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  • Hello.

  • My name's Ronnie.

  • I'm very confident, and I really like talking.

  • [Sighs] Oh, god.

  • [Laughs]

  • Do you think that one of the reasons why you don't like to speak English is because

  • you lack confidence maybe in speaking or in writing, or just in your daily life?

  • Confidence is the number one problem that you have while learning English.

  • So, a lot of people talk to me and say:

  • "Ronnie, I can't speak English. I'm terrible."

  • And I say:

  • "Oh, no. You can speak English. You are not terrible."

  • So, I want to help you and I want you to become more confident in your daily life, whatever

  • you do, not only English, for everything.

  • So, I'm going to teach you some tricks or some methods to become more confident.

  • Thumbs up.

  • Even if you're not, then just pretend.

  • Everyone pretends.

  • So, I'm going to go through things that are bad and the reasons why you and I are not

  • confident people.

  • First of all, we have a fear.

  • We have a fear of the unknown.

  • We have fear that we don't know what's going to happen.

  • Maybe you're going to go for a job interview, or you're starting a new class, or you're

  • going to go on a date, or you're meeting new people, you're going to a party - we have

  • no idea what's going to happen.

  • That's cool, let it happen.

  • We can't change the future.

  • We don't know about the future, so what we can do is we can prepare our self.

  • Now, if we're talking about doing something, like a presentation or standing up in front

  • of people, going to a party, especially if you're trying to speak English, what you can

  • do if you're worried about your English is you can practice speaking at home.

  • Now, this might sound a little crazy, but who cares?

  • What you can do is take your phone, you can record yourself speaking English.

  • Maybe you're doing a presentation, so record your presentation, listen to it.

  • [Gasps] You think it's terrible?

  • Do it again.

  • We have an expression: "Practice makes perfect."

  • It's not going to be perfect, but it'll be good.

  • So the more you practice something, the more comfortable you're going to feel, the more

  • confidence you're going to have, and you're going to rock that.

  • You're going to go to the party and be like: "Yeah! I'm the best party person ever."

  • Or you're going to go to your job interview and you're going to get the job.

  • I feel like I'm an infomercial.

  • Okay, the next one and probably one of the hardest is criticism.

  • Criticism means people tell you what you do wrong.

  • People tell you bad things about you.

  • People tell you your pronunciation is terrible, your work is awful.

  • How do you feel? You feel: "Oh my god. Why am I even alive?"

  • So people criticize you, and depending on how they do it...

  • For example, if you have a boss who only tells you bad things, this is not a very good boss.

  • But if you have a boss who criticizes you and tells you positive things, this is getting better.

  • But what we have to do is we have to learn from the criticism.

  • We have an expression: "Don't take it personally."

  • This means, for example, if your boss says:

  • "You know what? Your... Your presentation wasn't that good."

  • Instead of: "Oh my god", instead of feeling negative or feeling bad, just go:

  • "Okay. Well, please tell me how I can make it better."

  • Your boss is there maybe to help you, unless you have a terrible boss, but always try and

  • learn from the criticism.

  • If you've done something wrong, admit it and go: "Oh, do you know what?

  • You know...

  • You know, that was terrible, but I can do next time better."

  • So always try to improve from your criticism.

  • Critics are maybe your best friends because they tell you what's wrong and you have to listen to that.

  • Next one.

  • I'd like to inform everyone out there that you are not airbrushed models,

  • and I am sure far from being a model.

  • What happens is in magazines nowadays, we have these beautiful ladies.

  • They are simply perfect.

  • Look at her lips, and her nose, and her eyes...

  • Actually, she doesn't have a nose.

  • This woman has no nose.

  • Where's your nose?

  • I have eyebrows, by the way.

  • She does not have a nose.

  • So, if you...

  • Oh my god, Angelina Jolie, she's gorgeous.

  • Her life's a mess, but she's gorgeous.

  • This is airbrushed. This is not real.

  • These are not real p-...

  • Oh, hello.

  • I'll just be over here, okay.

  • These are not real people.

  • These are processed, Photoshopped just images of bodies.

  • And we cannot look at this and go:

  • "I don't look as pouty, as wonderful as she does in this Ralph Lauren jacket",

  • which is not Ralph Lauren at all because they're terrible.

  • Never, ever think that you are not beautiful and wonderful, because you don't look like

  • these pieces of...

  • I don't know, skeletons.

  • So, everyone has a problem with their personal appearance.

  • You've... We all have issues, what we don't like about yourself.

  • Hey, that's cool.

  • But what you have to do is you have to get over that and you have to think: "Do you know what?

  • I'm actually pretty good.

  • I have some things that I like about me."

  • Make a list.

  • "Well, I quite like my left eyelash, I think it's pretty long and cute.

  • My baby fingers are pretty cute, too."

  • So think about things that you like about yourself.

  • Another one that's really, really, really important especially at work or in a job interview

  • is lack of knowledge.

  • So, this is a doozy, which means it's important.

  • If you're going for a job interview and you don't know anything about the job, you're

  • not going to get it.

  • So what you have to do is you have to research.

  • Research the company, find out something about the company that you can talk about.

  • If it's English, watch my videos.

  • Watch www.engvid.com, and you can learn so that you have more knowledge about your topic.

  • This, again, is not only for English.

  • If you're doing...

  • Making a presentation at your work, research it.

  • Just get information.

  • The more information you have in your brain, the more confident you will be because you

  • know what you're going to say.

  • I'd like to show you guys something.

  • This is my notebook of what I do about five hours before I stand here.

  • This is my notebook of notes about what I'm going to teach you.

  • And sometimes I cross it off, and last night I couldn't really sleep too well because I thought:

  • "What am I going to do? What am I going to teach on the videos?"

  • So what I do is I have to prepare myself.

  • So at nighttime I lie awake at night and I think: "What can I do? What can I do?"

  • And then it gets better. So what I do is I prepare myself.

  • I know what I'm going to tell you.

  • I've written it down, it's in my brain.

  • This gives me the confidence to stand in front of you and teach you this.

  • Yeah, I'm doing pretty good.

  • The... One of the things that is the worst thing you can do to yourself is have negative thinking.

  • So, so many people tell me this: "Ronnie, I can't speak English. My English is terrible."

  • Guess what? You've just said two wonderful sentences to me,

  • and I know you can speak English, but

  • your brain goes: "That was terrible. My pronunciation's awful."

  • Guess what?

  • Your pronunciation may not be perfect, but at least you're trying and you will do it.

  • The more you practice it, the more you record it, the better you will become.

  • You have to take these negative ideas and get them out of your head.

  • This also goes along with negative people.

  • Maybe you have people in your life who are always putting you down because you can't

  • say "pronunciation", like me.

  • [Laughs] Okay?

  • Maybe you have people who say:

  • "Oh, no, no. Your English is awful.

  • I can say 'pronunciation' and you can't."

  • What you have to do is you have to remove these people, or if you can't physically remove

  • them, don't listen to them.

  • Other people will always be jealous of your achievements, if they're bad people, and other

  • people will try to bring you down to make them look better.

  • So you know what we're doing to these people - ignore them, carry on.

  • Even if it's your boss or people around you all the time, your mom and your dad, your

  • brothers or sisters, ignore them.

  • They're not perfect, I'm not perfect, you're not perfect, but at least you're going to

  • try to do it.

  • What are they doing? Nothing.

  • Now, we get to the good things.

  • So, you've got all these bad things and I've told you how to get rid of them, but let's

  • focus on what you can do now to make you more confident.

  • First one is reward yourself.

  • So what does this mean?

  • This means if you do something well, you got a job at the job interview-woohoo-or you did...

  • You passed your presentation and you didn't die-amazing-or you got a promotion at work,

  • go out and celebrate.

  • Buy yourself something you want.

  • Grab some chocolate.

  • Do something that you like because you can celebrate doing something well.

  • The next thing...

  • [Laughs]

  • Is a fortune cookie.

  • If you do something well, you can get a fortune cookie.

  • It's free with every video that I do.

  • Good.

  • And I can't throw.

  • Next one: Don't compare yourself.

  • So, I've told you before that people will always say:

  • "Oh, Bobby's better than you are at this." That's great.

  • Bobby, suck it.

  • It doesn't matter if somebody's better than you are.

  • What matters is that you are yourself, you are unique, and that you're doing the best

  • you can do.

  • I know this might come as a surprise to some people, but I'm pretty strange and all through

  • my life people told me:

  • "Ronnie, you're weird. Ronnie, you're different."

  • Yeah. And, who cares? Rock it.

  • Okay?

  • Be unique.

  • Don't let other people bring you down.

  • Don't listen to them.

  • They want to make you bad.

  • You're better than that.

  • This is a really important thing that you can do every day in your life, job interviews,

  • at your job, at your school, at your work, on a date.

  • If there's a girl or a boy that you like, go get 'em, tigers.

  • Grr.

  • But body language is really important.

  • If you are standing...

  • We say slumped over like this...

  • Hi.

  • People might think that you have a problem with your back.

  • But the first thing that you have to do is stand tall.

  • When you stand tall or straight it makes the person think that you're confident.

  • If you're slouched over and walking like this, people aren't going to respect you, people

  • are not going to take you seriously.

  • One of the biggest and most amazing things that you can do is smile.

  • And I thought: "Ronnie, why? What...?

  • What are you talking about? Why do you...?

  • Why does smiling help you?"

  • It will instantly change someone's face from: "Oh, I'm going to kill you", to:

  • "Hey, this is kind of good".

  • So if you feel uncomfortable, or if you feel unconfident or not confident,

  • all you have to do is smile.

  • I know it's hard, but try it.

  • Go down the street tomorrow, next day, today, look at the people and smile at them.

  • You're going to see they will smile back at you, and you will get a really, really cool

  • feeling from that.

  • Social experiment number seven: Smile at people, see what happens.

  • It makes the other people feel very comfortable, very relaxed, and it makes them like you.

  • A very important thing, I've told you this before: You got to look the people in the eye.

  • If you don't look them in the eye, if you look down or if you're looking at the sky

  • or the ceiling, people aren't too sure what you're doing.

  • I was told a really, really awful story by someone that ladies in either Venezuela or

  • Colombia, if they're married or with someone who's a guy, they're not really allowed to

  • look at other men in the eye.

  • Are you absolutely joking?

  • So if I'm a married woman, I cannot look another man in the eyes?

  • Oh, Ronnie's not having that.

  • I'm coming to Colombia and Venezuela, and I'm looking at all of you guys in the eyes.

  • It's a form of respect.

  • Women, if you don't look men in the eyes or anyone in the eyes, it tells them that you

  • are not a strong person.

  • Lift up your eyes and look them straight in the eyes.

  • You got it, girl.

  • You go, girlfriend.

  • So eye contact is very important.

  • And speak slowly.

  • Ronnie's not very good at this.

  • But especially if English is not your first language, or you're doing a presentation,

  • in a job interview-I know you're nervous and you're like:

  • "La-la-la-la-la", you want to get this information out-try and speak slowly.

  • This is where you're going to record your voice and you're going to practice.

  • When I was a child and I had to do speeches, my parents would make me stand and recite

  • the speech or say the speech many times.

  • And my mom would always say: "Ronnie, slow down!"

  • I'd be like: "Ah-la-la-la."

  • So, speak slowly.

  • It'll just help with communication.

  • Last one and I want you to do this now.

  • Okay? Grab a pen, grab a pencil, I don't know.

  • Create a list of why you are great.