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  • Improvement pill here are you someone who spends hours every single day

  • replaying the same bad memories over and over again in your head if so then

  • you're in luck because in today's video I'm going to show you exactly how to get

  • over your past mistakes now in order for us to get to the bottom of this problem

  • we have to first talk about why we think about the past in the first place see

  • the human brain is a very very powerful machine with one main purpose which is

  • to keep you alive and it's incredibly good at that we are the only species on

  • this planet that can project far into the future and also think back to our

  • past and this ability has allowed us to outsmart the hundreds of other species

  • on this planet that are far stronger than us physically the main reason we

  • think about the past is so that we can prevent bad things from happening again

  • let's say for example late one night you're walking down a dark alley by

  • yourself and you're approached by a couple of guys they pull a knife out and

  • ask you to empty your pockets congratulations you just got mugged

  • afterwards you're gonna find yourself playing that event over and over again

  • in your head for days weeks and maybe even months because even though you

  • weren't physically hurt that was still an extremely dangerous situation to be

  • in it you could have been seriously injured or even killed so your brain is

  • gonna keep thinking about this event until it figures out how you can prevent

  • something like that from ever happening again now this doesn't only apply to

  • physically dangerous events because the more common type of dwelling we do

  • nowadays is on mentally dangerous events let's say for example you have a crush

  • on a girl at work or in school after a couple of months you finally muster up

  • the courage to tell her how you feel but she turns you down in a rather harsh way

  • even though this event didn't harm you at all physically it does cause a lot of

  • mental pain experiments have been conducted where they discovered that

  • being rejected lights up the same pathways in your brain as physical pain

  • so it turns out that rejection does hurt literally and because of this your brain

  • is gonna see this event as something you need to prevent from happening again in

  • the future and it's going to keep dwelling on it

  • until it figures it out and it does so in a simple three-step process the

  • first step is by figuring out the why why did she reject you so harshly was it

  • because you took too long to ask her out was it because you did so in a very

  • awkward manner was it because you're not attractive enough you need to figure out

  • a why once that sorted out step number two is coming up with a solution if she

  • rejected you because you're awkward then a solution might be to fix your social

  • skills especially when it comes to talking to girls if she rejected you

  • because you're not attractive then a solution you might come up with is to

  • hit the gym and fix your diet so that you can look better and be more

  • attractive you need to come up with a solution that could prevent this bad

  • event from happening again which brings us to the third and final step seeing

  • that it's working you need to actually make progress and see that your solution

  • is getting you closer to preventing that bad event or mistake from happening

  • again in the future if your solution was to improve your social skills then you

  • will eventually get to a point where some girls start saying yes to you and

  • even though some will still turn you down they do so in a more polite manner

  • seeing this sort of progress will reassure your brain that you've solved

  • the problem that the bad event or past mistake will become less likely to

  • happen again and this will allow it to relax and think about other things now

  • if you're someone who keeps thinking about your past mistakes then it's

  • because you're stuck somewhere in this three-step process some of us never

  • figure out the why maybe we really don't know why something bad happen to us if

  • that's the case you need to do your research look for clues and figure it

  • out in the case of girls turning you down reading a book on dating or

  • relationships may shine some light on the answer you could even ask a friend

  • for their honest opinion on why the ladies don't fancy you or maybe we never

  • figure out the why because we end up blaming something that's out of our

  • control some guys after getting rejected will

  • blame things like their Heights or their race which are not things that you can

  • change and this prevents you from moving on because these are wise that have no

  • solution you can't change your ethnicity you need to figure out a why that is

  • something that you have control over moving on some of us get stuck trying to

  • figure out the solution if you have no idea how to solve something simply

  • google it chances are there's a book or video out there that tells you exactly

  • what you need to do you just have to find it use the

  • power of the internet to your advantage and finally some of us never see

  • progress it may be because you never actually applied the solution to your

  • life which could be because of numerous reasons such as an identity issue not

  • believing that you are worthy a change being in a bad environment that prevents

  • you from changing having an addiction or plain old laziness whatever it is you

  • need to actually try and follow through with your solution another reason why

  • you might not be seeing progress maybe because the solution you decided on is

  • ineffective which does happen from time to time because not every solution you

  • come up with is going to work everyone is different and because something

  • worked for someone else doesn't mean it's 100% going to work for you in this

  • case you need to simply try and test out different solutions until you find one

  • that actually allows you to make progress by unstuck in yourself from

  • wherever you are in this three-step process you allow your brain to do its

  • job you will have successfully taken steps to preventing the past mistake or

  • bad event from happening again and because of that your brain will finally

  • be able to let that memory go and that's how you get over your past mistakes this

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  • trying to figure out the why or the solution part of getting over a past

  • mistake then audible is something you should really consider because the

  • answers you're looking for are almost always found in books nowadays I do just

  • about all of my reading by listening to books on audible mainly because it

  • allows me to read in places where I can't physically pull out a book such as

  • when I'm working out commuting somewhere or even when I'm doing my grocery

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Improvement pill here are you someone who spends hours every single day

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あなたの過去の過ちを乗り越える方法 (How To Get Over Your Past Mistakes)

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    洪瑩家 に公開 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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