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Ian and Larissa asked me to read a couple of quotes
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from a man named John Piper
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who is a well-known Bible teacher
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and he talks about marriage
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and how this mystery refers to Christ and the church
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and he says this
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"Marriage is not mainly about prospering economically
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It is mainly about displaying the covenant-keeping love
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between Christ and his Church"
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he says, "Knowing Christ is more important
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than making a living
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treasuring Christ is more important
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than bearing children
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either way, it is short
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it may have many bright days
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or it may be covered with clouds
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but if we set our face to make of marriage
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mainly what God designed it to be
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no sorrows and no calamities can stand in our way
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every one of them will be not an obstacle to success
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but a way to succeed
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the beauty of the covenant-keeping love
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between Christ and his Church
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shines brightest when nothing but Christ can sustain it"
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Ian and I first met in 2005 at college
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and had a blast for ten months getting to know each other
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I was looking through and I found one of my favorite pictures
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which I think was actually taken right before his accident
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he set up a camera on his tripod
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and it's just a classic Ian face
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that, to me, sums up who he is
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we had been dating for ten months
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and he was working an extra job for his dad
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and he was on his way to work near Pittsburg
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and we got a phone call that he had been in an accident
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and we didn't know if it was when he got to work
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or on his way
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and so we got down to Pittsburg
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and I was just praying the whole time in the car
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that it wouldn't be his brain
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after being at the hospital for a few hours
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we found out that it was
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and he had been in brain surgery for a few hours
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and had suffered a traumatic brain injury
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God totally spared his life
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one night he was failing four out of five brain activity tests
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and the next morning he was doing well
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and his brain was starting to respond again
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I moved in with his family after the accident
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so I was really involved in his therapy
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and just did whatever I could to make his life fun
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we'd go out on dates and, looking back, it's weird
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cause he couldn't talk
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and he couldn't eat
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so we probably looked like complete weirdos being on dates
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but we had a blast and I just talked to him all the time
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I knew that before Ian's accident he was very serious
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about marriage and was ring shopping
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so I knew where he was
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and that helped me so much
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after he couldn't talk
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I knew that he loved me
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and I knew where he wanted the relationship to go
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because we were dating very intentionally
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we just prayed that marriage would someday happen
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and watched all of our friends get married
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and start having families
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and that was challenging
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but we just tried to hold out hope
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that that would be us someday
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This is our board of gratefulness
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and we encourage anybody who comes in
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to write a note of something they're thankful for
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it could be really small
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mine is just Saturday mornings
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it's just a good way that we found to be
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just practicing gratefulness
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Ian, I think half of yours say, "My wifey"
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yeah
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which is pretty cool
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yeah
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we decided that we couldn't really
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consider marriage as an option
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until Ian was able to communicate
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but if he could communicate with me
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then we could have a marriage
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knowing it would be really different
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but as long as Ian could talk to me
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then we could make it work
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so once Ian began communicating
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it became a little bit more of an option
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and then we just kind of watched Ian progress
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Hi, husband!
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Hi, wifey!
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How are you?
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Fine. How are you?
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What?
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How are you?
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I'm good, it's good to see you
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How was your day? Good?
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Good, yes
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A conversation I had with his dad
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it was one of those conversations
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where I realized this could happen
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then that August his dad was diagnosed with brain cancer
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and at that point his dad's biggest concern was Ian and I
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and whether or not we were going to get married
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or step away from our relationship
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he wanted us to make a decision
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to move our lives in some direction
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he passed away before he was able to see us get engaged
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but that was a huge impetus in why we started to pursue engagement
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throughout premarital counseling
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we just used This Momentary Marriage
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it was so helpful because John Piper talked a lot about
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primary things and secondary things
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which is real important for us
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because we were walking out our marriage practically
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Ian can't do the secondary things like working
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or making a meal for me
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everything that's primary, though, he can do
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which is leading me spiritually
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Ian always comes back to
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the foundational truths of who God is
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and kind of reels me back in from my emotions
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and that's the most important thing
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we have two friends that we're going through the book with
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I think we've just been able to help them see
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that maybe the little things that they're excited for
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about marriage are worth being excited about
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but they're not the end-all and be-all of their marriage
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but we also have so much to learn
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and we're learning from them
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and things that they share
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because our relationships are different
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and we can glean different things from each other
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I think what helped us in deciding to make
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this commitment to each other
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at least for me
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is knowing that Ian wouldn't have left me
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if the roles were reversed
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and that we love each other and we know
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that God is going to be faithful to our marriage
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we're able to love each other
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with, I think, a more Christ-like love
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because of Ian's disability
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and just understand that picture
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a little bit better than if you were healthy
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Do you agree?
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Yes
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What about God enables you to have a happy marriage?
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You know...
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What?
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He's awesome!
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He's awesome?
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Yeah
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"When all around my soul gives way He then is all my hope and stay."
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Desiring God exists to spread the truth that
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God is most glorified in us when we are most satisfied in him.