字幕表 動画を再生する 英語字幕をプリント Here's a secret that may surprise you: when you want something, but can live without having it, you have upped the odds of your having it. This is one of the ironies of life. As long as you are playfully desiring something, but not addicted to your having it, the universe will most likely quickly bring it to you. But as soon as you say, “I must have this,” you begin to push it away. Why? Because you are sending out an energy to repel what you say you want. Because you are focused on need and not in the moment. Because you haven't learned the ultimate secret: Let Go. Again, the ultimate secret to attracting whatever you want is to want it without needing it. When you are detached to the outcome, you disconnect from everything that could sabotage your success when you state your intention and are happy whether you achieve it or not. This is a delicate balance. But it's the major secret to how the universe works. In other words, in the world of everyday reality, struggling to achieve something causes the opposite forces within yourself to kick into play. But when you come from an inner place of serenity, and you go with the flow toward your wishes, you have upped the odds of your achieving them. Your peace will attract peace. Years ago I discovered that most of us, myself included, don't like to let go and allow because there's nothing for us to grapple with. There's no drama. Most of us feel that if we can't get in there and fight and struggle, we don't feel like we're accomplishing anything or getting anywhere. The struggle gives a sense of accomplishment. At least, you can say, “Hey, I tried.” The ego gets a big rush out of struggle. The ego gets to feel that it is doing something worthwhile. Well, that's okay. If your ego needs a pat on the back, let it struggle for some of the things that you desire. But the truth is, you don't have to struggle at all. Again, it can be another way, an easier way. I used to teach a class called “The Inner Game of Writing.” It was modeled after the work of Tim Gallwey, who wrote The Inner Game of Tennis and co-authored several other “inner game” books. What I discovered was that we have at least two distinct beings within us, not personalities so much as aspects of our mind. Gallwey called them Self One and Self Two. Self One can be likened to your ego, the part of you that wants to control. Self Two can be likened to the inner master within you, the part of you that is connected to all things. The job of Self One is to select what you want and let go. The job of Self Two is to bring it to you. Gallwey learned that when people learned to let go and trust, they got what they wanted more often than not, and it came much easier than if they fought for it. The same concept works in your life. Choose what you want and let God or the Universe (whatever that means to you) bring it to you. Let it orchestrate the events that will manifest the thing you desire. Give up needing to know how you will manifest anything. Knowing how can become a limitation. If you choose to manifest something, but can't consciously see a way to create it, you may give up. The conscious mind can't see all of the possibilities. Surrender control and you free the universe to bring you whatever you want. Again, when you know what you want and are clear, you will be drawn to the thing you want, and events will pull it to you. Dan Poynter is a dear friend and internationally recognized expert on self-publishing. He's written several books, including the famous Self-Publishing Manual. Dan also conducts weekend seminars in his home on how to self-publish and market your own book. He's been offering this seminar for over 10 years, has helped hundreds of people, but has always struggled to get people to register for the event. One day Dan called me for my help. “I want you to write a brochure for me that is so powerful that people sign up for my seminar without my having to do a thing.” Well, notice what Dan was doing. He knew what he didn't want (to pull teeth to get people to come to his seminar), and he knew what he did want (to have people call and register easily and effortlessly). When I agreed to create a new brochure for Dan, what did he have to do? Let go. He had to let go. He had to trust that he hired the right guy and all would be well. So I designed a flyer for Dan, he loved it, and he printed it. A few weeks later, I called him and he said, “My seminar is already sold out.” “It is?!” I yelled, delighted. But Dan stopped me in my tracks. “But it isn't due to your flyer,” he said. “It isn't?” Dan went on to say “The seminar sold out two weeks ago, and I only mailed out the new flyer last week. There had been a delay in the mailing.” I asked “Then what happened?” I asked. “Why did it sell out?” Dan didn't know. But here's my guess. As you know by now, the energy you give out brings the results you get. When Dan stated his new intention, and allowed me to create a new flyer for him, he was changing the inner signal he was sending out. Once you change the way you are inside, the outer world changes. Dan didn't even have to mail his flyer out. People picked up on the signals in the air and responded. Crazy? Well maybe so. But as I've pointed out throughout this recording, the energy you give out attracts and creates the results you get. Change your inner energy and you change your results. The following story reveals how one of my greatest dreams came true. I am sharing it with you in the hope that it will inspire you to go for your own dreams. It's all about the power of setting an intention and then letting go of it. I wanted to have an audio program of my own in the Nightingale-Conant catalog for many years. I wanted it for the prestige, as well as for the profit. I wanted to be among their roster of greats: Tony Robbins, Tom Peters, Deepak Chopra, Bob Proctor, Brian Tracy, and Wayne Dyer. But until autumn 1998, this desire had only been a dream. Despite the fact that I always sent Nightingale-Conant my new books as soon as they were published, I could never seem to ignite their interest in my work. But I never gave up. I simply held onto the dream, trusted that something would give sooner or later, and kept doing my thing. And then something amazing happened. One day, a man began sending me e-mail, asking numerous questions about marketing in general and P. T. Barnum in particular. I answered all of his questions, glad to help. Then, one day I received a shock. The man sent me an email saying, “If you ever want your material considered by Nightingale-Conant, let me know. I'm their Marketing Project Manager.” This amazing story illustrates many lessons: The power of a dream (I held my vision of what I wanted for years). The miracle that comes from having someone who believes in you. The true magic that occurs when you are in alignment with your life's purpose and doing what makes your heart sing. And the power of letting go. I'm sure there are other lessons in this story, lessons that you see and I don't. Again, I am sharing this with you in the hope that it sets your own heart on fire, awakens something in your soul, and urges you to go for—and get—your own dreams. And here's something else to think about: According to research done at Spindrift Foundation on the power of prayer, a “Thy will be done” prayer gets more than twice as many results as a specific “give me this” prayer. That's why it's so important to end your request for anything you want with the magic words, “This or something better.” When I was writing my book on P. T. Barnum, I went to the famous showman's grave in Bridgeport, Connecticut. I had a moving experience there. But what I want to share with you here is what I saw written on P. T. Barnum's gravesite marker. To my surprise, carved in his simple concrete headstone were these magical words, words that Barnum relied on throughout his colorful life: “Not my will but thine be done.” Those magic words worked for Barnum, helping him to survive personal and professional disasters and to become one of America's first millionaires, and those words can work for you, too. In other words, trust the universe. Want something better? You can ask for whatever you want to do, be, or have, but also be willing for the universe to give you something better. End all of your requests with the phrase, “This or something better” and you will be letting the universe know that “Thy will be done” is of highest importance. Why is this so? Because the universe can see the big picture while your ego can't. Your job is to ask for what you want, and then to act on the inner nudges you get to do things, like make phone calls, write letters, visit a certain person, or whatever. Bob Proctor, in his wonderful book, You Were Born Rich, puts it this way: “Learn to follow the quiet voice within that speaks in feelings rather than words; follow what you 'hear' inside, rather than what others may be telling you to do.” The universe itself will act to move you to what you want, and move what you want to you. All you have to do is let go, while acting on your inner prompts. Let go of fear, doubt, worry, disappointment, and any other negative emotion that might make you feel low. The famous poet and sage Rumi wrote something that may help you here: “Some things that don't happen keep disasters from happening.” Now think about it. What you're being asked to do is trust. Trust that when something happens, it's good, and trust that when something you want doesn't happen, it's good, too. Wayne Dyer has an interesting book out called The Power of Intention. It claims to teach you how to get whatever you want. A friend read the book and said the title should be How to Get What You Want By Wanting What You Get. Well exactly! The trick to manifesting whatever you want is to trust that whatever you get is what you wanted to manifest in the first place. You attracted it. The more you can understand this balance of wanting and allowing, or desiring and letting go, the more you will be happy in every moment. Some things that look like they are in our best interest are often not going to serve us when we see the big picture. We have to trust and let go, realizing that everything that happens is for our highest good. I'm riveted by the book A Lifetime of Riches, the biography of Napoleon Hill, the author of the classic book Think and Grow Rich. Not only did this man struggle for 20 years to write the definitive guide to success, but he experienced poverty, his life was threatened, his backers were murdered, he suffered from bouts of hopelessness, and his family suffered beyond all understanding. He was not an overnight success. One thing that stood out in Hill's life story was his ability to turn the negative into the positive. He always looked for what some people call that silver lining in the dark cloud. As I thought about Hill's life, I realized I've been noticing this ability to see the good in the bad practiced by others, too. I was at a meeting with my friend Mark Joyner, Internet pioneer and bestselling author. I overheard Mark talking to a man who had just gone through hell due to the FTC. Mark listened to the man's sad story and then said, “Turn it into something good.” Now this is remarkable advice. It's the kind of thing Napoleon Hill would have said. It goes against what most people ever even attempt to try. The whole idea of taking whatever happens to you and turning it into something good seems, at first glance, preposterous. But this also seems to be a key to success. I remember P. T. Barnum offering to buy a rival's elephant. He sent a telegram stating his offer. His competitors took Barnum's telegram and ran it as an ad, saying, “Here's what Barnum thinks of our elephant.” Well instead of being upset, Barnum decided to join with those competitors. That gave birth to the famous Barnum & Bailey Circus. Barnum took the experience and turned it into something good. What I, Barnum, and Napoleon Hill are doing is one thing: Taking the so-called negative experiences in life and turning them into something good. I call this TIISG. It stands for Turn It Into Something Good. You have the ability to do this. It's a choice. No matter what happens, take a breath and ask, “How can I turn this into something good?” The question redirects your mind. Instead of looking at the problem, you are now looking for solutions. This is a brilliant way to learn how to operate your own brain. You become the master, not the slave, of your life. Andrew Carnegie, that tycoon who challenged Napoleon Hill to undertake his 20 year quest to uncover the secrets of success, confessed that the principle key to his own staggering success was the ability to operate his own mind. He told Napoleon Hill, “I am no longer cursed by poverty because I took possession of my own mind, and that mind has yielded me every material thing I want, and much more than I need.