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  • There comes a time in every girl's life when she wonders

  • What would I look like with bangs?

  • Yeah.

  • Be adventurous. Be spontaneous.

  • Just do it.

  • Just do it.

  • Just do it.

  • JUST DO IT!

  • Never cut your own bangs!

  • I learned this lesson

  • THREE times.

  • Lots of regrets you guys.

  • Don't do it. Just see a professional, phone a friend.

  • But anyway, I always have this moment.

  • *gasps* *non-diegetic twinkles*

  • Oh my gosh

  • Am I gorgeous?

  • Which is immediately followed by

  • *dramatic sound effects that increases in intensity*

  • Obviously these are very conflicting feelings and you might wonder

  • How could anyone possibly feel these two extremes back-to-back?

  • Well, I had the same question. So I did what any one of us would do

  • And I was surprised to find this gem of an article.

  • If you have time, you should read it because not only is it hilarious

  • but it felt like I was reading a play-by-play of what I had just gone through then

  • and my entire life

  • So I was like, oh wow, okay

  • Is this just like a normal phenomenon?

  • So I group texted a bunch of my friends to see if they sometimes felt this way and they all said

  • Oh totally

  • Goblin to supermodel All the time

  • My dysmorphia is usually fat and strange-looking to sexy badass

  • I can just hear my mom's voice in my head saying, "Girls like us are an acquired taste."

  • Oh, I have more I'm a mole person days than gorgeous days

  • I'm pretty horrible to myself

  • Why do we oscillate between these feelings? Why do we feel things?

  • And so I was just like relentlessly searching the internet

  • And I found one theory that proposed

  • Specifically for women, that I found super fascinating

  • Is that we are actually

  • More attractive when we're ovulating

  • Because of our hormones during this time, our faces and our voices will actually change

  • And reach peak attractiveness to the opposite sex when we are our most fertile.

  • So next time your friend gets hit on

  • *whispers* You're ovulating

  • What?

  • You are so fertile right now

  • What?

  • The men can sense that your estradiol levels are high

  • Or your progesterone levels are simultaneously low

  • Which is late in the follicular phase, near ovulation when fertility is highest.

  • What?

  • But I'm on hormonal birth control

  • Which means my body already thinks it's eggo is prego

  • So this explanation felt like it didn't apply to the swinging pendulum of perception of my own face

  • So after a lot of googling, I realized it can only be

  • Just part of the human experience

  • There's no salt for this.

  • Life is a rollercoaster.

  • Sometimes you look good. Sometimes you look terrible

  • Most times

  • Ya probably look fine.

  • Sorry John.

  • Our reflections are not objective, right?

  • We're seeing them through the lens of whatever our current mind state is

  • I'm a monster

  • Which fluctuates all the time

  • I'm an angel

  • So instead of indulging in either

  • The arrogance of beauty or the sadness of hideousness

  • I ask myself instead,

  • Hmm. What is going on internally that is making me feel this way?

  • And if I feel good, and therefore see myself as good, great!

  • And if I feel terrible and see myself as terrible,

  • Well, how can I emotionally adjust so that I'm not repulsed by my own reflection?

  • Puberty was not kind to me

  • I'm Anna Akana

  • You probably look fine.

  • Thank you to Audible for sponsoring today's episode

  • I am very excited to recommend an absolutely remarkable book today

  • So I read about 70 books a year

  • At least 12 of those are audiobooks

  • Sometimes more, depending on LA traffic and how often I'll face my overflowing laundry

  • But in 2018, my favorite book without a doubt was Hank Green's

  • 'An Absolutely Remarkable Thing'

  • It's somehow coming-of-age,

  • Sci-fi and accurately represents the moral struggles of being a digital personality

  • Plus the protagonist is bi

  • What more could you want?

  • You can go to audible.com/Anna or text Anna to 500-500 to start your free 30-day trial

  • And every month you get one credit, good for any audiobook of your choice, plus 2 Audible originals

  • Audible members also get access to audio fitness, health workouts and podcasts.

  • I personally am obsessed with Esther Perel's 'Where should we begin?'

  • She interviews real-life couples and its so fascinating and educational.

  • You can go to audible.com/Anna or text Anna to 500-500 to start your free trial today.

  • Audible. The most inspiring minds. The most compelling stories. The best place to listen

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