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  • A leader is steady, firm, decisive, unwavering.

  • Never let 'em see you sweat, always have an answer.

  • [The Way We Work]

  • My name is Dan, I'm a partner at a global creative consultancy.

  • But there's another side to me:

  • Carrie Dragshaw,

  • the character I created on Instagram.

  • As I thought about my double life, I couldn't help but wonder ...

  • When your true self is a little nontraditional,

  • how much of it can you really bring to the office?

  • For some of us is authenticity off-limits?

  • For the first 10 years of my career,

  • I thought there was one way to be a leader:

  • decisive and serious.

  • But that's not me.

  • So I'd put on basically office drag to fit the role:

  • I'd talk in a deeper voice, try to hold in my hand motions.

  • I'm someone who gets really excited about things,

  • so I'd temper that.

  • I had this little voice in my head, telling me,

  • "You're too gay, too feminine, too flamboyant."

  • I had one well-intentioned adviser who said,

  • "Everyone knows you're gay. And that's great.

  • But you don't need to beat them over the head with it."

  • Cut to: me in a tutu, for Halloween 2016.

  • I dressed up as my favorite TV show character, Carrie Bradshaw,

  • thinking my friends would get a kick out of it.

  • And then, things got crazy.

  • The post went viral, and at first it was pure fun.

  • I started getting these incredible messages from people

  • about how happy it made them,

  • how it encouraged them to be their authentic selves.

  • And I started to think,

  • maybe this is the time to tell that little voice in my head to just shut up

  • and let myself be me.

  • But then things got a little too big.

  • Carrie Dragshaw was everywhere -- In the "New York Post", "US Weekly" --

  • and I got terrified:

  • "What would my bosses think?

  • Would my coworkers still respect me as a leader?

  • What would my clients think?"

  • I thought I was going to have to get a different job.

  • But then, something happened, something small.

  • I got a text from my boss, it wasn't long, it just said,

  • "Wow, Cosmo!"

  • With a link to an article that had just gone up about me.

  • And it let me put that little, scared voice away

  • and just be excited about this whole new world,

  • rather than freaked out.

  • That's the power of one person,

  • sometimes all it takes is one ally to make you feel comfortable.

  • And my coworkers started acting differently.

  • They became more open, more playful with me,

  • it was as if knowing this other side of me

  • gave them permission to be more of themselves as well.

  • I thought that openness and vulnerability

  • would actually decrease my standing with my team.

  • But it's done the opposite.

  • Two years in,

  • I never could have imagined that this part of me would not just be embraced,

  • but could actually help my career.

  • Now, I'm lucky.

  • I work in New York City,

  • in an office where creativity is valued

  • and I was already pretty established in my career when all of this started.

  • Maybe that's you, maybe it isn't.

  • But all of this has taught me so much

  • about just the importance of bringing your whole self to work.

  • And it's really challenged my own misperceptions

  • about what it takes to be successful.

  • There's no one kind of way to be a leader.

  • It's about finding your strengths and finding ways to amplify them.

  • Before, if a meeting was hard, I'd put on my perfect leader mask.

  • Now, I can say, "Gosh, that was frustrating."

  • We can talk about challenges and struggles in an open way,

  • rather than everybody pretending that they're fine until it's too late.

  • Concealing an identity takes work.

  • Think of all the wasted energy spent pretending,

  • wishing you were someone different.

  • What's most interesting to me, though, is that in this big study of covering,

  • 93 percent of those who say they're doing it

  • also believe their organization values inclusion.

  • So clearly, our workplaces and all of our strange inner voices

  • have a long way to go on acceptance.

  • There's a big difference between adapting and disguising.

  • And I think I learned that a little late.

  • Personally, I'm taking all of this as a call to be the ally

  • who, like my boss did for me,

  • lets people know that it's OK to open up.

  • If you're gay, or proud of your ethnic background,

  • or have a disability or are deeply religious,

  • see what it's like being your full self at work.

  • You might be pleasantly surprised.

A leader is steady, firm, decisive, unwavering.

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TED】ダン・クレイなぜあなたは自分をまるごと仕事に持っていくべきなのか (Why you should bring your whole self to work | The Way We Work, a TED series) (【TED】Dan Clay: Why you should bring your whole self to work (Why you should bring your whole self to work | The Way We Work, a TED series)

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