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You know that moment when you watch a motivational video here on youtube.
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You feel like you are about to take over the world.
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Your energy level is over the roof, and you can imagine how you have achieved all of your
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goals.
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So you decide to put out the work!
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But 20 minutes later, you get distracted, and the same feeling of laziness and mediocrity
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comes back!
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That's why relying on getting motivated isn't a good idea.
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You have to set up your life in such a way that you might not get over-excited, but at
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least you will have have the will to put out the work most of the time.
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And Jordan Peterson's book does precisely that.
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He has outlined 12 rules that will help you to keep your life in order, but we are going
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to explore only 7 of them that I believe will truly keep you motivated and disciplined.
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1.
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My favorite one is: Make friends with people who want the best for you
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Remember, when you were a kid, every other kid in the neighborhood was your friend, you
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would play with each other every single day.
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You didn't have to call each other, you just go out and play with them, and if you can't
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make it, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
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It's the best kind of friendship; you could possibly have.
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But when you hit your 20s, you will be in touch with 5 or 6 at best of them.
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You don't play around every day, but you hung out every other week, maybe!
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However when you start getting closer to your 30s, you would wish to spend more time with
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friends, but with so many responsibilities and bills you have to pay, you don't always
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get the chance to see one or two of your best friends that you still talk to time to time.
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From one side, it seems like you are consciously choosing your friends, but in many ways, you
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do not.
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You were friends because you guys went to the same school or studied in the same class.
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Maybe it was your first day in college, and he was the first person you talked to, or
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you are friends because you are simply neighbors.
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So, you start talking to each other, and over time, it develops into a friendship.
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The problem is, they might not be the best people to be around, but they were the first
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you met.
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And as you grow elder, it gets challenging to make new friends, so you just stick around
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with them because it's comfortable.
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Your friends are going to have a massive influence on your life, so if they genuinely don't want
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the best for you.
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Envy and jealousy will be dragging you back!
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Remember, don't let time define your friendships.
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If someone brings negativity into life, don't be afraid to move on and make new friends,
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the world is filled with beautiful people who could make your life brighter!
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2.
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Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
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The other day, I was hanging out with friends, and one of the guys started talking about
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how billionaires are ruining the world.
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They are destroying jobs, mistreating their employees, creating horrible jobs, and damaging
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the environment and causing climate change out of greed.
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I am not going to try to defend anyone here, because in some ways that's true.
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The world isn't sunshine and rainbows, but the question should be, what are you trying
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to achieve with your criticism ?! It might make you feel good about yourself;
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however, you are also part of the problem.
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Aren't you driving your car, using all the services these giant corporations are offering?
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Well, how about you take a different path, instead of pointing fingers!
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Take care of your house first, of course, you can never be perfect, but you can try
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to change as many things as you can.
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Are you not happy with your paycheck?
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Well, are you working as hard as you should be in your career?
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Probably not!
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Have you taken full advantage of all of the opportunities you were offered?
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I think I know the answer!
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Are you having health issues?
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Well, Do you have habits that are destroying your health?
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A wise man once said: If each person would work hard on making himself a better person,
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then the world would automatically change for the better!
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3.
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compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
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We tend to compare ourselves with people who are better than us.
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You walk into the gym for the first time in your entire life and work out for three straight
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hours, doing bench press, dumbbell press, pushups, squats, deadlift and everything else
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but then another guy comes in and works out for half an hour and yet he is much more physically
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fit.
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It would be dumb to compare yourself to him.
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But we do that all the time!
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The question that you should be putting in front of you is, did I became physically better
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than yesterday?
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Am I a better person compare to yesterday, did I do anything meaningful today that made
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me a slightly better person.
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If the answer is No, then you should feel bad about yourself.
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Because you just wasted an entire day without making any progress or what so ever.
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There is nothing wrong with being financially less successful than your friend or physically
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less attractive than your neighbor.
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You are a unique individual; your circumstances are different; you are born to different parents
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in a different place with a different set of strengths.
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4.
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Stand up straight with your shoulders back
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In school, there is at least one kid who will get bullied because there is always the predator
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who is looking for his victim.
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That kid doesn't randomly get bullied; you don't want to intimidate someone who will
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fight back!
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So, when you are walking around, with your shoulder down, you give an image of a good
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little buy who can't even stand for himself.
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Even when you grow up, the image your portrait about yourself is going to have the most significant
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influence on how people are going to treat you!
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Just by standing straight with your shoulders back, you are sending a message that you will
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fight back if someone strikes.
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But it also means you understand and accept the terrible responsibility of life, with
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eyes wide open.
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People will assume that you are competent and able.
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That will only boost your confidence.
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Your conversations will flow better, with fewer awkward pauses.
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This will make you more likely to meet people, interact with them, and impress them.
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Doing so will not only genuinely increase the probability that good things will happen
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to you — but it will also make those good things feel better when they do happen.
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5.
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pursue what is meaningful
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When we chose what to do in life, we often give priority to what pays the bills.
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And I don't blame anyone for doing that.
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Especially if you have responsibilities on your shoulders.
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You have a mortgage, maybe kids!
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So no matter what you do out there in the office, as long as your family is taken care
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of, it doesn't matter!
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But what usually happens down the road is that, especially in the long run, you are
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going to feel empty inside, which leads to depression.
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And I am not even talking about doing what you love.
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Because that's a luxury and most people in life unfortunately never achieve that.
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And sometimes it's not also their fault; circumstances might force you to take a different path!
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Sometimes people just don't know what they want, what inspires them, or what makes them
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happy!
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But at least if you do what you believe is meaningful, you will have a sense of feeling
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that your life matters.
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That you are not merely living, but instead making the world slightly better.
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6.
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assume the person you are listening knows something you don't
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"You already know what you know, unless your life is perfect, what you know is not enough
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. Don't you get into trouble, conflicts?
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Aren't you time to time taking terrible decisions or just maybe failing.
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Are you happy with your financial situation or career!
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Are you depressed or anxious?
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You know why?!
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Because you are ignorant!
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I am not saying you are dumb, but There are still plenty of things you haven't figured
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out yet.
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And whoever you are talking to knows something you don't.
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Because he lived a completely different life, experienced many different things that you
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haven't, met people, you don't know.
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So instead of turning every conversation into an argument, always assume the person you
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are listening to knows something you don't.
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7. be precise in your speech
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Imagine waking up in pain, you are sick and maybe even dying slowly.
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"If you refuse to tell your doctor about your pain, then what you have is unspecified diseases,
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and you have to rely on doctor's skills to figure it out.
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The chances of you recovering are significantly lower.
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But if you talk to your doctor, all those possibly terrible diseases will turn into
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just one terrible disease or just disappear into nothing.
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Most of our problems are a result of miscommunication.
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How many families were torn apart because one or both of them weren't precise about
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what they didn't like about their relationship?
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How many times you start a dialog, and then it turns into an argument about something
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completely different.
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So, be careful with that you tell yourself and others, chose your words carefully, Organize
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those words into the correct sentences, and those sentences into the correct paragraphs.
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By applying these seven rules in your life, you will bring your life in order, and that
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will help you to stay focused and motivated to pursue your goals.
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I hope you guys have enjoyed this video and, most importantly, found it helpful.
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