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  • hey guys ~

  • welcome back

  • so I'm turning 27 this week and this may be an unpopular opinion

  • but I actually feel like growing up..

  • it's such an exciting thing because

  • as I get older the more I learn about the world and myself

  • the more I learn about the person I want to become

  • the more I see myself realizing all those things

  • and becoming the person that I want to be

  • I don't know.. I just feel like that whole journey

  • and this whole journey of being alive and healthy and breathing

  • and being able to grow up

  • I think it's such a wonderful thing that..

  • I don't know..

  • a lot of us may take for granted (myself included) every once in a while

  • so today.. we're gonna talk about 26 things I learned at 26

  • and having a birthday at the end of the year

  • I used to hate it when I was younger because it gets combined with Christmas

  • so instead of getting two gifts I just get one gift or just no gift at all

  • anddd... yeah..

  • but now that I'm older I think it's such an awesome thing

  • because you usually reflect on your birthdays so it's like..

  • ok I'm gonna reflect in December

  • and then it's the new year so you do more reflecting

  • so it's just this..

  • ~ fusion haaa ~ of great reflection

  • so to all my Sagittarius babies out there

  • *virtual hug* here's a hug

  • happy birthday to you guys, happy birthday month

  • andddd... yeah..

  • so let's just get started with the first thing

  • one of the most important things I learned this year

  • is that you can't be your best all the time

  • but you can try your best all the time

  • sometimes your best is here and that's totally fine

  • sometimes it's here and that's totally fine too

  • as long as we're trying our best

  • given the circumstances of whatever situation were in

  • that's good enough

  • and I feel like most of us on this channel are all pretty..

  • I don't know like we..

  • kind of have really high expectations for ourselves

  • we're really hard on ourselves

  • we want to be this thing that we have in our minds

  • and it frustrates the heck out of us and we're not

  • sometimes your best isn't gonna be the picture you painted in your head

  • and that's totally ok

  • this kind of ties in with the second thing which is done is better than perfect

  • doing something and starting is so much better than

  • having the result be exactly what you imagined it to be

  • and I feel like more often than not

  • the chase for perfection and wanting something to be perfect

  • is actually holding us back so much for even just starting

  • and sometimes it just prevents us from starting at all

  • so I really really started embracing the fact this year

  • that things aren't always as bad as we think it is in our head

  • it's almost always just in our head

  • thinking it's not good enough, thinking we're not good enough

  • so done is better than perfect

  • and the third thing is

  • there's no best option for what you should do with your life

  • what I've realized this year is that as long as I use my heart fully

  • it's a Chinese thing for "yong xin"

  • "yong" is use, "xin" is heart

  • if I fully apply myself to whatever it is that's right in front of me

  • no matter which path I take..

  • if I use my heart in any one of these paths

  • eventually they're all gonna come together

  • this is something that you guys actually ask me quite often too of like..

  • I don't know what to do..

  • I don't know what the right thing to do is.. please help..

  • I've learned it's just to do my best where I am with what I have

  • and trusting myself in the process

  • that eventually it'll lead me to where I need to be

  • I love New York..

  • there's so much noises everywhere

  • and then the sun's about to set

  • (≧◡≦)

  • my life.. okay..

  • and I guess that could be..

  • that could be the fourth thing just rolling with the punches

  • you know.. waking up..

  • you never know what you're gonna get every day

  • but you can try your best where you are and do you're best

  • actually that's just a summary of the first three points

  • so the fourth thing is balance

  • which is something that I struggled with so much this year

  • it's important to push ourselves

  • and it's important to push yourself hard

  • but it's also important to remember that

  • there's only so much we can humanly do

  • before we push ourselves to a full-blown blowout

  • and it brings us to the next point which is

  • to give yourself permission to be a potato if you want to be a potato

  • listen to your body, listen to yourself, give yourself what it needs

  • because.. next point..

  • it's all temporary

  • no matter how awesome you're feeling

  • no matter how terrible you're feeling

  • no matter how if you're on cloud nine

  • if you're at rock bottom

  • wherever you are..

  • it's all gonna be temporary so don't be too attached to it

  • which is like the seventh thing of not to be too attached to anything

  • because at the end of the day

  • we're not going to feel awesome all the time

  • we're not going to feel terrible all the time

  • so to be attached to wanting to feel a certain way all the time

  • we're just setting ourselves up for failure because..

  • we can't be one thing all the time as much as we want it to be

  • so I think it goes back to acceptance

  • and just accepting yourself for all the good and bad

  • and knowing that..

  • sometimes best is here, sometimes best is here and it's okay..

  • yeah I think it all comes down to like..

  • acceptance, awareness, knowing who you are

  • and knowing that we're human

  • and it's okay to feel things

  • and to not be okay all the time

  • yeah..

  • the next thing

  • when in doubt, honesty is always the best..

  • ~ ahh I just bit myself ~ honesty is always the best policy

  • for this video there are gonna be sponsors

  • but I just want to let you guys know that it's to allow me

  • to make what I want to make for the end of the year

  • so that there can be the manifestos

  • and the thing on my spirituality

  • and all these awesome things

  • that I've been itching to make but I haven't been able to

  • so with all that being said..

  • this is gonna bring us to the next point which is giving back

  • I'm going to be donating what I'm making from this video

  • to my favorite nonprofit that moves me

  • and inspires me so deeply every single year

  • this is a form of giving back for sure

  • but I want to start giving back to causes that

  • have helped me so much during my darkest times

  • and has helped uplifted me and my soul and my existence

  • I think this all sounds like pretty like.. ~ ooooo!! ~

  • but dude if you guys have seen Shen Yun

  • and you probably will know what I mean

  • if you guys haven't, I highly highly encourage you guys to watch it

  • so the mission of Shen Yun is to revitalize 5,000 years of Chinese culture

  • through like singing, dancing, musical performances and..

  • it's so beautiful, it's so wonderful

  • I'm gonna like, you know.. throw some clips up for you guys to see

  • some of you guys have asked if I will ever start a patreon

  • some of you guys have asked if I'm ever gonna do some sort of donations page

  • I'm so grateful and thankful that you guys are thinking about me

  • and want to help me in this way

  • but I do have more than enough already

  • so it'll mean the world to me if you guys could donate even $1 or $5

  • however much to Shen Yun I'll leave the link down below

  • and of course, this isn't the sponsored message just FYI..

  • it's just.. I really want to share this with you guys okay

  • #10 is self-care is skincare and skincare is self-care

  • I spent a good amount of this year

  • learning so much about the outer inner inner outer

  • how our internal state, stress, being overwhelmed

  • the foods we feed ourselves affects our outer world

  • like our skin and you know.. everything out here

  • and how also the products we apply to our face really affects

  • everything that's going on inside as well

  • so the importance of clean beauty

  • the importance of being mindful

  • of the different types of products we're putting on our faces

  • this year I was really happy to learn so much more about clean beauty

  • and discovering brands like Follain

  • who are so committed to sourcing like

  • the best 100% non-toxic skincare and beauty products

  • if you do have people in your life or maybe it might be yourself

  • who are looking into these cleaner types of skincare products

  • I would honestly highly recommend Follain

  • yes, this is sponsored but I really do love this brand

  • and I have so much respect for their mission

  • and everything it is that they're doing

  • so there is this hydration kit that comes in a pouch

  • and there are 3 products which are perfect for winter

  • these products make an awesome gift

  • because it's for all ages, it's for all skin types

  • it allows you to share your love for your loved ones

  • because you are caring about their health

  • you're caring about their internal state

  • so if this kit is something you feel like you can use in your life

  • or if this is something that you feel like you can gift someone

  • who is very near and dear to your heart

  • feel free to click the link down below

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  • and you will be able to get this hydration kit

  • and this awesome little pouch

  • so #11 is..

  • time spent on yourself is never time wasted

  • even if that means taking some time away from your loved ones

  • because I really believe that at the end of the day

  • those who love you and those who understand what you're doing

  • will be there supporting you and cheering for you

  • regardless if you can be physically or mentally present

  • or even if you're not physically mentally present for a while..

  • that being said..

  • relationships are also really important

  • um.. but I really do believe that

  • as long as there's open line of communications

  • as long as both parties.. both sides are trying

  • or I think you know.. let's just focus on ourself

  • as long as you're trying your best

  • to keep that line of communication open

  • it's really important

  • which brings me to #12 which is..

  • my parents are my best friends

  • the older I'm getting the more I'm just like ..

  • wow! they're so cool and they're so funny and they're so cute

  • as of right now in my life

  • I'm not the best at keeping in touch with people

  • the only people that I keechup.. keep up with..

  • keep in touch with.. keep touch with..

  • umm..

  • are my parents like I call mom and dad

  • either mom or dad or both

  • everyday on my commute home

  • even if I get to talk to them for 10 minutes or 15 minutes

  • and I just feel like you'll make time for what's most important

  • and as of right now in my life it's like yeah..

  • my parents are what's most important

  • and of course my friends, relationships, like everyone else that's important as well

  • but the older you get the more you also realize that

  • you don't have time for everything

  • so what you spend your time on

  • is a reflection of what's most important to you

  • and so it's important to know what's most important to you

  • so that you can spend your time that way instead of any other way

  • hope that makes sense

  • so the next point is curiosity

  • I feel like being curious is one thing that has led me to where I am today

  • it's a curiosity of..

  • I wonder if there's a need for the type of content that I'm creating

  • I wonder what the world would look like..

  • if more people were open to talking about these kinds of things

  • and sharing these deeper more like..

  • ohh maybe you shouldn't.. I don't know

  • I don't know why our society we don't..

  • it's like we all go through negative feelings

  • we all feel bad sometimes / all the time

  • but like how come we don't talk about that more

  • and what would a world look like if we do that more

  • and so I just feel like curiosity really is such an important trait

  • that can also be learned

  • it's not like a fixed IQ thing where you're just born with like this

  • a loited.. allotted amount of curiosity

  • and once you hit that threshold you're done

  • you can try to be more curious

  • you can try to care more

  • you can try to want to learn more about the world