Lucas began drinking on the weekends
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which led him to drink on the occasional weekday
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which led him to drink on most weekdays.
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He soon began experimenting with drugs
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which led him to abuse drugs.
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There were even times
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where he thought about physically hurting himself.
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Lucas used these substances
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because it allowed him to temporarily forget
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about how hollow he felt.
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And one night when he was really in pain,
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Lucas abused so many substances that he almost OD'd.
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It was so bad that he fell to the ground
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and he began to have a seizure and then before he knew it,
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he became unconscious.
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The next thing he knew,
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he woke up in a hospital to his dad by his side.
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"Son, we are going to talk about this tomorrow.
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"This behavior is obviously not okay,
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"but I don't have time to figure this out right now, okay?"
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"Sure."
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Since his mom's passing,
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the money had been a little bit more tight in the family
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so his dad had to work overtime.
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Seeing all the nurses and feeling the white bed on his skin
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immediately reminded Lucas of his mother's death,
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but Lucas did not have anything
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to distract himself with this time.
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He had no social media, no junk food,
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and he certainly had no substances
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and those horrible dark feelings came flooding back to him.
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Lucas reached for the remote control frantically
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trying to turn on the TV.
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"It doesn't work," a mysterious voice said.
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"Excuse me?" Lucas said.
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"The TV, it doesn't work.
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"You can click those buttons all you want.
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"It still won't work."
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"Um, and who are you?" Lucas said.
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"Sarah, you?"
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"No, I mean like who are you?
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"Are you a nurse, a doctor?"
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"Oh no, I'm a patient just like you."
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"Oh God," Lucas said.
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"That's not a very nice way
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"to greet your bed neighbor," she said.
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"Yeah, sorry, I'm used to talking to people's faces,
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"not at a giant white curtain," Lucas said.
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"Ah, I see, so you don't spend too much time
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"in the hospital then, do you?"
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"Nope, not really and you do?"
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"Yeah, a little."
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"Are you usually this chatty with your bed neighbors
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"as you call them?"
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"Just the ones who are in a bad mood."
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"Well, I'm sitting here with nothing to do,
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"with a horrible headache
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"so yeah, I'm not exactly very happy right now."
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"There are always reasons to be happy.
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"If you are bored, I can lend you my favorite book.
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"Whenever I feel down,
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"it makes me feel a little bit better, here."
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A book came sliding under the curtain towards Lucas' bed.
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He picked it up.
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"The Power of Now," Lucas said.
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"That's right.
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"Most people hate what's in that book
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"and they get really triggered
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"when they find out what's in that book,
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"but I think every single person on Earth should read it.
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"Anyways, I'm feeling pretty tired so I'm going to sleep.
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"I didn't catch your name?"
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"It's Lucas."
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"Well, it's great to meet you Lucas.
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"I hope you feel better."
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"Thanks, you too Sarah."
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When Lucas got home, his dad immediately grounded him
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until he could figure out how to proceed with Lucas.
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So Lucas spent the next few days glued to this book,
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but he noticed that it wasn't based on facts or data
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like he was used to,
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but rather it was based on ideas and perspectives.
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He'd liked the book until he got to the section called
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what to do when a loved one dies.
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The book said great loss ends
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with a great feeling of emptiness and nothingness,
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but if you surrender into the nothingness,
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there is a fullness waiting for you there.
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But the only way to do this is to fully embrace
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and accept all the pain that you feel.
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Lucas closed the book and he immediately thought of the fact
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that he had not gone to his mother's funeral
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because it was too painful.
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He felt like the book was telling him
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to go to your mom's tombstone and surrender to the pain,
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but this was out of the question for Lucas.
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The mere thought of doing this
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was almost unbearable for him.
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"I'm done with this book.
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"It's time to return it to Sarah," Lucas said to himself.
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"Hi there, I'm here to see, um, my friend.
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"Her name is Sarah.
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"She's in room 112,"
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Lucas said to the receptionist at the hospital.
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"Sure, no problem."
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She logged onto her computer and then she said,
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"Um, you said you were her friend?"
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"Yeah, I'm here to return the book she lent me."
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"Uh, I'm not exactly sure how to say this,
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"but she passed a few days ago."
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"She passed?
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"Passed where?
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"What do you mean?"
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"Sir, she had stage four terminal cancer.
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"She died."
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Lucas turned around and sat down in the chair behind him.
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"The girl who told me there are always reasons to be happy
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"was dying of cancer?"
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Lucas thought to himself.
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He sat there for about 30 minutes
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replaying the conversation with Sarah over and over
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and he deeply regretted how unsympathetic he was.
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As a tear fell from Lucas' face,
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he looked down at the book and he knew what he had to do.
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The moment when he started walking towards it,
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he felt immense pain.
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Every breath that he took felt like somebody was placing
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a 10 pound weight on his back
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and every step that he took
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felt like somebody was stabbing him in his stomach
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with a small sharp knife,
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but he just put his head down
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and he kept walking one foot in front of the other.
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Finally, he opened his eyes
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and he saw the thing that he had been fearing most,
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his mom's tombstone.
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He immediately felt a hot searing pain in his stomach
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that made him fall to his knees
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and then within seconds this pain became so intense
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that his vision went blurry
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and his muscles began to seize up
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and all he could feel was this overwhelming pain
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that echoed throughout his entire mind and body.
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Lucas sat there for hours slowly bleeding out his emotions.
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Eventually, he had nothing left inside him.
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He felt like a soulless, empty human being.
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And over the next few months,
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Lucas would go to his mother's tombstone everyday
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to put himself through this misery.
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But every time that he did this,
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the pain would slowly go down inch by inch
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and he would feel just a little bit better.
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And eventually after months of this torture,
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Lucas got to the point where he could finally
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accept the reality that she was gone.
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He finally got to the point where he could let her go.
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Every single one of us have painful memories
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and traumas from our past.
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Some are big and some are small,
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but very few of us make the decision
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to consciously engage with these bad feelings.