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Hi, this is Brad Browning, author of the Ex Factor Guide and in this video I'm going to
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talk about how to make your ex miss you. Now, if you want to get back together with your
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ex, you're going to have to make your ex miss you. That's just a simple fact of life. If
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you want to get them back, your ex must miss you. So how do you make them miss you? That's
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what I'm going to talk about in this video. The first thing that you need to understand
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is that you can't convince your ex to get back together with you. No amount of words
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-- begging, pleading, or trying to convince is going to make that happen. They need to
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organically and naturally want to get back together with you. And if they miss you, that's
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going to stimulate those feelings of wanting to get back together with you because they
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miss you. And the way to stifle that pain of missing you is to get back together. So
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how do you make them miss you? Well, the first thing that you need to understand is that
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your break up ended because the attraction faded between you and your ex. It was there
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initially when your relationship was going really well and then over a period of time
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whether it was a month or a year, the attraction faded. And it faded to the point that your
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ex decided that they didn't want to be with you. So how do you rebuild that attraction
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well again? Make them miss you! Now, let's just think about, more broadly, what makes
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you miss someone or something? Well it's when you're used to having someone or something
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in your life, you become comfortable with them. It becomes part of your daily routine.
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They become integrated in your life. Just like your ex was! You were there for them,
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you called them everyday. Maybe they woke up beside you everyday. Maybe you saw them
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every night after work. Whatever it was, they were a major part of your life and you were
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a major part of their life. So in order to make them miss you, what do you have to do?
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Well, you have to disappear! Completely vanish off their radar. That's the very best way
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to make someone miss you. They were comfortable having you around. They were used to having
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you part of their life, and then all of a sudden, boom. Cold turkey. You're gone. And
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that's really going to stimulate those feelings of missing you. And that's something you absolutely
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need if you want to get them back. It has to be natural and making them miss you is
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the most natural way of doing that. So how do you disappear completely in a very practical
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way? Of course you can't just magically, poof, be gone from their life. It's always more
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complicated than that. But this is where the 30 day, No Contact rule comes into play. Maybe
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you've heard about this before on the internet, you've read about it. Essentially what the
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No Contact rule is is that is basically means, for the 30 days after your break, the first
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30 days after your breakup, you don't talk to your ex at all. Of course there's a few
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complications with that, and the very rare case where it might not be appropriate, but
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generally speaking the 30 day No Contact rule is something you're going to want to do after
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the breakup in order to get your ex to start missing you. Now the science says (and there
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is some science behind this, I'm not just making all this up) the science says that
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generally speaking after a breakup, and of course it depends on the duration of your
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relationship and how bad the breakup was and how serious the relationship was, but generally
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speaking, the peak of those feelings of missing your ex occur 3 weeks after the initial breakup.
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That's assuming you're doing this No Contact method, of course. If you're not doing that,
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then you're not giving them the chance of developing those feelings of missing you.
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But if you are employing the No Contact strategy for 30 days, then around 3 weeks is the peak
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of those feelings. Your ex is going to be missing you like crazy. They haven't heard
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from you or talked to you in 3 weeks. And even if things were a little rocky at the
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end of your relationship, trust me, they're still going to be missing you and missing
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having you around and in their life. Now there's another element to this whole making your
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ex miss you and No Contact thing that you also need to understand. And that's that,
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making your ex miss you, at the same time, it also helps to make your ex let go of some
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of the negative memories that they have of you and your relationship. Over time, as they
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get to miss you more and more and as they approach that 3 week peak of missing you,
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they'll start to let go of the negative memories and they'll start to forget, even if it's
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on a subconscious level, why they decided to break up with you in the first place. And
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in addition to dropping some sort of the negative memories of forgetting some of the reasons
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why they wanted to breakup, they'll also hold on to the nostalgia and happy memories. They'll
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hold on to them and they'll come back to the surface during that time when they're missing
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you like crazy. They'll be thinking and focusing on the positive aspects. And that's great
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of course if you want to get them back because they're forgetting the bad parts of your relationship
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and they're remembering the good parts. So that's another advantage of making your ex
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miss you is that those feelings will be even stronger and if you can make them miss you
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so badly that it's killing them inside and really need to stifle that pain and that heartache,
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then maybe they'll get back together with you. And that certainly does happen sometimes
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if you were so close and then you breakup and you apply the 30 day No Contact rule,
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they miss you so much that in order to just stifle that pain they decide, well, let's
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get back together and that will solve all my problems. I won't miss him anymore or her
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anymore. So that's pretty much how to make your ex miss you in a nutshell. Obviously
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there's way more to it than that that I can't cover in this video, so please if you do need
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more help or if you want to learn more, head over to my website. It's BREAKUPBRAD.com and
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over there, I got a FREE video up, you can watch that. And also you'll be able to get
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my email address and send me an email. And thanks very much for watching I would really
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appreciate it if you like this video or subscribe to my YouTube channel. Really appreciate it.
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Thank you so much for watching. We'll talk to you next time.