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Now, back to the video.
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Have you ever put someone down
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for their appearance or intellect?
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Emotional abuse is one of
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the more common forms of abuse
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that uses behavioral or emotional tactics
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to gain a sense of control,
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or to maintain the upper hand in a relationship.
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It may be subtle and hard to recognize
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since it often gets swept under the rug
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as just a part of normal disagreements.
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Before we begin,
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we would like to mention
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that this video is for educational purposes only
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and is not intended to offend
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or trigger any of our audiences.
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This video is created so that
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anyone who sees themselves in these behaviors
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can use this information
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to improve their relationships and lives.
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With that said,
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here are seven signs
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you might be emotionally abusive.
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Number one, you jokingly insult people.
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Have you ever made a joke
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with the intention of hurting the person
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you're making fun of?
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While family and friends may enjoy
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playful banter with each other,
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teasing and playful put downs
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can end up crossing the line
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into emotional abuse
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when the jokes become aggressive,
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and used intentionally to send
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a negative and hurtful message across.
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This especially applies
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when you continue teasing the person
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or brush it off as only a joke,
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even though they've told you to stop
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and that your comments have become hurtful.
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Number two, you dismiss others' feelings.
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Have you ever purposefully
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ignored or dismissed how someone felt
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because you thought they deserved it?
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Everyday life can sometimes be so hectic,
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you lose sight of what's happening
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in other peoples' lives.
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After all, you can't know
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how your loved ones are feeling all the time.
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But not recognizing someone's feelings
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may become emotionally abusive
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when you tell them their feelings are wrong,
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or that they have no right to be so upset.
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This psychological invalidation
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of brushing someone's feelings off
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as irrelevant or dramatic
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can lead to feelings of rejection,
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alienation and depression.
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Number three, you like to embarrass others.
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Do you bring up someone's embarrassing moments
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to make them feel guilty or ashamed?
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Have you ever humiliated someone out of anger
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or because you feel threatened?
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It's one thing to laugh about the past moments
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in a fun and loving way,
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but this may quickly become emotional abuse
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when you go out of your way to humiliate them
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as a way of punishment
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or a reminder that you are the one
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in control in your relationship.
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Humiliating someone in front of people
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or when they've asked for you to stop
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can be incredibly damaging
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for their mental and emotional wellbeing.
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Number four, you like to push buttons.
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Did you know that constantly doing and saying things
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to get others to react
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is also a form of emotional abuse?
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Doing unpredictable things
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to keep the other person on their toes
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can be a form of emotional abuse.
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Instead of being spontaneous
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to do things you both enjoy,
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you may use this unpredictable tactic
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to say or do things to purposefully
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anger and upset them,
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especially in front of other people.
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This may include broadcasting
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a secret they told you in confidence,
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or making social media posts
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you know that will trigger them.
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Number five, you tell people
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their version of reality is wrong.
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Have you ever dismissed someone's experience as imagined?
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Gaslighting is a psychological term
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for negating someone else's reality
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and it involves intentional using
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someone's words, feelings, or actions against them.
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The goal is to completely discredit anything
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the other person has to say,
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so that the abuser can maintain
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control over the narrative.
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This may include telling them they are crazy,
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accusing them of lying,
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or making decisions for them without their input.
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Number six, you use your emotions
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to get people to do what you want.
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Have you intentionally made someone feel guilty
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just to get your way?
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Expressing your emotions can be great
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for your mental health.
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Appropriate self-expression
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facilitates open communication
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and prevents many resentments.
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However, unleashing your emotions becomes destructive
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when you use it to manipulate another person.
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This may include impulsive shouting or screaming,
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using threats or ultimatums,
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blaming them for fights you started,
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or using information they've
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told you in confidence against them
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to maintain control and power.
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Number seven, you use silence as a weapon.
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Are you the type who deals with conflict
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by shutting down
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and running the other direction?
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Have you ever used the silent treatment on others
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to get what you want?
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Emotional withholding,
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a form of emotional abuse that involves
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using affection, validation, love and praise,
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against someone is a form of emotional abuse
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that includes what you might know as
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the silent treatment.
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Although it's normal for any relationship
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to go through periods of silence,
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it may become abusive when you start to use it
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as a way to punish, control, or manipulate.
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Withholding affection or positive emotion
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through the silent treatment
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is a toxic way to gain
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the upper hand in any relationship.
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This also includes talking
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to everyone about the issue,
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except the other person involved
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or wanting the other person
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to feel bad or guilty.
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Do you relate to any of the signs mentioned here?
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If so, what do you plan to do next?
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Tell us in the comments below.
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