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  • Here's a secret that may surprise you: when you

  • want something, but can live without having it,

  • you have upped the odds of your having it. This is one of the ironies of life. As long

  • as you are playfully desiring something, but not addicted to your

  • having it, the universe will most likely quickly bring

  • it to you. But as soon as you say, “I must have this,”

  • you begin to push it away.

  • Why? Because you are sending out an energy to repel

  • what you say you want.

  • Because you are focused on need and not in the moment.

  • Because you haven't learned the ultimate secret:

  • Let Go.

  • Again, the ultimate secret to attracting whatever you want is

  • to want it without needing it. When you are detached to the

  • outcome, you disconnect from everything that could sabotage

  • your success when you state your intention and are happy whether you

  • achieve it or not. This is a delicate balance. But it's the major

  • secret to how the universe works. In other words, in the world of everyday reality,

  • struggling to achieve something causes the opposite forces

  • within yourself to kick into play. But when you come from

  • an inner place of serenity, and you go with the flow toward

  • your wishes, you have upped the odds of your achieving

  • them. Your peace will attract peace.

  • Years ago I discovered that most of us, myself included, don't

  • like to let go and allow because there's nothing for us to grapple

  • with. There's no drama. Most of us feel that if we can't get

  • in there and fight and struggle, we don't feel like we're accomplishing

  • anything or getting anywhere. The struggle gives a sense of accomplishment. At least,

  • you can say, “Hey, I tried.”

  • The ego gets a big rush out of struggle. The ego gets to feel

  • that it is doing something worthwhile. Well, that's okay. If

  • your ego needs a pat on the back, let it struggle for some of

  • the things that you desire. But the truth is, you don't have to

  • struggle at all. Again, it can be another way, an easier way.

  • I used to teach a class calledThe Inner Game of Writing.”

  • It was modeled after the work of Tim Gallwey, who wrote

  • The Inner Game of Tennis and co-authored several otherinner

  • gamebooks. What I discovered was that we have at

  • least two distinct beings within us, not personalities so much

  • as aspects of our mind. Gallwey called them Self One and

  • Self Two. Self One can be likened to your ego, the part

  • of you that wants to control.

  • Self Two can be likened to the inner master within you, the

  • part of you that is connected to all things. The job of Self One is to select what you

  • want and let go. The job of Self Two is to bring it to you.

  • Gallwey learned that when people learned to let go and

  • trust, they got what they wanted more often than not, and it

  • came much easier than if they fought for it.

  • The same concept works in your life. Choose what you

  • want and let God or the Universe (whatever that means to

  • you) bring it to you. Let it orchestrate the events that will

  • manifest the thing you desire. Give up needing to know how

  • you will manifest anything. Knowing how can become a limitation.

  • If you choose to manifest something, but can't consciously

  • see a way to create it, you may give up. The conscious

  • mind can't see all of the possibilities. Surrender control

  • and you free the universe to bring you whatever you want.

  • Again, when you know what you want and are clear, you will

  • be drawn to the thing you want, and events will pull it to you.

  • Dan Poynter is a dear friend and internationally recognized

  • expert on self-publishing. He's written several books, including

  • the famous Self-Publishing Manual. Dan also conducts

  • weekend seminars in his home on how to self-publish and

  • market your own book. He's been offering this seminar for

  • over 10 years, has helped hundreds of people, but has always

  • struggled to get people to register for the event. One day Dan

  • called me for my help. “I want you to write a brochure for me that

  • is so powerful that people sign up for my seminar without

  • my having to do a thing.”

  • Well, notice what Dan was doing. He knew what he didn't

  • want (to pull teeth to get people to come to his seminar),

  • and he knew what he did want (to have people call and

  • register easily and effortlessly). When I agreed to create a new

  • brochure for Dan, what did he have to do? Let go.

  • He had to let go. He had to trust that he hired the right guy

  • and all would be well. So I designed a flyer for Dan, he loved it,

  • and he printed it. A few weeks later, I called him and he said,

  • My seminar is already sold out.”

  • It is?!” I yelled, delighted. But Dan stopped me in my

  • tracks. “But it isn't due to your flyer,” he

  • said. “It isn't?” Dan went on to say

  • The seminar sold out two weeks ago, and I only mailed

  • out the new flyer last week. There had been a delay in the

  • mailing.” I askedThen what happened?” I asked. “Why

  • did it sell out?” Dan didn't know. But here's my guess.

  • As you know by now, the energy you give out brings the results

  • you get. When Dan stated his new intention, and allowed

  • me to create a new flyer for him, he was changing the inner

  • signal he was sending out. Once you change the way

  • you are inside, the outer world changes. Dan didn't even

  • have to mail his flyer out. People picked up on the signals

  • in the air and responded.

  • Crazy? Well maybe so. But as I've pointed out throughout this

  • recording, the energy you give out attracts and creates the results

  • you get. Change your inner energy and you change

  • your results.

  • The following story reveals how one of my greatest dreams

  • came true. I am sharing it with you in the hope that it will inspire

  • you to go for your own dreams. It's all about the power

  • of setting an intention and then letting go of it.

  • I wanted to have an audio program of my own in the

  • Nightingale-Conant catalog for many years. I wanted it for

  • the prestige, as well as for the profit. I wanted to be among

  • their roster of greats: Tony Robbins, Tom Peters, Deepak

  • Chopra, Bob Proctor, Brian Tracy, and Wayne Dyer.

  • But until autumn 1998, this desire had only been a dream.

  • Despite the fact that I always sent Nightingale-Conant my

  • new books as soon as they were published, I could never

  • seem to ignite their interest in my work. But I never gave up. I simply held onto the

  • dream, trusted that something would give sooner or later,

  • and kept doing my thing.

  • And then something amazing happened. One day, a man began sending me e-mail, asking

  • numerous questions about marketing in general and P.

  • T. Barnum in particular. I answered all of his

  • questions, glad to help. Then, one day I received a shock. The man

  • sent me an email saying, “If you ever want your material

  • considered by Nightingale-Conant, let me know. I'm their

  • Marketing Project Manager.”

  • This amazing story illustrates many lessons: The power of a dream (I held my vision of

  • what I wanted for years).

  • The miracle that comes from having someone who believes

  • in you.

  • The true magic that occurs when you are in alignment

  • with your life's purpose and doing what makes your

  • heart sing. And the power of letting go.

  • I'm sure there are other lessons in this story, lessons that

  • you see and I don't. Again, I am sharing this with you in

  • the hope that it sets your own heart on fire, awakens something

  • in your soul, and urges you to go forand getyour

  • own dreams. And here's something else to think about:

  • According to research done at Spindrift Foundation on the

  • power of prayer, a “Thy will be doneprayer gets more

  • than twice as many results as a specificgive me this

  • prayer. That's why it's so important to end your request for

  • anything you want with the magic words, “This or something

  • better.”

  • When I was writing my book on P. T. Barnum, I went to the famous showman's

  • grave in Bridgeport, Connecticut. I had a moving experience

  • there. But what I want to share with you here is what I saw written

  • on P. T. Barnum's gravesite marker. To my surprise, carved in

  • his simple concrete headstone were these magical words, words

  • that Barnum relied on throughout his colorful life:

  • Not my will but thine be done.” Those magic words worked for Barnum, helping

  • him to survive personal and professional disasters

  • and to become one of America's first millionaires, and

  • those words can work for you, too.

  • In other words, trust the universe. Want something better?

  • You can ask for whatever you want to do, be, or have, but

  • also be willing for the universe to give you something better.

  • End all of your requests with the phrase, “This or something

  • betterand you will be letting the universe know thatThy

  • will be doneis of highest importance.

  • Why is this so? Because the universe can see the big picture

  • while your ego can't. Your job is to ask for what you want, and

  • then to act on the inner nudges you get to do things, like

  • make phone calls, write letters, visit a certain person,

  • or whatever. Bob Proctor, in his wonderful book, You Were Born

  • Rich, puts it this way:

  • Learn to follow the quiet voice within that speaks in feelings

  • rather than words; follow what you 'hear' inside, rather

  • than what others may be telling you to do.” The universe itself will act to move you to

  • what you want, and move what you want to you. All you have

  • to do is let go, while acting on your inner prompts. Let go

  • of fear, doubt, worry, disappointment, and any other negative

  • emotion that might make you feel low.

  • The famous poet and sage Rumi wrote something that may

  • help you here: “Some things that don't happen keep disasters

  • from happening.” Now think about it. What you're being asked

  • to do is trust. Trust that when something happens, it's

  • good, and trust that when something you want doesn't happen,

  • it's good, too.

  • Wayne Dyer has an interesting book out called The Power of

  • Intention. It claims to teach you how to get whatever you

  • want. A friend read the book and said the title should be How

  • to Get What You Want By Wanting What You Get. Well exactly!

  • The trick to manifesting whatever you want is to trust that

  • whatever you get is what you wanted to manifest in the first

  • place. You attracted it. The more you can understand this balance

  • of wanting and allowing, or desiring and letting go, the

  • more you will be happy in every moment.

  • Some things that look like they are in our best interest are

  • often not going to serve us when we see the big picture. We

  • have to trust and let go, realizing that everything that happens

  • is for our highest good.

  • I'm riveted by the book A Lifetime of Riches, the biography of Napoleon

  • Hill, the author of the classic book Think and Grow Rich.

  • Not only did this man struggle for 20 years to write the

  • definitive guide to success, but he experienced poverty, his

  • life was threatened, his backers were murdered, he suffered

  • from bouts of hopelessness, and his family suffered beyond

  • all understanding.

  • He was not an overnight success. One thing that stood out in Hill's life

  • story was his ability to turn the negative into the positive. He

  • always looked for what some people call that silver lining

  • in the dark cloud. As I thought about Hill's life, I

  • realized I've been noticing this ability to see the good in the

  • bad practiced by others, too.

  • I was at a meeting with my friend Mark Joyner, Internet pioneer

  • and bestselling author. I overheard Mark talking to a

  • man who had just gone through hell due to the FTC. Mark

  • listened to the man's sad story and then said, “Turn it into

  • something good.” Now this is remarkable advice. It's the

  • kind of thing Napoleon Hill would have said. It goes against

  • what most people ever even attempt to try. The whole

  • idea of taking whatever happens to you and turning it into

  • something good seems, at first glance, preposterous.

  • But this also seems to be a key to success. I remember P. T.

  • Barnum offering to buy a rival's elephant. He sent a telegram

  • stating his offer. His competitors took Barnum's telegram and

  • ran it as an ad, saying, “Here's what Barnum thinks of our

  • elephant.” Well instead of being upset, Barnum decided

  • to join with those competitors. That gave birth to the famous

  • Barnum & Bailey Circus. Barnum took the experience and turned

  • it into something good.

  • What I, Barnum, and Napoleon Hill are doing is one thing:

  • Taking the so-called negative experiences in life and turning

  • them into something good. I call this TIISG. It stands for Turn

  • It Into Something Good. You have the ability to do this. It's a

  • choice. No matter what happens, take a breath and ask, “How

  • can I turn this into something good?”

  • The question redirects your mind. Instead of looking at the

  • problem, you are now looking for solutions. This is a brilliant

  • way to learn how to operate your own brain. You become the

  • master, not the slave, of your life.

  • Andrew Carnegie, that tycoon who challenged Napoleon Hill to undertake his 20 year quest

  • to uncover the secrets of success, confessed that the

  • principle key to his own staggering success was the ability

  • to operate his own mind.

  • He told Napoleon Hill, “I am no longer cursed by poverty because I

  • took possession of my own mind, and that mind has yielded

  • me every material thing I want, and much more than I need.