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  • Hey Psych2Go fans, and welcome back to another Psych2Go video!

  • In the beginning, obsession and love look a lot alike. But as your relationship grows,

  • obsession may rear its ugly head and tear your relationship apart.

  • So how can you tell with your partner or someone you're interested in, is truly in love or just obsessed with you?

  • Here are seven signs someone is obsessed with you, and it's not love:

  • 1: They HATE unanswered messages.

  • Whether you call, text, or video chat, it's normal for couples to communicate on a regular basis.

  • However, obsessive people want to monitor their partners 24/7.

  • For example, if a phone call goes to voicemail, an obsessive partner would immediately assume something is wrong.

  • If you don't respond within minutes, they'll get angry or accuse you of breaking their trust.

  • In a loving relationship, your partner should respect your time and trust you when they're not around.

  • On the other hand, when a relationship becomes obsessive,

  • your partner is only after one thing:

  • control.

  • 2: They're emotionally immature.

  • Is your partner emotionally mature?

  • According to a 2013 study by Ahmadi and others, obsession goes by another name:

  • "immature love."

  • Immature love is egocentric, unforgiving and irresponsible.

  • It stems from deep-rooted insecurities, which signify a general lack of trust.

  • Since love and emotional maturity are tightly woven together, many young relationships tow the line between love and obsession.

  • 3: They take without giving.

  • What are the core components of a loving relationship?

  • In a 1983 study, Curtis explains that there are four pieces of a healthy romantic relationship.

  • Two of those pieces are "giving" and "needing."

  • In other words, loving partners should give as much as they take and take as much as they give.

  • When either of these pieces falls out of place, love can quickly turn into an obsession.

  • That's why obsessive partners favor one or the other.

  • Some partners give constantly,

  • controlling you with pity and guilt.

  • Others take everything from you, almost like they own you.

  • Whether your partner is impossibly giving or incredibly demanding, your partner isn't loving you in a healthy way.

  • Love should be a balance, and should impact you and your partner equally.

  • 4: They romanticize the relationship.

  • Does your partner exaggerate your relationship?

  • Many obsessive partners crave a love that doesn't exist.

  • They want the kind of romance that exists in stories and fantasies,

  • so they romanticize their own relationships.

  • An obsessive partner may talk about marriage in the first month, or call you their soulmate after the first date.

  • If your partner doesn't see a relationship for what it really is, they may be more obsessive than loving.

  • 5: They control you with guilt.

  • Does your partner use guilt as a weapon?

  • Do they make you feel bad about spending time with friends or family?

  • Some partners take over your life.

  • They're only satisfied when they're the center of your attention.

  • But that isn't love.

  • Love is giving your partner their space to live their own lives, not restricting their choices.

  • If your partner controls you with guilt, you're not dealing with love; you're dealing with obsession.

  • 6: They're obsessed with status.

  • Is your partner obsessed with your reputation or status?

  • Sometimes, people fall in love with wealth, authority, or social power.

  • According to a 2006 study by Jordan and others, this condition is called "erotomania".

  • Erotomania creates a delusion that someone of higher status is in love with you.

  • This false belief begins an obsessive, usually one-sided, relationship,

  • which may last for years, even decades.

  • If your partner only cares about your status, they're not in love with you. They're obsessed.

  • And 7: They make false promises.

  • How often does your partner break their promises?

  • Does your partner swear they're gonna change, but never do?

  • If so, your partner may not be in love with you.

  • When you love someone, you make promises because you intend to keep them.

  • You're willing to sacrifice your time and effort to improve your partnership.

  • On the other hand, if your partner is obsessive, they don't want to improve anything.

  • They're only making promises to gain more control.

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  • Have you ever experienced obsessive love before?

  • Have you ever dated someone who became attached to you in an unhealthy way?

  • Tell us about your experiences in the comments section below.

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