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  • A conversation requires a balance between talking and listening, and somewhere along


  • the way we lost that balance. So, I'd like to spend the next 10 minutes or so teaching


  • you how to talk and how to listen. I'm gonna teach you how to interview people


  • and that's actually gonna help you learn how to be better conversationalists. Number 1: Don't multitask.

    会話上手になる方法を 学ぶのに役立ちますその1:マルチタスクをしない。

  • I mean be present, don't be thinking about your argument you had with your boss,


  • don't be thinking about what you're gonna have for dinner, if you wanna get out of the conversation,


  • get out of the conversation. Number 2: Don't pontificate. If you wanted to state your opinion


  • without any opportunity for response, write a blog. You need to enter every conversation


  • assuming that you have something to learn. Bill Nye: "Everyone you will ever meet knows


  • something that you don't." Number 3: Use open ended questions. In this case, take a cue from Journalists,

    "あなたの知らないことを"その3:オープンエンドな質問を使うこの場合は ジャーナリストからヒントを得ましょう

  • start your questions with: Who, What, When, Where, Why, or How. If you put in a complicated question,


  • you're gonna get a simple answer out. If I ask you "Were you terrified?"


  • You're going to respond to the most powerful word in that sentence which is terrified


  • and the answer is "Yes I was" or "No I wasn't". Try asking them things like "What was that like?"

    と聞くと「そうだった」「そうではなかった」という答えが返ってきます。"それはどんな感じだった?" とか聞いてみてください

  • "How did that feel?" Number 4: Go with the flow. Thoughts will come into your mind and


  • you need to let them go out of your mind. We're sitting there having a conversation with someone

    あなたの心の中にあるものを 解放する必要があります誰かと会話をしながら座っていると

  • and then we remember that time that we met Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop


  • and we stop listening! Stories and Ideas are gonna come to you, you need to let them come and let them go.


  • Number 5: If you don't know, say that you don't know. Now people on the radio,


  • especially on NPR are much more aware that they're going on the record, and so


  • they're more careful about what they claim to be an expert in and what they claim to know for sure.


  • Do that. Err on the side of caution. Number 6: Don't equate your experience with theirs.


  • If they're talking about having lost a family member, don't start talking about the time


  • that you lost a family member. It's not the same, it is never the same.


  • All experiences are individual. Number 7: Try not to repeat yourself, it's condescending and


  • it's really boring. And we tend to do it a lot- We have a point to make so we just keep rephrasing


  • it over and over... Don't do that. Number 8: Stay out of the weeds.


  • Frankly, people don't care about the years, the names, the dates, they don't care. Number 9: Listen.


  • And look, I know, it takes effort and energy to actually pay attention to someone.

    誰かに注意を払うには 努力とエネルギーが必要なんだ

  • But,if you can't do that, you're not in a conversation. Stephen Covey said it very beautifully,


  • he said: "Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand, we listen with the intent to reply."

    彼は言った"ほとんどの人は理解するつもりで聞くのではなく 返事するつもりで聞く"

  • One more rule and, Number 10, and it's this one: Be Brief.

    もう一つのルールと 10番 これだ簡潔に

  • All of this boils down to the same basic concept and it is this one: be interested in other people.


  • Go out, talk to people, listen to people and most importantly be prepared to be amazed. Thanks.


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