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I was on my way home one evening, quite late at night, on the bus,
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so I wasn't paying much attention to what was going on around me.
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Until I suddenly looked down
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and realised that the man sitting next to me had his hand on my leg.
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He moved his hand upwards and grabbed me in the crotch.
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Because I was on the phone to my mum, I said
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'I'm on the bus, this man just groped me.'
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And everybody on the bus heard me.
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And everybody looked away.
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Nobody stepped in. No-one challenged him.
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No-one even made eye contact with me.
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And it sent me such a powerful message.
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It felt like they were saying,
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"We don't want anything to do with this. This is your thing."
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It made me feel that I was at fault, that I'd done something wrong.
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I felt incredibly embarrassed and ashamed and confused,
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and I got off the bus at the next stop
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and walked the rest of the way home.
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Looking back, I wasn't the only person
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who got such a powerful message that night.
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So did the man who groped me.
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He got the message, "You can get away with this."
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It sent the message that this was just acceptable.
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We're so used to receiving the message from all around us
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all the time, that women and girls are sexual objects.
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That our bodies are public property
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and that we really are the sum of our individual parts.
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There are witchcraft cases from Europe 400 years ago
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where, for example, a woman was accused of witchcraft
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for giving a man a 'permanent erection'.
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The idea that men couldn't possibly be expected to control themselves
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is nothing new.
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But it's also something that's still really impacting people's lives,
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even today.
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Now were you able to wear undergarments?
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You're like the fifth person that's asked me that today.
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Well, no, because, is it inappropriate?
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-To ask somebody what kind of underpants they wear?
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-I didn't ask you what kind.
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You just asked me if I was wearing any.
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-Could you? -No, what do you wear underneath?
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What do you wear underneath something...
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Overalls.
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-Do you wear clothes?
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You wear dungarees. You can't wear clothes under it it's like a wetsuit.
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-Practically. -OK, so you answered my question.
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Well I don't know, maybe it's a little bit more than a wetsuit.
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Was I wearing underwear? I mean, gosh.
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I think the defensiveness here is really key.
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This idea that he is immediately reaching to say,
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"Well I haven't done anything wrong, you're overreacting."
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And that he kind of gets a little bit of support for that
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from her male co-star, and this is something that we see a lot of,
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that if women try to challenge this kind of thing, try to speak out,
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often there can be a closing of ranks
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in a sense of, "No, no, no, you don't get to be upset about this."
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In most British homes, parents clearly differentiate
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between their sons and daughters.
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But not in this north London household.
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Here they aim to bring up their children
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in what they call a non-sexist way.
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I think what's really sad watching this now
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is that it still feels a little bit revolutionary.
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Wouldn't be fair for all the girls to buy princesses
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and all the boys to buy superheroes.
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Why?
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Because girls want superheroes and the boys want superheroes.
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And the girls want pink stuff and the boys don't want pink stuff.
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-Yeah. -Yeah.
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She makes it sound so simple, doesn't she?
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How is it possible that this child gets it
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and yet every time a large retailer agrees to stop gendering its toys
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or its children's clothes as for boys or for girls,
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you'll see a backlash in the press?
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These kinds of stereotypes that are so insidious and so low-level,
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they are so often dismissed as not a big deal.
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In reality all we're saying is that kids should have the choice.
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That, just as she says, some girls might like princesses
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and some might like superheroes, but shouldn't they have the option?
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The reality is that fewer than one in ten of our engineers is female,
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and our Royal Society, one of our biggest scientific institutions,
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has never had a female president.
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So no, of course these things aren't the end of the world on their own,
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but do they contribute to a world in which girls are very, very gently
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and slowly told, "This isn't for you, this isn't for you"?
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Of course they do, and actually the end effect is quite extreme.
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Andy, Sam is the first US player to reach a major semi-final since 2009.
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How would you describe-- Male player.
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I beg your pardon?
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-Male player, right? -Yes.
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We are seeing an increasing number of male role models
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who are choosing to step in
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and just to mention this stuff when it happens.
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Not necessarily in a particularly aggressive or angry way,
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but simply just mentioning it so that that isn't allowed to stand.
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If you haven't experienced sexism yourself,
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like with other forms of prejudice,
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it becomes much easier to ignore
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and to deny the reality of its existence.
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It's easy to suggest that people are overreacting,
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that they must be making something up,
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because you haven't seen it.
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Essentially, the truth is that we can't change this
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as long as everybody just thinks it's normal.